u/MountainPromise5225

Some of let the fear of this little condition makes it prove and dictate our lives. Especially at the beginning. Due to our pass actions in live we start to reflect on shit wayyyy too hard, some of these actions and motives make us have full of regret. This causes some of us to build so much self hatred and disgust for ourselves and believe we don’t deserve to have a life full of love and happiness.

BUT THAT IS NOT TRUE!!!! WE ARE NO LESS FUCKING HUMAN THAN THE OTHER PPL WHO DO NOT GOT IT!!!!

Some of our choices and personal traits that we do in this reflection we are not fond of! Well, sometimes the bad days we allow this to fluster which will make us question our motive, shit even our existence. But we should not let these thoughts prevail. YOU ARE NOT ALONE! Shit, statistics, prove it alone how many people are going through same intrusive thoughts about this with their lives.

We could only allow our minds to acknowledge what’s going on in the present times, not the past and not the future. And when you live like that, you won’t live in fear and you live in more optimistic mindset. Learn to let go of that fear and learn to indulge in happiness. That’s the only way you can move forward happiness and self love. Expose those fears, let it go and learn how to live!!!!

👍🏿👍🏾👍 up if you like it!!! Love y’all

PS: Also Add your Diagnosis, Age, Sex, Zodiac Sign and fear you want to let go of!

Hey everyone, I know some of us come here to rant and express our sorrows about having this little condition, but sometimes WE HAVE TO BREATHE AND RELAX.

It’s okay we are alive sometimes things happen to make us slow down and focus loving and working on ourselves within, the High Power can be tricky like that.

Yes this is life changing but it’s not that deep. REMEMBER, you live and then you die, it all about what you do in between. Do you want this obstacle that you went through and overcame, or you want ‘HERPES’ be the product of your demise & be your the story of your life.

Don’t let this define you. Find peace, be hopeful & optimistic, have self-love within yourself externally and internally, learn yourself and your body, only let positivity in your life (whether it’s cutting off bad habits, negative friends/family, working at a place that’s not your destiny, etc.), and let go of that RESENTMENT. I PROMISE YOU THE RESENTMENT IS WHAT’S GONNA STRESS YOU OUT AND KILL YOU !!! JUST LEARN TO LIVE!!!! Because this is your story and the only person that can take control of it is you.

I’m gonna try my best to start posting positive affirmation more on here because I think we need that more than the negative negative negative negative negative. I hope this helps someone have a better day. I went through a lot these few years when I was diagnosed back in 2024 but every day is getting better and I’m learning how to love and forgive myself again.

Lol I don’t know if I’m looking for advice or this is just a simple rant, but dating in America especially in my community is so hard. And This concept of ‘hook up culture’ lol this shit is real and it’s kinda like a lifestyle and I don’t like it.

I am 26 (f) BLK, I was diagnosed nearly 3 years ago, and it sincerely shot down my confidence. This new found fear has made me super safe and conscious about my sex life. In addition it has made me mindful of what man I allow in my life and I do not allow any negative/toxic energy around me whatsoever. But this fear has created me to alienate myself which has caused an isolation that has hinder my social life. I can say I find myself relatively an attractive woman but I did go through a serious depression which has effected me emotionally and physically (damn near took me out) which spilled into my dating life and every man that has came into my life, once it gets to a serious point I will just cut off in fear of disclosing and I refuse to cross that bridge w/o disclosing. I have 3 disclosures; 1 was good and positive but this individual through it in my face which I had to cut him off and the other two they decided that they did not want to cross that next step with me, but appreciated me for letting them know.

And the main reason I believe my confidence is shot because of my community. Please no one take offense to this but I prefer to date a black man, it’s more not based off on preference I believe there’s a cultural connection that no one will understand me like a black man should. But when I mean the black community is so judgmental it’s not even funny. The other day my parents were making herpes jokes and then they got into it about how disgusting it was and anyone who has it needs to have something stapled on their head that they’re positive…🤣🤣🤣🤣 and if they only knew their daughter is part of the itchy scratchy crew. And then my coworkers at the hospital talking shit about patients with herps with their weak ass jokes and I just walk off lol. Sometimes this is so draining because having to disclose is a lot emotionally.

The only person that I disclose to is my bestfriend, and coming to find out my girl told me she is burning tooo with the herps!!!! Lmaoooo what a coincidence. 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 But yes I am so ready for a serious relationship and I’m semi sexually frustrated lol (Been celibate since April 2025 no shade yall 🥷🏾 are just sometimes nasty asf and I be the only one asking for My Charts and bringing the condoms) but the stigma is in the BLACK COMMUNITY NEEDS TO STOP! My biggest fear in life is not completing my destiny because I always wanted to get married and have children travel with my kids type shit. I want to be a mom and what man will want tainted goods. Sorry for this rant, but I just wanna get it off my chest.