u/Master-Fudge-8825

(i have another groomer) he's in his 30s or something and he's SOOO mean, sometimes he disappears and then comes back, and im too scared to block him, i need convincing please

im stupid and care more about my interests, i don't want my groomer to start liking the things I like, mameshiba is getting popular and i've been a fan for a year or two now, and before it got popular, i tried talking about it with them, they didn't care or liked it, but NOWWW that its popular, i bet they're going to start liking it, im so so so angry, how do i avoid this

im friends with my groomer's best friend now, should i tell them about my groomer?, i already did this with another person they were friends with, they stopped being friends with my groomer, and im scared they arent going to believe me, or should i not do it because my groomer already feels bad enough, i'll add more details if needed

im still "friends" or whatever with my groomer, im 14 and they're 21, they're so annoying, they're so fake and performative, they made fun of me for being a furry and heavily relating to dogs but now wants to be a puppy, they're exactly the "drinking matcha and listening to beabadoobee" type of person, me and them are both autistic but they made fun of me for being obsessed with the things i like, they said they understand me since im autistic but they clearly dont, and they said they like dinosaurs but dont like whenever i talk about my other favorite extinct animals, them and their friends made fun of me for liking a kids game, they never defended me whenever their friends would be mean to me, they like to think they're crazy but they're so basic and annoying, they always act like im stupid and dont know anything, whenever they're talking in their servers, they always say "i love chubby girls!!" but dont like me because im actually chubby, and they had a friend i really related to but they were always annoyed by that person because they would get annoyed and frustrated like i do, im always annoyed and frustrated by them, and they always act so different if we're in a groupchat with their friends which i guess, you dont want your friends to know you want to abuse a 14 year old, and im so pissed, why is it always different whenever it comes to me,one time i've asked them if they're a hebephile because they're talking to me and another 16 year old in a sexual matter and they said "dont talk about that, it makes me uncomfortable, i will block you if you mention it again" and its so annoying, i want to know why they think this, UPDATE, I TOLD MY FRIEND WHO WAS FRIENDS WITH MY GROOMER AND THEY'RE NOT FRIENDS ANYMORE

so, when i was younger, i remember being at my grandma's house, i dont remember how old i was or what year it was, i was watching youtube on my mom's phone, we usually watched it together and we would watch scary videos, when my mom was busy and had to leave the room, i accidentally went back and saw a thumbnail of a skinless?bloody?corpse, i cant remember if it was skinless or just bloody but it was in a ball pit??and i remember it was sitting face at the camera, and i remember McDonalds being related somehow, i dont remember if i was eating it or it was in the thumbnail

im 14f, theres a high chance my mom is a creep, the first time it happened, i was younger, maybe five or older?i dont remember, but anyways, i was pretending to be asleep, my mom was drunk, i remember feeling my mom hump against me, same thing happened again but in October of 2025, but this time i was actually asleep, she was really drunk, i woke up to her humping me and rubbing her knee between my legs, i was too scared to say or do anything so i fell back asleep, and in march this year, again, she was drunk, she kept trying to kiss me while the cops were arriving, but the reason why i dont feel valid is because i was clothed in all of these incidents, no penetration was involved, i have nightmares about what happened and i have flashbacks but what if im being dramatic??

so, im 14 f and my friend is also 14, so this happened in late november of 2025, early in the same month, i finally realized that i was being groomed because of what a pervert said to me, so later that same month, i told my friend and explained why i was so aggressive in middle of that year(for more added context, i would act out aggressively), and i when i told them it was because i was being groomed by older people online, they didnt care at all, they were acting silly and said to me "i miss who you used to be" so for more context, when i was being groomed and for a while after that, i would act overly sexual because i thought it was normal, non of my friends or family noticed because yk, i was a teenager, all teenagers are horny, so anyways, of course i was deeply hurt by what my friend said and i started acting clearly upset and freaked out completely so i got really mad at them and ignored their messages for weeks, i know they're 14 and dont understand how BAD grooming is but it still hurts me,i was recovering really well until they said that to me, it felt like no one cared about what happened to me and i should just act normal, and it upsets me even more that my girlfriend is friends with them, i never told my girlfriend about what happened but still