Its very important in healing journey, like lets say you exercise regularly and you miss one training, would you blame yourself over it? Its very important to understand what the trigger was, why it happened and move on. In 5 years porn free I relapsed like 5 times. I know now what to be careful of and just going forward alright
Wish you all the best we got this
I know about Gotmann, I am curious if you know about some that helped you in your practice.
Hi, I am interested what are your thoughts on this topic. I work with men and what I see many times, it feels that what they need is group of men that they could get inspiration from, like just being in forest, starting a fire and being there and talking to each other and inspiring each other.
I also do couple therapy, and I see it so many times(I am from central europe) that there were good 5++ generations that went through a lot of suffering, wars, pain, and they didnt have the tools for processing, so they dissociated, and now we have whole generation of men that are unable to feel, because the fathers were unable to feel too, and the whole generational trauma just carries on.
That now men work in corporate world, not being with their kids because the need to make money, and that means the boys come to school, were are women teachers, and there are no men role models, and then there is andrew tate and others that supply this role as kind of Shadow, like a tyrant because there is nothing else in the space.
Its like there is huge disconnection from Spirit, what it means to have values, honor, character, integrity, how to become a King archetype, how to have purpose in life that actually helps the world.
That I am curious if you actually experienced being with elder that could inspire you in your life, because I see its just missing, that there is importance to focus on surface level things, and the depth is missing...
Jung says that Communism is less dangerous than the fact that we are all more penetrated by our habit of thinking statistically about ourselves. We believe in scientific statistics which say that in Switzerland so and so many couples marry per year and find no flat, or that there are so and so many in each town, etc. You do not realize what it does to you when you read statistics. It is completely destructive poison, and what is worse is that it is not true; it is a falsified image of reality. If we begin to think statistically, we begin to think against our own uniqueness.
But it is not only thinking but a way of feeling. If you go up and down the street, you see all those stupid faces and then look into a window and see that you look just as stupid as the other, if not worse! And then it becomes the thought that if an atom bomb destroyed all that, who would regret it? Thank God, those lives have come to and end, including my own! That is the statistical mood in which one is overwhelmed by the manifoldness and ordinariness of life. This is wrong, because statistics are built up on probability, which is only one way of explaining reality, and as we know, there is just as much uniqueness and irregularly." - Marie-Louise von Franz wanted to share this as something to think about
Hi, so I am from central europe, cash pay... I saw on this sub that the standard is 45 minutes therapy in USA (prove me wrong?) but I am curious how can you do deep work with person, when many times after those 30min/40min they can get to some depth. I think its because of your insurance that you have?
Most of the time I am in range of 2-3 hours, even with couple work or somatic work, that we do so much, and it feels to me we do more comparing if it would be every week 1 hour only.(Now I dont push the hours, if its going to come only for 1 hours its ok to me).. Of course some people dont have time or there are different things in play... so curious if anyone here is also doing longer sessions too..
The cons imho is that when I work 3 hours with client, I need like 30 min - 1 hour in forest to wind down and meditate there, and I dont see many clients a day
Like I dont know if I should be making short form content for search results, and what is your experience, but its like why youtube is pushing it so hard? Also what happened is that when I open the app on phone it automatically puts me on shorts videos to consume? like wtf
Its like the whole capitalistic world preys on people who are traumatized, like the more peaceful I feel, the less I need to consume anything, from tv show/movies/games/music/social media.. Its like completely disrupting system of the body.
I feel disconnected from myself, like I am stunned, my eyes change, I feel like I have been hypnotized (Like observe children how are they when they consume cartoons, or playing video games, not even aware of themselves).
Then the question is what is the purpose of all of it? It just feels to capitalize on the attention.
I know there is a good music, some good tv shows and movies... but damn what are we doing to ourselves
I am curious those who got experience, I love that color and that car so much, I dont know 30K?35k? what do you think?
I have multiple monetized channels for years, never had any issue with youtube. (No AI Slop) I started new channel focused on educational Quiz videos, it was all original, but because I didnt use my own voice but AI voice, it got flagged.
All other channels got dem. too. I added my own voice and camera to videos for that primary channels. Now I am waiting for "Your re-application is under review"
But I dont know how long that is going to take, and after its accepted to partner program, then I dont know how long ALL the other channels are going to take again to monetize(because you have to wait 30 days for approval to partner program, some people reported they waited even longer, now with a lot of channels dem. queue can be longer).
So be VERY careful now:
I never expected that this could happen to me to be honest, I was in safest niches on youtube, never did something risky or messed with copyrighted content, Just used AI voice for my quiz videos but not my own and here we are
I am curious what do you think? or it matters on niche? I know in past people had issues when they combined it, is it still same? or what is your experience? thank you
I am not Christian, but this is something that I have read and I like, I think its suitable for this sub too:
>When I was a child, I spoke like a child, thought like a child, argued like a child; now that I have become a man, I have finished with childish ways. 1 Corinthians 13:11
Its really strange times, how we normalized being weak and addicted. But because everyone else is, its like a new standard. The more disciplined I am, more I guard my mind from the outside world, all the consumption of media, all the cheap dopamine entertainment, more energy I have, more stable I feel, happier I am. I like my partner way more and can manage kids way better.
Thats its not just 1 hour of gaming a day, there are consequences after playing, body is not in harmony, mind is not at peace, person dissociating from body, then Consumption of videos about game, coming to reddit, worse sleep etc.
I wish you all the best guys beating this addiction
There was big trick that was played on us, that by consumption we become happy. And please all those addicted people that will come here with your recreational gaming addicted habits, just don't write. This sub is for stop gaming not for moderation gaming. I will be writing here posts, because I wish someone would actually come and said gaming is BS when I was 15, but there was no one.
Even here in this sub people come defending their addictions, its like children that wants to be constantly entertained by cartoons and never growing up, and telling you to also not grow up.
I am 4 years free, relapsed like 3 times, the more you will disconnect from games, the more you will see how childish it is. Same with porn/consumption of most media/tv shows/movies/short form content. Also you will see how people who play them, that they are on some level constantly drained, not fully present and not whole. Its like an escape from trauma and growing.
Most people here that come here got probably miserable lives, no deep connection with their partner (Its not possible to play videos games and at the same time have meaningful relationship, because the cheap dopamine excites you more than all the ordinary stuff)
I found out that the Comfort is so dangerous for men, its like if we become addicted to it, then who is going to take care of society? help others? if we are just addicted to games and porn etc.
Like no kidding, There is a big village next to mine in central europe, and the do trainings for kids up to 15 year old for firefighters.. they have only girls there. All the boys are at home playing games. And its just a beginning.
Like how can then the boy become a man? where there is a transition with experience, hardships, life skills to become great partner for a woman? its insane
It automatically moves me to shorts page, not home page. Its insane how they just want us to be addicted and consume
Hi I am curious if anyone could give me advice. My channel got deleted in March, it wasnt monetized, had 1 video of popular song lyrics of song made in Suno. that was it, channel got removed for community guideline, I appeal and got rejected. I am like bruh, it was video uploaded 1 year go, like 30 views, no warnings/strikes, whole channel just gone. I completely forget about that, That's my mistake and I take full responsibility, I didn't expect it to have such a consequences...
I have other 6 monetized channels, is there a way how can I protect them against circumvention? I don't have any strikes on channels. like putting them under different number? also using different browser and uploading through VPN?
I am full time youtuber for 9 Years, it's insane that 1 video can ruin it all now, always played it safe. Stressful AF...
If I am going to lose 5k-10k a month in passive income for this, damn will stink
Channel wasn’t following our policy on Community Guidelines : r/PartneredYoutube
Just want to share, for update if people gonna read it in future.. I appealed it, appeal got denied in like 3 hours, but what happened is that only that channel stayed removed. All the other monetized accounts, and even another youtube channels on that gmail (branded accounts) weren't affected.. so the guy was right
"youtube doesnt usually nuke your whole account unless you get multiple community guideline strikes across channels or they find some connection between violations"
I have channels monetized for years right now. happy with the result. I deleted all channels on that account and also deleted whole gmail account just for safety. I dont know if it was compromised or something.. be well and wish you all the best