u/Merlot96

I just found out I’m pregnant this week and one of my first thoughts was that I didn’t lose as much weight as I wanted to before becoming pregnant. My weight isn’t posing a health risk, I’m active and eat balanced meals (except salt and vinegar chips lately lol), but I just can’t feel happy because I already have a belly. I have a PCOS body and I’m so afraid I won’t get the cute bump like other women get. My breasts are already saggy and face is already round so I’m afraid I’m gonna look awful by the time I’ve given birth. And I’m worried that everyone is going to judge me for being fat and pregnant. I should be happy but I feel awful about myself, and guilty that I feel this way!

Please tell me I’m not alone and it gets better. Or maybe I’m just spiraling 😢

I’m 5 1/2 weeks with my first and this is the worst fatigue of my life. I feel like I’m constantly hungover, especially with the daily headaches. I’ve been doing research and some people recommend going for walks but I probably get my daily steps in just going pee so many times! Am I doing something wrong if I don’t go on walks?

I'm undergoing surgery in a week and recovery will be about 2 weeks. I live with my partner who is taking a few days off to help me but they have a demanding job and cannot be home full time for the rest of my recovery. I'm responsible for taking care of the home and our pets, so these chores are going to be very difficult. I have no family around to help.

My mother lives in another state and despite having a close relationship, she has not offered help at all. In fact, she didn't even seem concerned that I was in the emergency room twice, didn't ask if it was critical, didn't ask if I'd like her there, nothing. She says she doesn't have money to travel but sends me crap from Amazon, likely to feel good about herself. We've even offered for her plane ticket or to pay for gas if she'd rather drive and she refused by saying she has no time off from work, which I know is a lie, she is simply afraid of traveling. Is it selfish of me to want her here? This is my first serious medical issue and all I want is for my mom to be here for me and she can't even do that.

These feelings run deep because she neglected me throughout my life (not having me in school, no dentist or doctor appointments, not buying me hygienic products, etc.) and I'm seriously considering going no contact because this feels like the final straw in our relationship.

- Went to ER due to abdominal pain coming in waves, waking me up at night crying. found out I have several cysts and one giant cyst on my ovaries, no bursting, no torsions. Given an anti-inflammatory and sent home.

- Excruciating pain a day later, couldn’t stand without vomiting, light-headedness. Went back to ER, was told my giant cyst is so big that it can’t rupture and the OBGYN will likely schedule a surgery, but the ER said it’s not urgent enough to schedule one that night since there isn’t a torsion. Sent me home with pain meds this time and better pain management advice

- Went to OBGYN appointment that was scheduled for the next day. Brushed off completely, gave me the same pain management advice as the ER and scheduled another ultrasound FIVE WEEKS OUT. I made a point of saying I can’t even stand long enough to do basic things. My husband works 12-14 hours a day and can only help so much. All they said was “Hopefully the Tylenol and ibuprofen help.”

This is my first time experiencing an ovarian cyst and I’m having to navigate this on my own as I live in a new state and don’t have any help. I feel so lost and need advice. Was I not believed because I wasn’t in pain during the visit? The pain comes in waves, but even when I’m okay there’s still pressure in my abdomen and back.

I need advice, please. Do I look for a second opinion?

- Went to ER due to abdominal pain coming in waves, waking me up at night crying. found out I have several cysts and one giant cyst on my ovaries, no bursting, no torsions. Given an anti-inflammatory and sent home.

- Excruciating pain a day later, couldn’t stand without vomiting, light-headedness. Went back to ER, was told my giant cyst is so big that it can’t rupture and the OBGYN will likely schedule a surgery, but the ER said it’s not urgent enough to schedule one that night since there isn’t a torsion. Sent me home with pain meds this time and better pain management advice

- Went to OBGYN appointment that was scheduled for the next day. Brushed off completely, gave me the same pain management advice as the ER and scheduled another ultrasound FIVE WEEKS OUT. I made a point of saying I can’t even stand long enough to do basic things. My husband works 12-14 hours a day and can only help so much. All they said was “Hopefully the Tylenol and ibuprofen help.”

This is my first time experiencing an ovarian cyst and I’m having to navigate this on my own as I live in a new state and don’t have any help. I feel so lost and need advice. Was I not believed because I wasn’t in pain during the visit? The pain comes in waves, but even when I’m okay there’s still pressure in my abdomen and back.

I need advice, please. Do I look for a second opinion?