Just curious if anyone does not like to make a big deal about their birthday. I know many people love to get birthday messages on Facebook, but I feel very uncomfortable making my birthday a big thing. I think deep down it feels like I don’t think people will remember and that it’s not important. I wonder if this comes from childhood. Anyone have insight?
I have been on poor mans contrave for over 6 months. I love that my food noise is way down. But struggling with the weight-loss. Has anyone added anything to this medication to help with losing the weight? I’m not ready to give up on this medication—not dealing with food noise is so damn liberating. I am in my 40s to my metabolism has slowed down and getting the weight off has not been easy. :(
Has anyone taken the Nurx 3-in-1 pill?
Where my Q is at now—does not drink during the week. I can spot the signs if he has been drinking. However, he is going on more business trips and I have no doubt he is drinking. How much? I have no clue. Most of his drinking is now in social events where I am not present—my choice.
I have noticed him trying for almost a year. But this is where I am stuck. He has never admitted to having a problem with drinking too much. So I can’t tell if he “cut back” because I am watching him, or because he sees it as a problem too. So do you expect your Q to admit to you he has a drinking problem? Or is seeing change more important? I feel like I need him to admit it to me so we can move forward. Am I looking at this the right way or is this his personal journey and he doesn’t owe me that?
For those of you who have decided to stay with your Q either short term or the foreseeable future, how do you navigate life with them? I know leaving is easier said than done. I’m not talking about staying with a Q who is physically or emotionally abusive. But for those who have decided to stay, how do you navigate life if you have “checked out?” Is that even possible?
I know in the world of addiction, there is no “cutting back” or only doing x,y,z on the weekends or social events. If you take your addiction seriously, you don’t go anywhere near your drug of choice.
Does anyone have a “Q” who has cut back in how much they drink and that is seen as a positive? I’m only asking because that is my situation. I know my Q sees this as his way of showing me he can control his drinking. It’s very hard when some of your Q’s closer friends drink—a few probably alcoholics themselves. So I’m sure he thinks he is being unjustly accused of drinking too much. I’m curious if anyone else’s Q can turn on/off their drinking making the idea of being an addict harder for them to accept. He has cut back his drinking but in social setting when I am not present, I have no doubt he is letting loose. He sees his drinking as something I am concerned about, not him. So because he has never really been honest with himself, there is no way he can address it as a problem.