u/Moth1992

I used to be great at interviews ( or thats what I thought). I just started interviewing again after 5 years and my first interview was not great.

I wasnt sure how to answer several questions, I rambled. And in hindsight several of my answers were dumb and uninspired.

I expect one or two interviews to pop up this summer and I want to do a good job.
So how are we practicing? what works? what doesnt?

Thankyou so much!

I am a PM but I spend a lot of time on site helping with troubleshooting and planning (thank god because I hate being a paper pushing PM).

I wear cotton long sleeve tshirts with my company logo and cargo pants.

I am trying to jump ship and work for one of my customers and want to dress a bit nicer to impress. But still be able to wander in a warehouse and mechanical room.

Would you suggest maybe long sleeve polo/golf shirts? any suggestions for affortable but breathable? ( Im not a fan of button down shirts, they tend to gap at my boobs.)

I am in the US.

I hike in a lightweight merino hoodie for trails or above tree line xcountry.

But sometimes I partake in the lovely sport of crawling through manzanita, poison oak and whitethorn wich will shred my shirts.

I would like some sort of nylon or poliester hoodie that can handle this kind of tomfoolery while being beathable enough for the warm california summers.

Any suggestions

Looking at possibly spending a week in September exploring the rockies, fliying into Calgary. Would be our first time.

I just started info gathering and I had no idea permits are all released in winter! Bummer!

So I am looking to have a list of several day hikes or overnighters. That will help with logistics and easier to snag cancellations and will give flexibility in case of bad weather/fire/ how we are vibing.

So ideally I want a list with a variety of 8-24km per day depending on elevation and xc.

Things I like:

• Colorful lakes
• Glaciers
• Big pointy mountains
• Off trail and easy scrambles ( class 2 and solid class 3)
• Being above the treeline
• Ridges with panoramic views

Things I dont like:

• Shuttles with advanced permits or complicated logistics :P
• Being under the tree line.
• Huge crowds ( some crowds are expected though)

Hikes I compliled so far, please provide any feedback, thankyou so so much!

• Lake Louise area - 6 Glaciers if we wake up super early
• Banff NP Area - Helen lake to Cirque pk or Dolomite pass
• Kananaskis - Tent ridge
• Jasper - Skyline as an overnighter
• Glacier - Abbot ridge

Some questionable options - would any of these areas make for a good day hike or overnighter or I would I spend most day under the trees?

• Assiniboine
• Rockwall
• Mt Robson

Thankyou so much!

I run a hobby club with other folk, we are volunteers.

One of our members had a very bad experience 3 years ago due to a creep. The creep is not part of our club anymore but I still took on the very significant mental and time load to support her and implement changes she requested over more than a year (despite what she wanted changed several times, thats ok, trauma is a bitch).

Things seemed ok last year. She felt supported and that she could speak up and that she could continue in the club.

Six months ago out of the blue she started criticizing me for everything I had done. Why did I do this and why did I do that (because you asked me?) and how hurtful I was. I assumed she was just having a bad day and end it up being her ear for her to vent about her shit for an hour.

This continued though. Every time we talked I woke up to texts criticizing me. Im dismissive of her feelings. My way of phrasing things is hurtful. And then she switches to wanting something from me ( my time, my ear, my support, etc). Plus of course if you dont agree with her how she wants you to then you are not fighting hard enough against harassment. She has talked shit about other club members and I am sure she talks shit about me.

Now, I don't need anyone to tell me I'm not good enough. The voices in my head do that perfectly fine.

I told her I was not doing ok mentally and to cut me some slack. She acted understanding but as soon as she wanted something from me it went back to the same dynamic.

These last 6 months her constant criticism has messed me up significantly. I feel so used. So I withdrew, steped down, and blocked her.

And I feel incredibly lonely because I cant really tell anyone in my club what has been going on, and create even more drama. I am seing some club folk this weekend and all my insecurities are up to 11.

I could use a hug.