u/Matty_Vas

Hello cyber friends!
I started a role in April as a SOC Analyst, transitioning from an IT Ops Engineer role. I trained with the SOC for about 6 months before this transition matured.

Everyone in my team has 10+ years of experience, masters, certs, etc.
I have a bachelors, 3 years of IT experience and a few certs.

I have always been classified as a top performer and want advice from anyone who could give good input on how to successfully integrate myself to the team and become valuable.

What are SOC managers looking for? What are good projects I can start for my team?
What would you want out of your teammate when working in a SOC?
Thanks!

Hello friends!
My roommate (23M) and I (23M) have been living together for about 8 months now, and we have been friends since 3rd grade.
We’ve had an argument about how often my girlfriend sleeps over, which he brought up in a very immature way. Pretty much, he demanded she start paying rent because she “practically lives here” and blew up about a ton of stuff he did not previously communicate with me about.

I told him we could be reasonable adults about preferences and ground rules, so I told him she would only be over 3x per week max, our lights off time is 11pm, and no being loud on weeknights. We also agreed that if he had grievances, he could communicate them like an adult and come to me about it.

Everything was fine for a few months since we were holding up our agreement. Everything changed after my graduation last week though.

I was decorating my graduation cap with my girlfriend on a Thursday night (my roommate and I both work remote on fridays, so we tend to stay up later) in the living room. We weren’t being obnoxious, I was just decorating my cap from 9pm to about 11pm. Keep in mind, he was on speakerphone with his buddies through this entire time, we could clearly hear him and his conversation. As soon as he hung up his phone, I respected the lights out and went to sleep.

I woke up to a text from him saying “why is your pornstar girlfriend back to living here again??” She hasn’t been over more than 3x per week since we previously talked about this btw. This was also an extremely out-of-pocket name to call her because he heard a comment I made about her past during a private conversation. ( she had some old nudes of her from when she was 19 floating around the internet). I told him what he heard was private and that he wasn’t to bring it up, as it would make her very uncomfortable.

I immediately told him that was not okay and to never refer to my girlfriend that way again. He just replied with “I will”.

I told him that was a private comment he heard and that it was extremely disrespectful to attack her. He just responded with “maybe you should be careful saying things around me about your dirty little life, I can’t know things, you know this.”

Then, he went on a rant about how I was doing “chores” at night time and how I’m so loud, and that chores aren’t a nighttime activity. I literally explained to him before I decorated my cap that I was going to be doing so in the living room because my graduation was the next day.

He has been doing coke with his frat buddies nearly every weekend and tumbling home at 2-3am. So, I’m not sure if that’s the cause of his irritability. But, I cannot stand to live with him anymore after the way he’s acting, especially because I have gone out of my way to be a good roommate and friend to him. I clean drastically more than he does, have done his chores for him
when he’s busy or can’t, wash his dishes, etc.

I will also note that he had a 2 month period where he was hooking up with the same girl 2-3x a week. I said absolutely nothing about this, did not complain about his noise level, and was just relieved that he seemed happy for a bit. I even let him borrow my car each time he went to go pick her up. But, as soon as she moved back home, he went back to being extremely irritated anytime my girlfriend was over, despite us being in my room 90% of the time.

Has anyone dealt with roommates like this? I tried the calm and gentle approach on our previous argument, but the comment he made about my girlfriend and the way he’s been handling it made me cut him off as a friend. Now, I just ignore his existence. Any time he’s in the apartment, I just ignore him or anything he has to say.