u/MolassesStatus2504

I am not really sure where to entirely begin with the whole situation, my husband and I are pcsing, unfortunately at the new duty station… there is a major issue that has resulted in us getting a MPO against someone there currently. When talking to my husbands current command they said with the MPO and the fact my husband has plenty of time left on his contract they may give us expedited orders out despite it originally being from a VSBAP.

Now this situation is very wonky. The MPO is being put in place because of someone breaching the privacy act of 1974 with proof, harassment of both my husband and myself, the spread of lies that has lead to threats. Unfortunately when all of this started, there was less than a month before PDD and my husbands command didn’t know if there was anything they directly could do to either prevent the move while the situation was happening or administratively stopping the orders.

Outside of the MPO what can I, or we, do? I am prior service, but this is a very different situation than I ever experienced. This is my husbands first pcs despite being in 7+ years, and my first as a dependent.

Is there truth in the possibility of us getting expedited orders from the new duty station? Since we DITY move, will that become problematic is for example were there less than a year with expedited orders?

I’m honestly Air Force ignorant, I’m not sure how most squadrons handle situations like this, but I don’t feel like my husbands command approached this appropriately.

I (26F) have been helping my husband (26M) through his journey to try to be out of pain. While he was with his ex wife, she got him to get snipped because she didn’t want children. At all. Which he regretted every day as it left him in pain that made daily functioning difficult. He’s in the military, and he pushes through the pain.

Here’s the journey so far: he got snipped late 2020/early 2021, and lived with this discomfort and pain. His provider on base shrugged it off. 2024 when we got married I noticed he’d cringe during sex, he’d have testicular tenderness, and bilateral swelling often. I started documenting EVERYTHING-
Date
Time of pain onset
Actions prior to pain
Pain type
Pain level
Medical interventions (I’m an EMT so it basically was like charting for pt handoff)

Well, his provider finally realized something was wrong. So they did a urinalysis, found proteins that could have been a UTI, we got a referral to urology for them to treat it.
Urology gave him antibiotics as well as me so we didn’t pass anything back and forth. We saw little to no improvement. They tried to give him an RX that he wouldn’t be able to safely do his job, so they documented that wasn’t a safe option and instead prescribed him a fast release pain killer. It would help right away, but didn’t solve the pain issue. They put in for a scrotal ultrasound to ensure no malformations or testicular torsion.

From there they sent us to another hospital system’s urology clinic. Where they looked at him and said “yep this is more than likely PVPS, here are treatment options.” When we voiced the idea of a reversal to see if that relieves the pressure pain during sex may be the best treatment. Then to another referral…

University of Minnesota(MHealth Fairview) we start seeing Doctor Logan Hubbard. He looked at everything we’ve done, the antibiotics, the pain medications, and has my husband explain the pain he feels, where his daily pain is at then asks me what I notice. Mind you I’m in scrubs the first time we meet, and it became a dead give away I do medical. So I explain everything, showed the journaled pain episodes when it’s at its worst. We bantered using the medical terminology that made my husband look like we were speaking another language, and I mention that he cringes at climax during sex.

Doctor Hubbard stops the conversation in its tracks and immediately says he will go through with a reversal given the PVPS diagnosis and the pressure pain, but he wanted my husband to also do pelvic floor physical therapy to help recovery. Starting it early can help relieve some of the general discomfort from surgery. Which luckily has helped!

As mentioned, surgery is scheduled for this august. We started this journey two years ago, and we’re just waiting on Tricare to authorize the surgery, which with all the documentation should be approved with no issues. (We hope)

Anyways with the surgery, we have a DRIVE ahead of us, like 20ish hours since flying isn’t an option for safety reasons unless they approve us multiple days in city of surgery. I want to make sure I am prepared for my husband anything that helped the first 72 hours for that drive home after surgery, anything I should get/be prepared for?

This is a really… stressful situation, my husband and I are supposed to pcs to a base that is across the country from where we are currently stationed at the end of the month. There’s been some new situations that is making us extremely uncomfortable with the pcs/move..

My SIL who works administratively on the gaining base has made accusations of things that are false after a massive argument between her and I. Claiming out of the blue my husband doing things to her as a child. She told their parents, even my parents, knowing that I was actually a victim of that with charges on my abuser.

We found this out immediately following orders being cut and we want nothing to do with my SIL/that base currently. She has previously looked at my husbands records and found out about our marriage before we were ready to tell anyone, and that has always rubbed me the wrong way. I’m prior service, but I don’t know if there’s any options that can help us.

If my SIL is saying this stuff to anyone who will listen, because she did that with her divorce to her ex husband that included a lot of lies, it will make being at that base absolutely miserable.

We’re looking into a MPO but that doesn’t stop her from running her mouth, and chief and shirt aren’t particularly helpful because my husband is also supposed to have a surgery less than a month after pcsing that is near where we are currently stationed and they couldn’t help us push his PDD/RNLTD back to accommodate the surgery.

Edit to add: the whole situation has been causing both his and my mental health to decline, and I’m starting to be concerned it may turn into a grippy sock vacation.

My husband has had his 12 mini since 2021, it’s gone through a deployment and has lived against the odds of life so far. I am still learning the iOS realm. His phone works alright for the most part. But we’ve noticed more service drops (he says it’s always been that way, but it seems more frequent now), his battery health is 70% and the local Apple Store said they couldn’t replace his battery when we inquired about it (Could have just been since it was on the busier side I’m not sure), and it has had issues charging from time to time even with a clean port.

I’m not sure if it’s coming to the end of its lifespan or if it can wait a bit longer. He feels torn on what to do, and so to Reddit we inquire the thoughts of others.

So I got my Mirena removed the first of the month, I bled the 3-6th, and I’m bleeding again two weeks later… It’s pretty frustrating, I know my body’s just trying to figure itself out but has anyone else gone through this?

As the title says, I am experiencing some symptoms that my doctor called the Mirena Crash… man I feel like crap since getting my IUD out.

Fatigue, insomnia, really bad cramping, frequent need to pee, even a little brain fog. It’s been a week since I got it removed and I just am struggling to function. Is there anything I can do to help get over it sooner?