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I have used cups for three months in a row. Personally i hated using pads due to many reasons, therefore switched to cups since many women were suggesting it. When i tried it for the first month it was easy . But the second month was relatively harder for the cup to open up! When i insert it it’s a bit painful too(concerns abt it. Is it normal?) and sometimes after insertion i have a mid range pain in the abdomen. I’m mainly struggling with inserting it properly and making sure it opens. I genuinely do not want to go back to period pad anymore since this is much more better for me pls help guys 😭

At around 10:30 pm, three heavily drunk men (aged 18, 21, 30) riding a bike that they had stolen spotted a postgrad girl with a boy in a car behind the Coimbatore Airport. Upon noticing this, the bastards threatened the pair to step out with an aruval (A Tamil word which means a large and long knife). Noticing danger, the boy tried speeding the car, while doing so. The men shattered the car's glass, and the boy was attacked and was made unconscious. The girl was then kidnapped to a different location where she was raped by the three. To make this even worse, three of the two men were BROTHERS!

When the boy was conscious, the girl was nowhere to be found. He immediately called the police for help. Soon, around 100 men were searching for her in the middle of the night. Finally, at around 4 am (nearly 6 hours), the girl manages to escape and wakes up people in the place she was for help.

This incident took place six months ago, and I wasn't aware till today. After some research and watching a few social media reactions, I was beyond disappointed. As a girl, it made me realise Indians are never going to stop blaming the victim.

Reading those comments and listening to the questions reporters ask made my blood boil. "Why were you outside after 8 pm?" "What were you doing with a guy at night?" "Why were u there with a guy there? "You got what you wanted, but with a different guys i dont understand what the problem is." "What was she wearing when it happened?"

The victim was accused of stepping out after 8 pm! Are we still in the 1980s? So many things have developed since then, but Wowan's safety remains uncertain. And instead of addressing the safety concern, we are here criminalising the victim! My question is, why the hell shouldn't she be outside after 8 PM? NO MOTHER FUCKER HAS THE RIGHT TO QUESTION HER! She can go wherever and whenever she wants, AND YOU SIMPLY DON'T HAVE A SAY IN IT. As per my knowledge, there's no law stating that a girl shouldn't step out after 8 pm. Are women your prisoners to rule them over? When you can roam around, why can't a woman? Why are we the only ones who should stay inside when you mfs can do absolutely anything?

I absolutely don't get why she shouldn't be with a guy. You don't even know how they are related. Whenever a girl and a guy are seen together, does that mean they are a couple? Where is this rotten mentality coming from? Even if it were her boyfriend, how is it even related here? It's their b,oth right!!! They can be in a relationship with whoever they want. SHE IS OKAY WITH IT. WHAT'S THE SOCIETY'S ISSUE THEN? Even if they were going to have sex, they had each other's consent!!! How is that sooo hard for indians to understand? The concept of consent is as simple as it can be. At this point, even a newborn would understand, but not fully grown individuals.

The boy was then accused of several allegations. Tell me what he did wrong other than try his best to protect her? He fought with everything he could, even if he was being threatened with a knife. After being conscious, he didn't run away, did he? HE STAYED!!! I don't know how much more I can stress upon this HE STAYED!! Most of his age would've run away to avoid troubled but HE STAYED. But what's the outcome? He is now being falsely accused. I seriously don't understand the issue with people. How could they forget about those who raped her and come barging at the guy who did everything he could have done, everything in his power!

Why is a girl's dress a bigger issue than three grown adults raping? Instead of helping the victim get the justice she deserves, people seem more occupied with criticising her character. She hasn't broken any rules, so why is she being questioned? The victim and everyone involved with her will already be going through so much mentally; instead of supporting them through this, society is only pushing them through a pit. Before posting anything like this, try to think from the victim's point of view. How would she feel when she goes through all this?

I have lost all hope in this country. Being born as a girl is a curse that will forever haunt you throughout your life. No matter how many decades have passed, this scum doesn't seem to leave indian people's mindset.

At around 10:30 pm, three heavily drunk men (aged 18, 21, 30) riding a bike that they had stolen spotted a postgrad girl with a boy in a car behind the Coimbatore Airport. Upon noticing this, the bastards threatened the pair to step out with an aruval (A Tamil word which means a large and long knife). Noticing danger, the boy tried speeding the car, while doing so. The men shattered the car's glass, and the boy was attacked and was made unconscious. The girl was then kidnapped to a different location where she was raped by the three. To make this even worse, three of the two men were BROTHERS!

When the boy was conscious, the girl was nowhere to be found. He immediately called the police for help. Soon, around 100 men were searching for her in the middle of the night. Finally, at around 4 am (nearly 6 hours), the girl manages to escape and wakes up people in the place she was for help.

This incident took place six months ago, and I wasn't aware till today. After some research and watching a few social media reactions, I was beyond disappointed. As a girl, it made me realise Indians are never going to stop blaming the victim.

Reading those comments and listening to the questions reporters ask made my blood boil. "Why were you outside after 8 pm?" "What were you doing with a guy at night?" "Why were u there with a guy there? "You got what you wanted, but with a different guys i dont understand what the problem is." "What was she wearing when it happened?"

The victim was accused of stepping out after 8 pm! Are we still in the 1980s? So many things have developed since then, but Wowan's safety remains uncertain. And instead of addressing the safety concern, we are here criminalising the victim! My question is, why the hell shouldn't she be outside after 8 PM? NO MOTHER FUCKER HAS THE RIGHT TO QUESTION HER! She can go wherever and whenever she wants, AND YOU SIMPLY DON'T HAVE A SAY IN IT. As per my knowledge, there's no law stating that a girl shouldn't step out after 8 pm. Are women your prisoners to rule them over? When you can roam around, why can't a woman? Why are we the only ones who should stay inside when you mfs can do absolutely anything?

I absolutely don't get why she shouldn't be with a guy. You don't even know how they are related. Whenever a girl and a guy are seen together, does that mean they are a couple? Where is this rotten mentality coming from? Even if it were her boyfriend, how is it even related here? It's their b,oth right!!! They can be in a relationship with whoever they want. SHE IS OKAY WITH IT. WHAT'S THE SOCIETY'S ISSUE THEN? Even if they were going to have sex, they had each other's consent!!! How is that sooo hard for indians to understand? The concept of consent is as simple as it can be. At this point, even a newborn would understand, but not fully grown individuals.

The boy was then accused of several allegations. Tell me what he did wrong other than try his best to protect her? He fought with everything he could, even if he was being threatened with a knife. After being conscious, he didn't run away, did he? HE STAYED!!! I don't know how much more I can stress upon this HE STAYED!! Most of his age would've run away to avoid troubled but HE STAYED. But what's the outcome? He is now being falsely accused. I seriously don't understand the issue with people. How could they forget about those who raped her and come barging at the guy who did everything he could have done, everything in his power!

Why is a girl's dress a bigger issue than three grown adults raping? Instead of helping the victim get the justice she deserves, people seem more occupied with criticising her character. She hasn't broken any rules, so why is she being questioned? The victim and everyone involved with her will already be going through so much mentally; instead of supporting them through this, society is only pushing them through a pit. Before posting anything like this, try to think from the victim's point of view. How would she feel when she goes through all this?

I have lost all hope in this country. Being born as a girl is a curse that will forever haunt you throughout your life. No matter how many decades have passed, this scum doesn't seem to leave indian people's mindset.

At around 10:30 pm, three heavily drunk men (aged 18, 21, 30) riding a bike that they had stolen spotted a postgrad girl with a boy in a car behind the Coimbatore Airport. Upon noticing this, the bastards threatened the pair to step out with an aruval (A Tamil word which means a large and long knife). Noticing danger, the boy tried speeding the car, while doing so. The men shattered the car's glass, and the boy was attacked and was made unconscious. The girl was then kidnapped to a different location where she was raped by the three. To make this even worse, three of the two men were BROTHERS!

When the boy was conscious, the girl was nowhere to be found. He immediately called the police for help. Soon, around 100 men were searching for her in the middle of the night. Finally, at around 4 am (nearly 6 hours), the girl manages to escape and wakes up people in the place she was for help.

This incident took place six months ago, and I wasn't aware till today. After some research and watching a few social media reactions, I was beyond disappointed. As a girl, it made me realise Indians are never going to stop blaming the victim.

Reading those comments and listening to the questions reporters ask made my blood boil. "Why were you outside after 8 pm?" "What were you doing with a guy at night?" "Why were u there with a guy there? "You got what you wanted, but with a different guys i dont understand what the problem is." "What was she wearing when it happened?"

The victim was accused of stepping out after 8 pm! Are we still in the 1980s? So many things have developed since then, but Wowan's safety remains uncertain. And instead of addressing the safety concern, we are here criminalising the victim! My question is, why the hell shouldn't she be outside after 8 PM? NO MOTHER FUCKER HAS THE RIGHT TO QUESTION HER! She can go wherever and whenever she wants, AND YOU SIMPLY DON'T HAVE A SAY IN IT. As per my knowledge, there's no law stating that a girl shouldn't step out after 8 pm. Are women your prisoners to rule them over? When you can roam around, why can't a woman? Why are we the only ones who should stay inside when you mfs can do absolutely anything?

I absolutely don't get why she shouldn't be with a guy. You don't even know how they are related. Whenever a girl and a guy are seen together, does that mean they are a couple? Where is this rotten mentality coming from? Even if it were her boyfriend, how is it even related here? It's their b,oth right!!! They can be in a relationship with whoever they want. SHE IS OKAY WITH IT. WHAT'S THE SOCIETY'S ISSUE THEN? Even if they were going to have sex, they had each other's consent!!! How is that sooo hard for indians to understand? The concept of consent is as simple as it can be. At this point, even a newborn would understand, but not fully grown individuals.

The boy was then accused of several allegations. Tell me what he did wrong other than try his best to protect her? He fought with everything he could, even if he was being threatened with a knife. After being conscious, he didn't run away, did he? HE STAYED!!! I don't know how much more I can stress upon this HE STAYED!! Most of his age would've run away to avoid troubled but HE STAYED. But what's the outcome? He is now being falsely accused. I seriously don't understand the issue with people. How could they forget about those who raped her and come barging at the guy who did everything he could have done, everything in his power!

Why is a girl's dress a bigger issue than three grown adults raping? Instead of helping the victim get the justice she deserves, people seem more occupied with criticising her character. She hasn't broken any rules, so why is she being questioned? The victim and everyone involved with her will already be going through so much mentally; instead of supporting them through this, society is only pushing them through a pit. Before posting anything like this, try to think from the victim's point of view. How would she feel when she goes through all this?

I have lost all hope in this country. Being born as a girl is a curse that will forever haunt you throughout your life. No matter how many decades have passed, this scum doesn't seem to leave indian people's mindset.

At around 10:30 pm, three heavily drunk men (aged 18, 21, 30) riding a bike that they had stolen spotted a postgrad girl with a boy in a car behind the Coimbatore Airport. Upon noticing this, the bastards threatened the pair to step out with an aruval (A Tamil word which means a large and long knife). Noticing danger, the boy tried speeding the car, while doing so. The men shattered the car's glass, and the boy was attacked and was made unconscious. The girl was then kidnapped to a different location where she was raped by the three. To make this even worse, three of the two men were BROTHERS!

When the boy was conscious, the girl was nowhere to be found. He immediately called the police for help. Soon, around 100 men were searching for her in the middle of the night. Finally, at around 4 am (nearly 6 hours), the girl manages to escape and wakes up people in the place she was for help.

This incident took place six months ago, and I wasn't aware till today. After some research and watching a few social media reactions, I was beyond disappointed. As a girl, it made me realise Indians are never going to stop blaming the victim.

Reading those comments and listening to the questions reporters ask made my blood boil. "Why were you outside after 8 pm?" "What were you doing with a guy at night?" "Why were u there with a guy there? "You got what you wanted, but with a different guys i dont understand what the problem is." "What was she wearing when it happened?"

The victim was accused of stepping out after 8 pm! Are we still in the 1980s? So many things have developed since then, but Wowan's safety remains uncertain. And instead of addressing the safety concern, we are here criminalising the victim! My question is, why the hell shouldn't she be outside after 8 PM? NO MOTHER FUCKER HAS THE RIGHT TO QUESTION HER! She can go wherever and whenever she wants, AND YOU SIMPLY DON'T HAVE A SAY IN IT. As per my knowledge, there's no law stating that a girl shouldn't step out after 8 pm. Are women your prisoners to rule them over? When you can roam around, why can't a woman? Why are we the only ones who should stay inside when you mfs can do absolutely anything?

I absolutely don't get why she shouldn't be with a guy. You don't even know how they are related. Whenever a girl and a guy are seen together, does that mean they are a couple? Where is this rotten mentality coming from? Even if it were her boyfriend, how is it even related here? It's their b,oth right!!! They can be in a relationship with whoever they want. SHE IS OKAY WITH IT. WHAT'S THE SOCIETY'S ISSUE THEN? Even if they were going to have sex, they had each other's consent!!! How is that sooo hard for indians to understand? The concept of consent is as simple as it can be. At this point, even a newborn would understand, but not fully grown individuals.

The boy was then accused of several allegations. Tell me what he did wrong other than try his best to protect her? He fought with everything he could, even if he was being threatened with a knife. After being conscious, he didn't run away, did he? HE STAYED!!! I don't know how much more I can stress upon this HE STAYED!! Most of his age would've run away to avoid troubled but HE STAYED. But what's the outcome? He is now being falsely accused. I seriously don't understand the issue with people. How could they forget about those who raped her and come barging at the guy who did everything he could have done, everything in his power!

Why is a girl's dress a bigger issue than three grown adults raping? Instead of helping the victim get the justice she deserves, people seem more occupied with criticising her character. She hasn't broken any rules, so why is she being questioned? The victim and everyone involved with her will already be going through so much mentally; instead of supporting them through this, society is only pushing them through a pit. Before posting anything like this, try to think from the victim's point of view. How would she feel when she goes through all this?

I have lost all hope in this country. Being born as a girl is a curse that will forever haunt you throughout your life. No matter how many decades have passed, this scum doesn't seem to leave indian people's mindset.

NOTE: Kindly note that this post is very longer than the usual huge posts, but something that every women can relate to. Even if you don’t have the time to read this now I would genuinely ask all the Men and Women to save this and read this whenever they have the time. I’ve put up my life trauma’s into this post, so hoping it truly brings atleast a little impact in this patriarchal country.

I was 7 years old, when there used to a gang of guys who were older than me. Me and my brother used to play with these guys. A few months pass by and we start playing in my house. One guy who was 2 years younger than me made me play “mommy game”. For those who don’t know a girl acts like a mother, In most cases it ends there. For me that guy made me act like a pregnant lady and he would take up the role of the husband. It was all clean for a few day and then slowly he started touching me in inappropriate places, then that turned into removing my clothes in my balcony. This went on for a while. A few weeks later despite begging this guy not to tell anyone he tells the entire gang about this stupid game. Instead of ratting us to the elders like i thought they would, these guys went along with him and started playing this so called “doctor” game with me. This playful game soon turned into blackmailing. After some point these guys would demand me to show them my vulva. They would force me saying they’ll tell my parents everything. This goes on and on. One day two of those come up and demands me to show them my vulva. After i do it after being blackmailed for the nth time i do surrender once more. Then one guy was basically teaching the other one on how to penetrate. Mind you they were 11 and 12. When the 11yo one wasn’t able to do anything the other guy goes saying (Not like that bro, I’ll teach you). Then he put his penis on my clitoris, he slid his foreskin into my clitoris. I felt something very different then which i still can’t name. On another day another guy aged 13 me and my brother were playing something else, and suddenly when no elders were around anymore he blackmailed me and told me to remove my pants, after doing so, he called my little brother in and told him to put his penis into my butt, HE WAS FREAKING 4 at that time!! Then when my brother did nothing he got up and did something. Soon we were never in touch again.

I was just 7 at that time, and these guys were atleast 11, my question is how the society teach a kid that doing this to a child was fair? How does a 11 year kid even know about sex in the first place? How could parents of a male child be very hesitant to talk about something as simply as bad touch at the age of 11??? How evil should they be to be back mailing at such a young age?

But when this gets to people’s ears the questions above won’t appear first, but it’ll be why do you play with guys? And then what? That girl won’t be sent out for the rest of her childhood! Thats how Indian systems work. I haven’t opened up about this particular incident(s) with anyone EVER, and the reason? The one and only reason being JUDGEMENT. I would be labelled the filthy one if it reaches the society’s ears.

It might seem like a silly thing to many that happened during my childhood, but no one can believe the depth of it other than women(that too not everyone). Till date I keep debating whether I’m truly a virgin or not. It’s not only because I’m afraid my future partner is going to judge me, but i don’t know the answer to that either, how messed up is that? Don’t get me started with my brother doing something like that to me. There’s not been a single night where i don’t cry about this. When he was a bit older, he asked me “remember the game we used to play with the boys?” I had to lie to him that it was all a dream just so he wouldn’t remember all that, deep down i still fear that he knows everything. There’s a possibility that my virginity is lost, but you know what hurts the most? I cry myself out everyday fearing my brother still knows, it’s something that will forever haunt me.

When I finally thought it was all over, the following year year my cousin brother (24 years old at that time who grew up with me as a brother who my parents brought up from when he was in highschool) started touching me bad. One day he came and i had asked him for his phone to watch “5-minutes craft” he said if i let him kiss him in the lips for 10 mins he’ll let me watch a video for 10 mins. I told him no and he started rubbing my lips and made me feel very scared that i had no other way than say yes to his demands. He kissed me for 10mins as horrible as it is. When he gave me his mobile for the video, he kept touching me inside my dress, when he was rubbing my vulva and nipples. I didn’t know what it all meant but i was uncomfortable and kept asking him to stop BUT HE DID NOT!! This kept happening after a point whenever i see him and when there’s no one around he started touching me at some point i was scared to stay alone with him.

Soon he stopped as he realised i was growing up. It took me exactly 3 more years to understand everything that has happened and the depth of it with my cousin brother and the guys. I felt sick for days, felt dirty and felt like garbage for months. Finally one day I told his older brother whatever that has happened because i trust him and iam really close with him, he listened consoled me for a while and had a talk with him separately

The same day I tell my mother. She tells me that she suspected it and asked me not to tell my father because it would “break the family”. My cousin comes the next day and guilt trips me saying he never did something like that and that i was spoiling his name for nothing… i now know he was lying but my 13 year old me felt guilt and doubted myself for a few days. I don’t know what he said to my mother and his brother but my mother doesnt act like he did something like that to me. Once, we had to go to the airport and there a short of seats and my own mother asks me to come with him in his bike. There has been many incidents where she lets me with him in temples to go to shops and etc. Once my parents weren’t home and my father asked him to stay with me and my brother overnight as our “protection” when i told my mother that her reply was “all thats okay close your door when u go to sleep” and me and his brother don’t talk about it anymore. I sometimes regret ever saying this to his brother fearing it affects our relationship

It the end it looks like i was the attention seeking teenager who put a falls claim on my cousin to seek attention. It all seems like no one believes me not even my own mother!!! He still comes by every once in a while and hangs out with my family like he’s the biggest saint alive and it irritates me to the core, but what can i do? i cant even express my anger because he’s family!! The same one who stole my FIRST KISS WHICH WAS SUPPOSED TO BE MEMORABLE FOR ME!!!!!!! how could that monster be my family????? How could i ever think of him as my family????

I just can’t hold everything anymore, i have the urge to expose him to my entire family but i hesitate to do that because that what society has become… A place in which women can’t say things out load. I’ve met with other misbehaving moments but this is just too hard. I hate myself at 16 for something i never did, and I keep overthinking how my future relations are. All these incidents has affected me a lot. To the point where i flinch everytime a guy touches me. I WAS AFRAID OF MY OWN FATHER HUGGING ME FOR 2 YEAR CAN YOU BELIEVE? Yea even if you don’t thats the truth.

One thing I do to prevent this is teach my brother how to treat girls the right way. But i don’t see many boy mom’s doing that. They sushhh then whenever they have doubts about periods. What is sooo wrong with your son knowing menstrual cycle ji? Would he turn into a girl if he knew so. It’s a never ending rant when i start talking about Indian films sexualising women. Change isnt something that can be bought instantly… you’ll have to educate the coming generations to avoid them turning the same monster who once later a finger upon you…

Everyone gathers around for major rape cases giving speeches about justice… but little do they know they played a part in it as well? People fight for it when it’s huge but what did you do when a girl in your house came up to you when she was misbehaved? You were quite making sure no one knew… and that is how bigger culprits are formed