u/Mango_Surf

I had sepsis almost two years ago now.
I was healthy, although I was 7 months postpartum from my second child and sleep deprived + breast feeding at the time so not sure if that contributed.

They assumed it was toxic shock syndrome. Liver and kidney failure. I was ‘the sickest person in the hospital’ and if I had waited longer could easily have died.

I was in the ICU for a few days then a week in hospital. At the time I felt like I was never going to get better, I didn’t want my catheter out because I didn’t think I could walk a metre to the toilet. This could have been the come down from ketamine they gave me.

But then I was out and about a week later doing almost everything normally. Peeling skin and shedding hair but fairly normal.

Last year I felt like I almost had a mental/emotional snap with my husband during a disagreement. It went on for a couple of weeks. Close to divorce. And we’ve had a hard year since.

I wonder how much emotional dysregulation, poor sleep (although I’ve always had bad sleep), fatigue and brain fog can be attributed to post sepsis.

I had a new person come to the house so he acted out for attention I guess. I tried to prepare him by telling him about it, letting him know he can show her around, and he could get something nice after she left if he made good choices.
Well he spent the whole time running around and yelling. Ok. But then he started throwing balls, toys , fruits, anything he could get his hands on constantly at me and his 2 year old brothers heads.

I am trying to have a conversation with someone but what am I supposed to do? It started out by saying gentle hands. We don’t throw etc. what do you do in that situation? He isn’t really attached to any toys that can be a consequence or something he loses when he acts out.

After she left he continued hitting me and slapping me. He purposefully wees his pants when he’s in this mood. Because I told him he wouldn’t be getting the lolly or a sticker on his chart. The advice seems to be to remove myself from the situation and go to my room and tell him he isn’t being safe?

But he will hurt the dog/cat/ destroy things in the house. I have my two year old to deal with as well. He picks up a chair and throws it at me

Our two year old was previously a good sleeper. Could put him down, kiss, walk out and in a few minutes he’d be asleep and sleep through the night.
For almost two months now that isn’t the case (nothing changed in his/our life at this time that caused the change that we can tell).
It’s difficult to get him to sleep- have to hold his hand/lay with him for up to an hour until he Is asleep enough we can sneak out. And he wakes up multiple times throughout the night, screaming and crying until a parent lays with him.
He tells us to “stay” and has started saying “scary”. He has the same night light that he always has so it’s not completely dark.
He has shared a room with his four year old brother for a long time now too, that hasn’t changed. He’s seemingly not comforted by his brother being there, it has to be a parent with him.

He delays bedtime as much as he can , and getting him to lay down in his bed in the first place is a huge challenge. He gets up and out constantly. We end up saying we won’t stay with him if he won’t lay down a few times, tears ensue, until he eventually lays down. I worry though this feeds into the anxiety he has about being left ‘alone’ (without a parent) in the night. However I don’t have another solution to get him to lay down and stay down.

The room is very small and there’s not much space between the two single beds for an adult to lay down on the hard floor. The only option is to lay on the single bed with him which is difficult, uncomfortable and makes it hard to leave him without him noticing.

Any advice or tips would be appreciated.

His speech is quite good. It has been assessed as average/ on track previously but since then he has come leaps and bounds so I would put him at average to high speech for his age. His comprehension is great as well.

He is good at repeating words you ask him to, including new ones. He will at least try them even if he can’t get it completely correct.

But never in his life ever has he said “yes”. He nods his head always as his “yes”. If you ask him to repeat the word he will just nod. We ask him to use his mouth and he just shows us a big mouth.
His comprehension is very good, he understands everything. Just has never ever said the word before.
Is this common?