u/Mean_Attempt_524

My girlfriend and I are currently having a really hard time due to a mix of distance, changing circumstances, and my own mental state. We are supposed to celebrate our anniversary on July 29th, but we recently decided to take a "cool-off" period to give each other some time and space to think. There's no blame on either side; we are just stuck in a tough situation

She lives about 19km away from me. It takes about 3 hours round-trip to see her—sometimes 4 hours if traffic is brutal—but I have always gladly made the effort to travel and see her. My mom already knows and likes her. However, a new logistical roadblock came up: her mom suddenly got much stricter and won't let her go out alone anymore. Because her mom doesn't know me yet (though some of her aunts and uncles do), we can't really go on dates right now.

Honestly, I am struggling to understand what's happening to myself lately. I feel incredibly burnt out. It’s not a burnout on the relationship, but just a general exhaustion with life. I’m starting college later this year but don't have classes yet, so logistically, this should be the perfect time to spend more time with her. Instead, I find myself unable to message her properly or talk to her the way I used to. I don't even have the energy to play online games anymore; I just don't have the motivation to do anything.

She has expressed that she needs more communication and attention right now, which is completely valid. But because of this exhaustion, I just can't find the capacity to give it. I still love her deeply, I am just tired of everything around me.

We aren't talking right now. Before the break, she told me that her door will always be open for me, and I told her the same. But looking ahead, I know I am going to get incredibly busy once college actually starts. I'm worried that if we force ourselves through this rut without fixing the root issues, things might get worse.

We love each other, but we are facing a tough mix of her needing more attention, me having zero energy to give, and our physical ability to see each other being cut down. How should we handle this cool-off period? How do you manage a relationship when one partner is dealing with severe, life-related burnout?

TL;DR My girlfriend and I are on a "cool-off" right before our anniversary. Between a 3-to-4-hour round-trip distance, her mom suddenly getting stricter about her going out, and my own severe general burnout (losing interest in everything, struggling to text back), we are stuck. I still love her, but with college starting soon, I'm worried things will get worse.

My girlfriend and I are currently having a really hard time due to a mix of distance, changing circumstances, and my own mental state. We are supposed to celebrate our anniversary on July 29th, but we recently decided to take a "cool-off" period to give each other some time and space to think. There's no blame on either side; we are just stuck in a tough situation

She lives about 19km away from me. It takes about 3 hours round-trip to see her—sometimes 4 hours if traffic is brutal—but I have always gladly made the effort to travel and see her. My mom already knows and likes her. However, a new logistical roadblock came up: her mom suddenly got much stricter and won't let her go out alone anymore. Because her mom doesn't know me yet (though some of her aunts and uncles do), we can't really go on dates right now.

Honestly, I am struggling to understand what's happening to myself lately. I feel incredibly burnt out. It’s not a burnout on the relationship, but just a general exhaustion with life. I’m starting college later this year but don't have classes yet, so logistically, this should be the perfect time to spend more time with her. Instead, I find myself unable to message her properly or talk to her the way I used to. I don't even have the energy to play online games anymore; I just don't have the motivation to do anything.

She has expressed that she needs more communication and attention right now, which is completely valid. But because of this exhaustion, I just can't find the capacity to give it. I still love her deeply, I am just tired of everything around me.

We aren't talking right now. Before the break, she told me that her door will always be open for me, and I told her the same. But looking ahead, I know I am going to get incredibly busy once college actually starts. I'm worried that if we force ourselves through this rut without fixing the root issues, things might get worse.

We love each other, but we are facing a tough mix of her needing more attention, me having zero energy to give, and our physical ability to see each other being cut down. How should we handle this cool-off period? How do you manage a relationship when one partner is dealing with severe, life-related burnout?

Kaya "unexplainable" kasi I don't really know wtf happened earlier. Ang iba sabi nila napasukan ng masamang spirit or mental illness. Sana after this story masagot niyo kung ano ba talaga coz I'm still blank.

Around 3pm, nagbabantay ako ng tindahan tas biglang yung kapitbahay namin tumatakbo papunta sa tindahan hinahanap si lola pero wala kasi ako nga yung bantay and nasa bahay si lola pero tinawag niya narin ako siguro kasi wala talagang katao-tao sa labas since anong oras palang. Sabi niya bigla raw nawala sa sarili yung asawa nung isa pa naming babae na kapitbahay. Sinakal niya raw yung asawa niya pati batang lalaki nilang anak. Tabing bahay lang naman kaya okay lang na iwan ko sandali yung tindahan, wala naman masyado nabili sa tanghali. Pag silip ko sa pintuan andun yung guy, naka-upo, looks calm pero yung mata niya nakakatakot talaga. Hinintay ko muna yung tinawag nilang lalaki kasi hindi pwedeng ako lang mag-isa pumasok don, I can fight naman pero not someone who strangled his wife and son. Pagpasok namin triny nung kasama ko buksan yung window kasi ang init sa loob pero sabi nung lalaki "Huwag, masyadong naliwanag, nakakasilaw" not exact pero parang ganyan. Ayaw niya ng ilaw edi binuksan nalang namin electric fan tapos sabi niya "Huwag, nilalamig ako" like bro? ano gusto mo gawin namin ang init sa bahay niyo. Pinatay nalang namin kasi baka kung ano pa mangyari. Lumabas na muna kami kasi ang init talaga pero nasa pintuan parin kami, hindi namin pwede iwan don kasama wife niya. BTW hindi rin nagpapahawak yung lalaki kasi nga dadalhin namin siya sa baranggay or kahit sa HOA office lang muna. Habang nasa pintuan kami nag-oobserve lang kami sa kaniya. he's still calm pero yung mata niya, grabe talaga. Habang nakatitig siya sa pader, he's murmuring about religion stuffs. Hindi rin namin maintindihan kasi para siyang nagdadasal or something. After a few minutes dumating yung baranggay pero hindi siya dinala idk why. Kanina bago ako umuwi, dumaan ako ron. he's still murmuring while staring on something.

So ayun, sana okay na ngayon. Actually that guy is kind, pag bumibili siya sa tindahan namin naka ngiti siya palagi parang tropa na nga kami non. Tsaka fav ko siyang bumibili ng mineral water kasi siya yung nagsasalin, sa iba kasi gusto ako pa. Siya pa nga kinuha namin na service nung graduation ko kasi may car naman siya kasi ride-hailing ang work niya. Pero simula last week daw nung na-invite siya sa isang church, kung ano anong religious stuff daw ang sinasabi niya.(Hindi ko na sasabihin kung ano kaya kayo na bahala) sabi naman nung isang ad1k dito sa'min na kilala ko minsan nakikita niya raw yon sa street kung saan maraming dealer ng shabs. Alam ko may mga drivers talaga na ganyan para hindi antukin sa byahe pero sa kaniya kasi hindi mo makikita yung demeanor ng ad1k. So probably not drug related. Ayun lang siguro for now, I'll prolly update you guys if something happens pa. If y'all have any questions, I'll try to answer it.

Ask ko lang sana sa mga nakapanood ng live, ginamit ba ni shehyee yung issue ni slock na nagpapakalat ng scandal? alam ko marami nakakaalam non and sa pagkaka-alala ko may sinabi ata si shehyee nung sumabog yung issue "hindi mo na nga dapat ginawa, ipinagmamalaki mo pa" or something na ganon. Nung lumabas na kasi yung poster nag message ako kay shehyee about sa angle na yon (sipsip e no HAHA siya gusto ko mag champion e). Hindi siya nagreply sa message ko pero nag seen siya. Gusto ko lang malaman kung ginamit niya ba or hindi, kasi kung oo panigurado makati sa balat yon lalo siya magsasabi. Kainan nga nila bagsik ginago lang e.

Simula 2 weeks ago binabalikan ko mga old battles na hindi ko pa napapanood or gusto ko lang panoorin ulit. So naisipan ko why not gawin ko rin sa local rap music, nauumay narin kasi ako sa international mainstream shids. Dati kasi hindi ko trip sa mga album kasi maikli attention span ko pero ngayon trip ko na long form vids kahit outside hiphop. Pinapakinggan ko lang yung mga sikat na kanta kesa mag dive pa ako sa mga albums nila, tamad talaga ako HAHA.

So ayun, Sinimulan ko sa mga artists na alam ko na yung music nila pero yung mga sikat lang at hindi ko pa pinapakinggan other music/album nila. Sila loonie, Ron Henley, Sun valley crew, stick figgaz, Gloc9, etc.

Sumunod naman mga Death threat, ghetto dogs, Mastaplann, Urbanflow, Legit misfitz, Chinese mafia, and BB clan. Basta kung ano lang lumabas sa spoti recommendations, After ko makinig sa BB clan paulit ulit nalang yung lumalabas sa recommendations. Buti naalala ko yung Pamilya Dimagiba kaso isang track lang nasa spoti nila. Sa YT ko nalang ba talaga mahahanap songs nila? solid kasi lalo yung "kapa at espada" tsaka "halo halo". (tuloy ko nalang siguro maghanap pa sa YT tas gawan ko playlist) Medyo hassle nga lang kasi wala sa spoti.

Huling papakinggan ko siguro mga uprising stuffs kasi madami sila. Emar(napakinggan ko half ng latest album niya), apoc(master swordsman lang alam ko), blkd(kolateral album palang napakinggan ko), plazma(half ng "ang ulan at ang delubyo" napakinggan ko na), kjah, batas, etc. Nasa huli sila hindi lang siguro dahil madami sila and feel ko magiging "save the best for last" ito dahil sa lyricism nila.

So ayun aside sa mga sinabi ko rito, recommend pa kayo OG rap groups/rappers kasi for sure marami pa ako namiss na solid bumps. Open to any stuffs mapa lyrical or gangsta shit basta local. Palawakin niyo pa sana playlist ko, salamat🙏

isa sa pinakahihintay kong battle na mareview ni batas. Gusto ko makita ano reaction niya sa rounds ni lukas especially round 2.

Hellooo, hindi po ba talaga agad nakikita sa student portal yung amount to be payed na may bawas na po? Sinabi naman po sa'kin don na may discount sa tuition kasi with honors ako. Si mama kasi tinatanong bakit ganon parin balance ko like hindi pa nasama yung discount. May kailangan pa po ba ako gawin or mag wait lang po ako? Thankss

I'm from bulacan talaga and i know naman pa'no pumunta sa monumento. Pero pag papunta UE, hindi. I need specific directions po since hindi ko pa masyado alam mga name ng places don and paturo narin po pa'no naman papuntang monumento😭😭. Thankss.

Hello, guyss! I js wanna ask if there is still a chance to get a scholarship even if my parent’s monthly income is higher than the required limit. For example, if the limit is 15k but my parent earns more than that, is it still possible to be considered?

I was surprised when I saw my mom’s contract because we don't really talk about money, but I needed the documents for an application. The salary looks good on paper, yes but my mom is a solo parent and she is the only one supporting me and my sibling. We live in a shared household but yk si mama lang gumagastos para sa education namin.

I’m worried people might say "you can afford it anyway" but we aren't rich and i js wanna help my mom with the expenses.

Does anyone here have experience with this? Will they still consider my application? Thank you!