Is it strange to anyone else that people ask Reddit the questions they should be asking their partner?
This is absolutely NOT a criticism. I’ve seen a trend in the past year or so on many social media platforms where people come to the internet to ask strangers what’s normal or how things should be. I find the exact same response coming to mind every time I see this… it should reflect what’s right for you and your partner.
The amount of contact, the frequency, type of sex, amount of sex, communication habits… if it doesn’t work for you, it doesn’t matter if it works for someone else.
It seems there’s a misconception that talking around what you really need to say (if you perceive it to have potentially negative consequences) if best so you don’t hurt your partner’s feelings. I find in all of my relationships that the more honest I am, the more direct (in a respectful, considerate, loving way) and vulnerable, better the quality of the connection.
I know that a big part of why I experience such deep, authentic love is because I am willing to be authentic and vulnerable even when I’m scared. (This is only done with a few safe people in my life. I am not recommending this approach across the board.)
Have the conversation, say the hard thing, take the risk of really being known… it might be the thing that changes your entire life in the most amazing way.