He came back but he SUCKS!
He broke up with me. I respected his decision.
For months, I’ve done everything correctly. I did SATs and put myself first. I was living in the end. In a happy, healthy and committed relationship where I was chosen.
Then it hit me: I was micromanaging the bridge because I wanted him to reach out and apologise first. That meant I was still in the old story and giving his avoidant and childish self power. If we were in a loving relationship, you wouldn’t care who reached out first, right? And of course I wouldn’t be waiting for an apology
So I gave him the benefit of doubt and reached out to him first. You would not believe this but I instantly got paragraphs (big ones that I never got when we were together), instant quick responses (that I also never received) and flirting too. Even when my message to him was casual and neutral at best, plus I took days to respond.
However, he mentioned that a 3P dumped him, and that dating is hard. It was pure jealousy bait, and I know it because in the past he’d do the same to get my attention (which I always responded with calmness and security. Not jealousy or competitiveness).
Honestly this was not what I expected. I wanted a warm reunion where he opened up and was vulnerable to me. I wanted commitment and understanding.
All I got was honestly the worst version of himself. I wonder what went wrong in the manifestation. Yes I got so much attention from him, he’s chasing me and he’s reflecting my high self concept of never having to lift a finger again for love. But he only went on to jealousy bait then immediately flirt with me when I responded that I was also seeing someone else (which I am, and he’s hotter than SP).
What’s going on?