How do I Deal with Mom refusing to lose weight? Please help me
I need some honesty and outside perspective because I am slowly losing my mind and hitting a wall of pure frustration.
My mom is obese. I have been trying for years to get her to lose weight, but so far not much has changed. She is already suffering from health and mobility consequences because of her size, and she knows it, but it totally feels like that she doesnt want that to change. She often makes excuses over why she cant / didnt lose weight / didnt do any exercise.
Im a person who values health, I eat mostly healthy, I exercise a lot, and I care about my physical appearance. Watching the person that raised me do the exact opposite to their body and destroying herself in a way is incredibly painful to watch, especially if it feels like theres absolutely nothing I can do.
I tried the nice approach countless of times, always telling her „Lets do a fresh start and try again“ I tried bringing her healthy food, showing her how to cook healthier, explaing her how to count and measure calories, showing her how she could execrise / start exercising, but nothing seems to get to her. I’ve told her countless times how much I worry about her and warned her about the consequences which she will suffer in the future if she doesnt change now.
Its come to the point that ivetried so many times, that I now have zero patience left. Every single time the topic comes up, I get so frustrated and mad so quickly because I am sick of telling her the exact same stuff over and over, she acts like she cares but in reality I know she doesnt. Or she might, at least her action tell me that she doesnt
What makes me the angriest is the fake promises. Whenever I confront her, she acts like she cares and tells me she is finally going to change—but I always know she’s lying just to get me to shut up. She never follows through.
I seriously dont know what else to do. I’m tired of caring more about her health than she does, and I’m tired of the constant worry and anxiety every time I go to bed, worrying about her health and how things will turn out if she doesnt change.
Its killing me from the inside and i seriously dont know what to do. And she knows this, ive told her many times how much im suffering because of this. Its always „okay ill change from now on“ but that never happens, nothing changes.
How do I deal with this? How can I get her to lose weight? Am I wrong for being this angry? Its so hard to watch, especially knowing that youre doing everything but nothing is going through. Can someone please help me? And please spare the comments about „Just give up“, I could never forgive myself for giving up on my own mother.