I’m 5’4 and 19 and average looking at best and dating apps don’t seem to work for me, but I hope I’m not locked out of dating and relationships. What other things should I do or avenues I should pursue to try to find a girlfriend?
I for one, though I am young right now, do want a family someday. The problem is, in this new modern hellscape of dating, I’m not sure I’ll be able to find a woman that’ll take me, given my shorter height and being an average dude and not exceptional.
I guess my question is, is this a wider trend, or is it just me. Is there a sizable chunk of men out there who genuinely want kids and to help birth the next generation, but can’t find women to do so with.
Many studies have pointed to that men gain more from being in a relationship than women do, meaning that single women are happier by themselves than single men. You see it in media too, the depiction of a single woman is often one that has the traits of independence and as someone who doesn’t take shit from anyone. Meanwhile, the single man is often portrayed as a loser, the virgin, the guy nobody wants.
I believe that the difference in happiness between single men and women comes mostly from one thing, choice. The single woman is choosing to be single, but she could load up a dating app and at least have sex, if not more, at the flick of her wrist. The man on the other hand, in this day and age, has very little leverage if he is not a top percentage guy. He is not choosing singleness, he is stuck in it from scarcity and lack of options. Of course the gender that has a choice in the matter is going to be happier than the one that doesn’t.
Now, some will argue the other difference between the genders is that women often keep a broader network of friends and family, and are able to meet their emotional needs that way, while men often have a very small network of people to depend on for emotional needs, and it often fall completely on their partner. Now, while I do believe that is a part of the issue, I think it’s a smaller part than the lack of choice. I also believe that if every man magically had that network of deep friends, but still had the scarcity and was forcibly kept out of romantic relationships and sex, he would still feel worse, which shows the the lack of choice is a bigger part of it that the lack of the emotional network.
Anyway, that’s just my two cents, I’d love to hear what you people out there think.