u/MonkeyFan365

Saw this meme somewhere where a guy says "I'm the world's first ethical incel. I don't hate women I just don't get coochie" and I really resonated with that lol. I'm thinking of community that talks about the struggles of being socially awkward and unsuccessful in dating while also challenging all misogyny and helping to deradicalize people. Subs like this are more focused on the red pill and challenging that but I'm thinking of something that would be a next step, helping people who have moved on / were never sucked into the red pill and misogynistic stuff cope.

I am a 2026 graduate of a T30 school with a comp sci degree. I'm realizing, however, that I really do not like my career path. I've done internships in software engineering and data science and am currently doing an internship in product management. I'm realizing now that I hate corporate life and, even more, I hate the tech industry. I dislike where this is headed with AI and I feel so unfulfilled and useless being in a corporate job. I always wanted to be involved in politics in some way. I always wanted to be someone who worked on political campaigns, like a Roger Stone type of figure (but not evil). I never pursued this because I thought pursuing politics would be risky and I may not get a job, and now I'm regretting it. I want to start shifting the direction of my career when my internship ends in September. I'm open to other things, like think tanks, government agencies, or going abroad, and I'm also open to utilizing my cs degree in some way. I actually found my coursework interesting in school, and I like cs on a theoretical level, so I'm open to maybe combining my passion for politics with my degree in cs somehow.

I (M22) have never had any significant dating experience, and I have recently graduated college. In high school, I never dated anyone due to a lack of confidence, and in college, I've been on 2 coffee dates with one girl before she decided she wanted to go exclusive with someone else, and 1 museum date with a girl before she moved away. They were all fun and I'm glad I asked them out, but it took a while to build up the courage to do it, and the lack of success in those experiences really had an impact on me. I'm regretting not having any romantic experience in college because this is the time in people's lives where they learn a lot and have fun. Plus, a lot of my female friends have been telling me that it's important for me to get some experience because the older I get with no romantic / sexual experience, the more of a red flag it becomes apparently. I'm just feeling really bad about this and feeling a lot of regret that my college experience, and probably the rest of my life, won't go how I envisioned it, and it makes me feel bad. I want to stop feeling like this.