u/Megarae9

My (33F) fiancé (40M) and I welcomed a baby girl recently. He stayed away from alcohol the entire pregnancy and took his addiction seriously. Since she’s been born, there are some things going on with her health and it’s been hard. She is better now, and now that she’s okay he has started drinking again. He says he drinks to “unwind” and “relax”. Every now and then, he drinks alone in the mornings and is drunk by noon. He becomes a different person when he drinks: justifies the alcohol use, mean, difficult to talk too. He will get so drunk he can’t stand up straight or hold a conversation.

I have reached out to his two best friends, they are concerned and plan on speaking to him soon. He is hesitant to talk to a professional. He tried therapy a couple times in the past but didn’t like it. He turns to his faith in times of trouble, but he refuses to attend his church’s men’s support group.

I don’t know what I can do to help him if he doesn’t accept he has an addiction that requires professional help. I know I don’t want my daughter to grow up around this, but it would break my heart to cancel the wedding and split apart.

I sincerely don’t know what to do. I want to support him on a journey to sobriety. But I don’t know how long to give him before my daughter and I leave.

Thank you in advance for even reading this. I’m so sad. I just want him to be okay.

Edited for typo

My daughter is 4 weeks old. She doesn’t have CF but she has primary hypoaldosteronism and needs to take liquid sodium chloride twice daily. Of course she hates it: screams, cries, vomits. Any tips for keeping it down? We’ve tried adding half an ounce of formula but we’ve also been told not to add it to a bottle.

Basically what the title says. My mom wasn’t really a “parental” figure in my life, she was physically present but mentally and emotionally absent. My dad is the one who raised me.

Now that I’m pregnant, she’s coming out of the woodwork. But she’s making my pregnancy all about her. If she asks me how I’m doing or asks a question about the baby, she makes the conversation about her and how great her pregnancy was compared to mine. For example, I have pelvic pain and migraines. She says she didn’t experience those things so she shut me down and then kept talking about how great her own pregnancy was. I’ve pointed out that different people have different experiences, but she acts like she can’t hear me.

She’s also somehow convinced herself that this is her baby, and that she’s going to be in charge of the baby all the time, and she needs an entire nursery at her house. You always hear stories about delusional MILs, but in this case, my mom is the one that’s delusional.

Anyone else experiencing this?