RANT , cuz I'm pissed asf and I don't who to vent to
So I (17F) have this cousin(30 smtg M) (let's call him G) who goes around spreading gyaan on insta stories like everyone loves to hear his advice.
A Lil background context on him : his father used to be kinda rich with his own business and everything but he kinda lost most of it cuz of G who spent unnecessarily huge amount of money on modifications for his cars (yes, multiple)and also investing in businesses that failed. And now he has his own business which recently got shut down cuz it wasn't working and mind u he's currently unemployed. He got married 2 or 3 yrs ago and has a 2 yr old daughter. He's also severely overweight so there were huge problems with finding him a bride (also cuz of his spending problems) that ended with his father paying the bride's family
So what I'm pissed about is , he makes a lot of posts Abt politics, celebs, religion, etc and this time his aim was "fake feminism" when i first heard him say that, i wasnt all that offended cuz I have seen instances of fake feminism myself and he didn't call feminism itself a bad thing
His most recent story was Abt a female friend of his who , at the time of the 370 biryani situation posted a lot Abt Feminism, he asked her why she was quiet Abt the sejal pawar issue and he didn't exactly go into detail Abt what she replied but he kept going on Abt how "these women" claim "mard jaati" (his exact words) have wronged them but are being hypocritical when a women has done wrong. Firstly, I myself have seen over 50 posts from women Abt the sejal pawar issue , just cuz his feed didn't have any posts from women doesn't mean no women stood up against this. But he went on to yap Abt how "these women" only know how to blame everything on "mard jaati" and then after a 6 min rant he claimed that friend blocked him and then he proceeded to say 4 times how much he DOESNT care (for someone who doesn't care , he sure yapped a lot)
Now's the topic i am most concerned Abt , before blocking him, his friend mentioned that she hoped he won't wrong his daughter in the future and G said that when his daughter gets married to a guy , he will support the guy endlessly in their marriage and side with him.
Here are some more "issues" he talked Abt-
G claimed that women complain Abt their husbands not helping with household chores and then he said "if ur husband is hiring a maid for cooking and cleaning WHY THE HELL (he raised his voice) are u expecting him to still help u with breakfast" firstly , why does he think every household can afford a maid? He said "90% households" have maids .....90% WHERE?! IN HIS LITTLE WONDERLAND?? Then he said how men work all day, more than women who stay at home and come home at night, all tired. He said if the maids are doing all the work , all the woman has to do is stay home, relax and give him peace and respect. I don't mean to shame stay at home husbands but he's currently unemployed and his wife works AND takes care of the kid.
then G said , mard jaati are simple creatures who do not want much , they only want 1 thing , respect. And "you women" won't even give that to us. He said as long as men have respect, they are satisfied.....I don't even know where to begin on this....does he think all men are the same? Im not saying all men want a lot but i have rarely ever seen men who are content with ONLY respect. Ofc men deserve respect but the whole point of feminism is saying women need respect too.....it goes both ways
then G started talking Abt domestic violence, he said and i quote " everytime u hear a man hitting a woman , u all wonder Abt the woman but did any of u ever think what the woman did to DESERVE that beating?" I'm sorry , unless the woman was trying to murder the guy with a knife and he only used self defence , THERE. IS. NO. JUSTIFICATION. for violence (ofc that also goes for women who hit men)
He said that men aren't mad to hit a women for no reason. Again....in his own wonderland.... cuz most of the cases of domestic violence I have seen or heard of are cuz the guy is drunk, has anger issues and is taking it out on his wife for no apparent reason.
4)Then G said how MEN pay WOMEN to marry them....I'm sure there are some cases of this reverse dowry but isn't it majorly the bride's family that pays the groom? Again....his own WONDERLAND. He was one of the few who payed the bride so he thinks men are the only ones who pay (obv even that is wrong)
- then G said how his mother is the epitome of a wife who loves and respects her husband and how his parents are so happy and how these "gen z" are the generation that has ruined "women's innocent mindset". It's a private matter but....his mother literally had depression( with prescription for meds and everything) for years cuz of his family....if that's his definition of a "dedicated wife" then that's just messed up. He said a woman can go do "all kinds of things" but as long as she gives her husband respect , he will be content (idek why he's speaking for all men but even as a woman that's too low of a standard to only ask for respect and ntg else, like what Abt love, trust , loyalty, emotional support?)
He said a lot more but I'm kinda too pissed to type all that out so yeah....there's my rant....i just hope his daughter doesn't grow up with his mindset's influence and I hope his wife realises what kinda guy he is and be careful