NMIP
Hey there!
Honestly, I have no idea which colours suit me, I can't tell.
I just know that I dont like very warm or neon colours, so i don't own any of those colours.
I would like to know which season I am.
Thank you in advance!
NMIP
Everyone I have asked they always keep going from deep winter to deep autumn to soft autumn to soft summer. I'm really confused. I just want colors that make my dark circles less prominent and will make me look less washed out or grayish. I often look sick or tired, even well im well rested, I look like I have a green, yellowish cast. And I really don't like that.
First picture is outside and second is indoors both natural light, cloudy-ish day.
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I (26F) work as a waitress and bartender *in one of the most busiest rooftops in my city, in Belgium. Not a flex* Today we had a plumbing issue, so our customer toilet was completely out of service. *My assistant manager doesn't want costumer to use the staff toilets because it is next to our merchandise and the place where we store the money. I don’t make the rules I'm just a replaceable worker.*
A customer asked one of my coworkers *who was cleaning glasses* what was happening, *because he needed to use the bathroom*. My coworker explained that the toilet wasn't working because of the plumbing problem.
I was nearby collecting glasses from the terrace and overheard the conversation. *I brought the glasses to my colleague. So I had to stand just next to the client, I added, "I'm really sorry, but unfortunately there's nothing we can do about it." *I felt it was natural do so because I was standing right next to this client. It was almost closing I saw how exhausted my colleague was tired from the long shift we had and quite fed up from speaking to this client. Thats why I felt like I need to say something. Honestly If i was in my colleages place I would have liked one of my colleages to say something. So I dont come over as the shitty bartender that doesn't want people to pee in peace.*
The customer then joked, "So what am I supposed to do, pee in my pants?" He was a bit drunk, but he didn't seem aggressive. *I didnt take it badly. Didn't think he wanted to offend me.* I replied, "I'm really sorry, but there's nothing we can do." I wasn't trying to be sarcastic or rude. I was just apologising and explaining the situation. *Because I genuinely thought that it's a shitty situations. The guy had so many beers he just wanted to pee. And we should be able to provide that.*
Afterwards, my assistant manager (AM) told me I shouldn't have said anything because my coworker was already handling the conversation. He said I was wrong for intervening and that I had spoken rudely to the customer.
I disagreed, respectfully, because I genuinely didn't think I was rude. I simply apologised and explained the situation, but I didn't insult or disrespect the customer.
He became quite upset that I disagreed with him. He said that if someone had spoken to him the way I supposedly spoke to the customer, he would have replied, "I'll pee in your face then," and that he would have been justified in saying that. *I was really embarrassed when he said that he also was quite loud, so I just ended apologising to my colleage and AM.*
Afterwards, I asked the coworker who was speaking with the customer whether I had come across as rude. He seemed confused and said no. In his opinion, my response was completely normal. *My colleage said theres no need to apologise to him. That he didnt think I did anything wrong to him or the customer That the customer was drunk and wasn't understanding that we can't do nothing about it. My colleage is really nice and understanding, maybe he did felt undermined but he wouldnt say that.*
Now I'm second-guessing myself. I know I was tired because I have worked around 35 hours this week so far and wasn't feeling well, so maybe my tone came across differently than I realised. *No its not a flex, nobody is forcing me to work fulltime. I work since 2019 in Horeca it's nothing new. Just I'm not a robot, I get tired after a 10 hours shift.*
*And also once we knew we couldn't fix it right away we didnt let anyone go back in. Just the customers who were already there were allowed to stay. We were going to close 1 hour later anyways.*
AITA for responding to the customer when my coworker was already handling the conversation?
(Some little adjustments, so you guys understand better were I'm coming from and context.)
I (26F) work as a waitress and bartender in one of the most busiest rooftops in my city, in Belgium. Not a flex Today we had a plumbing issue, so our customer toilet was completely out of service. My assistant manager doesn't want costumer to use the staff toilets because it is next to our merchandise and the place where we store the money. I don’t make the rules I'm just a replaceable worker.
A customer asked one of my coworkers who was cleaning glasses what was happening, because he needed to use the bathroom. My coworker explained that the toilet wasn't working because of the plumbing problem.
I was nearby collecting glasses from the terrace and overheard the conversation. *I brought the glasses to my colleague. So I had to stand just next to the client, I added, "I'm really sorry, but unfortunately there's nothing we can do about it." I felt it was natural do so because I was standing right next to this client. It was almost closing I saw how exhausted my colleague was tired from the long shift we had and quite fed up from speaking to this client. Thats why I felt like I need to say something. Honestly If i was in my colleages place I would have liked one of my colleages to say something. So I dont come over as the shitty bartender that doesn't want people to pee in peace.
The customer then joked, "So what am I supposed to do, pee in my pants?" He was a bit drunk, but he didn't seem aggressive. I didnt take it badly. Didn't think he wanted to offend me. I replied, "I'm really sorry, but there's nothing we can do." I wasn't trying to be sarcastic or rude. I was just apologising and explaining the situation. Because I genuinely thought that it's a shitty situations. The guy had so many beers he just wanted to pee. And we should be able to provide that.
Afterwards, my assistant manager (AM) told me I shouldn't have said anything because my coworker was already handling the conversation. He said I was wrong for intervening and that I had spoken rudely to the customer.
I disagreed, respectfully, because I genuinely didn't think I was rude. I simply apologised and explained the situation, but I didn't insult or disrespect the customer.
He became quite upset that I disagreed with him. He said that if someone had spoken to him the way I supposedly spoke to the customer, he would have replied, "I'll pee in your face then," and that he would have been justified in saying that. I was really embarrassed when he said that he also was quite loud, so I just ended apologising to my colleage and AM.
Afterwards, I asked the coworker who was speaking with the customer whether I had come across as rude. He seemed confused and said no. In his opinion, my response was completely normal. My colleage said theres no need to apologise to him. That he didnt think I did anything wrong to him or the customer That the customer was drunk and wasn't understanding that we can't do nothing about it. My colleage is really nice and understanding, maybe he did felt undermined but he wouldnt say that.
Now I'm second-guessing myself. I know I was tired because I have worked around 35 hours this week so far and wasn't feeling well, so maybe my tone came across differently than I realised. No its not a flex, nobody is forcing me to work fulltime. I work since 2019 in Horeca it's nothing new. Just I'm not a robot, I get tired after a 10 hours shift.
And also once we knew we couldn't fix it right away we didnt let anyone go back in. Just the customers who were already there were allowed to stay. We were going to close 1 hour later anyways.
AITA for responding to the customer when my coworker was already handling the conversation?