u/Mavgreyxx

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So my father is an addict, and ive been no-contact with him for about 6 years, last time we had any meaningful conversation was 4 years ago. I am 23 currently.

Through family grape vines, ive heard that he has gone through recovery and is doing well for himself. There is so much trauma and hurt ive been through because of his addiction, especially during my formative teen years. I have his new phone number through chance luck, but I am scared that reaching out also means uncorking years of pain and hurt that I am worried I haven't given myself time to process fully.

I know the rationality behind all of his narcissistic actions was rooted firmly in his addiction, but part of me still wants to be angry and upset. But I am also uncertain if certain actions are moreso him being genuinely a terrible person that i should keep at 10 miles away minimum or if it was just the drugs.

I think I could get really great support from Nar-Anon, but I don't know how welcome I would be in a circle of people trying to support their loved ones while I haven't even talked to my father in years.

Tbis has been really gnawing at me, and i just feel completely lost on what to do.

So im taking COMM 140 for SS2, which starts Monday, im literally moving into the dorm tomorrow, and I have yet to see my schedule say anytbing but "TBD" for the location, and the professor hasn't even reached out about the course or the syllabus.

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Is this standard practice or am I left to go crazy? It would be really cool if they gave me some information to go off of that isnt just the time.