u/Massive_Lack5365

I hope this is the right sub for this question.

I have been getting samsung galaxies since the 5. I am up for an upgrade and recently i have been seriously considering iphone and admittedly the clever marketing with the new data tracking commercials is really making me question. Is iPhone privacy really so much better? And why should i care?

Im not necessarily saying i dont care but rather i dont know what i dont know. Ignorance is bliss. The only way i could see this impacting my life is i have ADHD and impulse buying is something i struggle with. So when my phone shows me an ad for something i was literally just talking about with my husband i sometimes order when i didnt really need to.

Does that really not happen on iphone? Or am i falling for clever marketing? I appreciate input so much. It will help me make a decision.

I have lived in monmouth county for a year now and some of these houses absolutely blow my mind. I am from rural Indiana so I truly have never seen anything like it. It makes me genuinely curious. What do yall do for work?

What do your beginnings look like? Wealthy family? Humble start?

I see some of these houses and I cannot even wrap my mind around it.

Even normal houses, how are yall affording to live here? We normally buy each time we move (military) but decided this time we just couldnt afford it.

Recently our kids bedtime routine was getting a bit out of hand. Its summer, theyre older, but they got to where they would stay up all night and sleep all day.

We decided it was time to reel it in and bedtime at least for a while is 11. Super reasonable for a 13 yr old in the summer.

For context I usually fall asleep with my toddler and baby between 830 and 10. We aim for 830 but life happens. My exact words to my older kids were "you have 1 week to show you can go to bed on your own at 11 and if not you will go to bed when I am putting the babies to bed"

Second night into this new rule we got home late around 930. The oldest two started on the dishes while i got the littles laid down. They werent able to finish the job (they didnt start until about 10) and my 12 yr old said to the 13 yr old "ill finish these myself in the morning I dont want to miss the bedtime mom set."

(Yes that is a long time to spend on dishes and still not be done but i dont complain about how long they take just if theyre not fully clean when put away.)

More context my husband (his father) is away for work as of yesterday morning and not home till next week. My growing boy tends to test moms authority without dad around.

I wake up to a note from my 13 yr old saying he stayed up until 230 am cleaning. He clearly did clean. Everything was pretty tidy, floors swept, toys picked up, counters clear.. but the dishes were still left. I havent talked to him yet. I do not want to be ungrateful but if he were genuine wouldnt he have finished the dishes being it was the **only** chore i **had** asked to be done before i went to put babies down?

He definitely did not do a typical persons 4 hrs worth of cleaning but hes always been super slow at literally anything he does. He struggles with ADHD but also was likely watching TV while cleaning or listening to music and constantly stopping to pick the perfect song?

Basically I am 100% certain he used "i wanted to surprise you with a clean house" as an excuse to do what he wanted... but how do I approach this without throwing a wet towel on any desire to help me again?

Is my 13 yr old son gaslighting me?

Recently our kids bedtime routine was getting a bit out of hand. Its summer, theyre older, but they got to where they would stay up all night and sleep all day.

We decided it was time to reel it in and bedtime at least for a while is 11. Super reasonable for a 13 yr old in the summer.

For context I usually fall asleep with my toddler and baby between 830 and 10. We aim for 830 but life happens. My exact words to my older kids were "you have 1 week to show you can go to bed on your own at 11 and if not you will go to bed when I am putting the babies to bed"

Second night into this new rule we got home late around 930. The oldest two started on the dishes while i got the littles laid down. They werent able to finish the job (they didnt start until about 10) and my 12 yr old said to the 13 yr old "ill finish these myself in the morning I dont want to miss the bedtime mom set."

(Yes that is a long time to spend on dishes and still not be done but i dont complain about how long they take just if theyre not fully clean when put away.)

More context my husband (his father) is away for work as of yesterday morning and not home till next week. My growing boy tends to test moms authority without dad around.

I wake up to a note from my 13 yr old saying he stayed up until 230 am cleaning. He clearly did clean. Everything was pretty tidy, floors swept, toys picked up, counters clear.. but the dishes were still left. I havent talked to him yet. I do not want to be ungrateful but if he were genuine wouldnt he have finished the dishes being it was the **only** chore i **had** asked to be done before i went to put babies down?

He definitely did not do a typical persons 4 hrs worth of cleaning but hes always been super slow at literally anything he does. He struggles with ADHD but also was likely watching TV while cleaning or listening to music and constantly stopping to pick the perfect song?

Basically I am 100% certain he used "i wanted to surprise you with a clean house" as an excuse to do what he wanted... but how do I approach this without throwing a wet towel on any desire to help me again?

Is my 13 yr old son gaslighting me?

Recently our kids bedtime routine was getting a bit out of hand. Its summer, theyre older, but they got to where they would stay up all night and sleep all day.

We decided it was time to reel it in and bedtime at least for a while is 11. Super reasonable for a 13 yr old in the summer.

For context I usually fall asleep with my toddler and baby between 830 and 10. We aim for 830 but life happens. My exact words to my older kids were "you have 1 week to show you can go to bed on your own at 11 and if not you will go to bed when I am putting the babies to bed"

Second night into this new rule we got home late around 930. The oldest two started on the dishes while i got the littles laid down. They werent able to finish the job (they didnt start until about 10) and my 12 yr old said to the 13 yr old "ill finish these myself in the morning I dont want to miss the bedtime mom set."

(Yes that is a long time to spend on dishes and still not be done but i dont complain about how long they take just if theyre not fully clean when put away.)

More context my husband (his father) is away for work as of yesterday morning and not home till next week. My growing boy tends to test moms authority without dad around.

I wake up to a note from my 13 yr old saying he stayed up until 230 am cleaning. He clearly did clean. Everything was pretty tidy, floors swept, toys picked up, counters clear.. but the dishes were still left. I havent talked to him yet. I do not want to be ungrateful but if he were genuine wouldnt he have finished the dishes being it was the **only** chore i **had** asked to be done before i went to put babies down?

He definitely did not do a typical persons 4 hrs worth of cleaning but hes always been super slow at literally anything he does. He struggles with ADHD but also was likely watching TV while cleaning or listening to music and constantly stopping to pick the perfect song?

Basically I am 100% certain he used "i wanted to surprise you with a clean house" as an excuse to do what he wanted... but how do I approach this without throwing a wet towel on any desire to help me again?