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Anyone suffered from bullying from medical school. I have completed medical school now but 1st year of medical school was traumatising. Looking back at it I was very badly bullied by one of my coursemates and supposed friend at the time and by several members of my pbl group.

I have no diagnosis of autism but was called made fun off and called autistic all the time. I was constantly mocked by people I had only know for a few months. I ended up really falling out with the main perpertrator who was actually my friend intially and lived in my flat. After christmas break where I ended up being very depressed I decided to cut her off.

It led to very awkward pbl groups and my relationships with the entire group soured. My relationship eventually recovered with the rest of the group after a few years but with the main perpertrator things never recovered.

I became very depressed during the first three years medical school this had knock on effects on other areas of my life and other friendships I had.

My parents had always placed being a doctor on a massive pedestal like being a doctor is close to being god. I didnt know many doctors growing up so imagine my suprise when I went to university and was treated worse than I was in secondary school.

I had a casual fwb sort of relationship with a guy met on a dating app approximately two years ago. Our relationship started from the get go as completely sexual. We were having sex pretty regularly but then I started to want more from the relationship and when he said he didnt want anything more I called things off. I then changed my mind reached out to him which he ignored me for a few months and then he eventually agreed and we slept together again. He then ghosted again after we slept togther for months. He messaged me in late 2025 out of the blue and i responded hi how r u back and then he never replied eventhough he intiated the text. I then messaged in 2026 and reached out saying I missed seeing him and wanted to have sex with him and he replied. He asked if I wanted to spend the weekend with him in a hotel. We ended up meeting up and had sex numerous times over the weekend. He would be affectionate in terms of physical touch whilst initiating sex and would hug me and kiss me. But the issue was afterwards I would still cuddle him or stroke his back but he wouldnt respond to his and go on his phone. We ended up spending time outside the bedroom for the first time and went for dinner and he spent half of it on his phone. I could kind of tell he was gonna ghost because he was being cold and he was like that before. And no surprises he has ghosted again. I sent him a few messages. He hasnt contacted at all. I have been left on two blue ticks. I feel conflicted if he reaches out I will definitely see him again but I feel hurt and lile im not good enough for him. I wanted to talk to him about my feelings for him and I wanted him to know how the previous ghosting made me feel but i couldnt because i didnt want to scare him and lose him. Now he has done it again. I have quite bad trauma from ghosting in the past as the first man I dated ghosted me out of the blue no warning nothing after 6 months ( after telling me he wanted to be with me). I know a long term relationship would never work. We are quite different and in terms of long term things he isnt what I want or what my community would approve of but I cant help wanting to see him. I do believe he is a good person deep down.I havent messaged him for a few weeks and dont plan on unless he reaches out. I dont really need mich advice. Just wanted to rant haha.

Hi im looking to apply to locum agencies in London and around London. I looked on messly and had a call with national locums. Is national locums legit?

Loads of the agency are taking about PAYE vs an umbrella company? What even is an umbrella company and when I google them they seem dodgy. Why would a company offer both routes of payment?

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What evidence is needed for getting all the QIP points for IMT application. Do I need a letter or a certificate? Ive been working on a QIP and will have completed cycle 2 by the end of May.

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Hi everyone. Im an fy2 with no interest in surgery. Ill be starting my first set of nights next week. In my hosp we cover urology and gen surg ooh. I know nothing about either. Do anyone have any good advice, links to pdfs with common presentations or any specific links to guides for being a night SHO?

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