r/losingweight

I am a male, 24, 5’8, and 256lbs. I started my weight loss journey about 2.5-3 weeks ago, starting at 271.

I consistently manage around 11,000-12,000 steps a day through work and walks. My walks usually being 3-4km with a 20lb weighted vest and an average heartrate of about 149.
At work I coach childrens soccer, running around outside, and I have a second job working retail as a shoe salesman over the summer til university starts again.
I used to be really fit, playing semi professional soccer, until I double fractured my knee and tore my MCL. After this I allowed myself to gain weight.

I am currently eating around 2200 calories a day, trying to get at least 100g of protein a day.

TBH I haven’t been struggling too much with healthy eating, I’ve quite enjoyed it actually, and its teaching me how to cook, which is nice.

I was just wondering if what I’m doing sounds right, and if theres anything I should change?

hello this is my first time posting on the sub and i’d really appreciate it if anyone can help point me in the right direction.

i am 20 y.o F, i weight 180 lbs as of now and i am 5ft tall. i got bariatric surgery (gastric sleeve) back in 2023. before surgery i weighed 292 lbs. my lowest was 167lbs back in march of 2025. i know i gained weight after my two grandparents passed it was a very hard emotional time for me.

my bf is someone who really loves the gym. will go for 2 hrs, 6 days a week and he lost almost 50 lbs in a few months. he does try to help me in the gym but i feel at times i do not understand what to do or how to do something. i go to planet fitness and it sounds silly but i have very bad anxiety when i go alone to the gym and end up staying for only 45 mins maybe up to an hour

my goal is to be 160 lbs and eventually down to 130 lbs. i’ve done some research about calorie deficits but was wondering if anyone could help with that. as well as a beginner gym split and help staying motivated. i really appreciate any help!

How important is physical activity for loosing weight

I'm 160cm and weight 72kg...im 15kgs heavier than what I'd like to be..

Ik physical activity is important, but I keep telling my. Mom there's no point in going for a 30 min walk if what I eat stays the same.

As of now I'm not exercising or anyhting like that, but I'm starting to count calories 1500 a day.. And I'm watching what I eat..

I slowly intend to start getting the steps in, see I prefer walking at home cuz I can dress comfy walk however I want at slow speeds at high speeds and. I'd easily get 10K steps under 2 hours

If. I go out and walk.. That's not the case.. It takes much more time and mind you it's not. Like I have a specific wallkingg area or even a foot path . I'd have to walk along with the cars aand scooters and traffic

I prefer walking at home(trying to hit 10k) and I have a cycling machine and cycling for an hour.. This . Of course+ watching what I eat

Now the only problem is I'm not consistent with hitting that 10k.. And I have to work in. That

My mom on the other. Hand thinks I' won't. Loose weiight at all at home aand wiill only do so if I step outside the house.

Hiiiiiii Im 16F, 5' 5" and 195 lbs. I like have really severe ADHD so pls dont tell me to track what I eat or whatever I guarantee you I will fail. Im lowk too scared to go to the gym so i will not be doing that eitehrr thank you very much. The meals ive been eating are like beans eggs avocado and fruit any berries rlly for breakfast either like rice beans veggies and fish for lunch or if I go out with friends ill get a poke bowl and unsweetened matcha and then for dinner like salmon rice avocado and cucumber. Umm btw I only rlly eat chicken and sea food when it comes to meats bc I dont like other things. I’m like slightly active but not very active. Im TRYING not to snack much but idrk sometimes I do. I used to a lot more tho 🥹  Possibly my biggest weakness in that regard to that is my one friends house bc she always has chips and candy and it’s like always so available idk how to like not eat it 😭🙏 ANYWAYS pls help me

I will admit I am not skinny at all and am on the bigger side but this summer I want to fix it. I was wondering if anyone had any tips on getting skinnier over these next couple months. (Ps I might not be able to do like diets or anything)

hi yall 14f here i really need some help to loose weight i only have till august(yes ik how unrealistic that sounds) kyun kai ios kai baad school hai im 5'2 i dont exactly know my weight but im pretty sure its zayda cus it litr sticks out anyways pls dont tell me "ur 14 u have lots of time, hormonal changes" blah blah

js tell me what do i do i mean i do have a workout plan i js dont follow it i sit on social media all day and i really want that to change so someone give me motivation i sit on the sofa all day i have no physical activity in my day to day daily life so can someone please like give me advice or smth esp the ones who go to the gym

and i would say i have a big chest for my age and ik u cant target fat loss but i want to make my chest smaller aswell idk how but someone tell me how.

Please no hate, I’m 19 and weight 105kg and I’m 5,10. I hate my body and have for ages I always struggled with my weight.

I tried calorie counting but I cannot do it. I get fixated on under eating the amount it tells me or shame myself that I give up on it. I try to eat intuitively which might be stupid but I’m on adhd meds so I generally cannot overeat big portions. I have no idea why I’m so bad at all of this. I try all different methods and nothing works it just feels like I’m gaining weight or staying the same.

I know it’s easy to say like oh if you measure your calories u might realise ur actually overeating but I cannot measure them. I forget, shame myself and hate myself for it. I have no idea what to do. I try to eat healthier all the time. I have a gym membership and started implementing swimming as cardio because it’s something I really enjoy but I have no time. I don’t know what to do. I know there’s no easy way to lose weight I know it and I tell myself that all the time. I just don’t know what to do to help myself because it’s not even like I need to be a perfect body. I just want to like myself.

Please nobody hate, I know calorie counting is the best way to do everything but I can’t. I have no time i can’t cook for myself cos I have no money.

(Tw bulimia mentioned) I don’t really know how to start this but long story short I’ve been trying to loose weight since I was like 12
The only thing that actually helped me loose weight was starving myself and then when I did have to eat like if I was with friends I would make myself throw up and ofc that worked but it destroyed my mental health and has sent me in a massive downward spiral
I gained about 20kgs due to an antipsychotic I was required to go on for a while in 2024 (quetiapine) it was absolutely awful and thankfully I am off that now.
I find myself binging when I get home from work, and eating socially on the weekends (my friends are all quite slim but either they have fast metabolisms or a few of them have ED’s and starve themselves during the week to “make space” for the weekend It’s gotten to a point where I KNOW I need to loose weight. Getting in the car with others and my half of the car literally weighs down, being scared to go on swings, not having the airplane tray table fitting
And more recently, the literal seatbelt on the plane is just getting to the point where it’s almost too small for me and I’m way too mortified to ask for a seatbelt extender.
I have a weird family situation and to keep it short, I am pretty much fully independent. I only need help getting transportation as I can’t drive but in terms of what I cook for dinner or what I buy at the grocery store that’s all up to me.

Just to clarify, I’ve been overweight since I was probably like 6 years old? It got sooooo much worse when my parents divorced as when I would be at my dad’s house I would have to make my own dinner which would just be a bunch of junk food. My siblings and even my mother who was quite obese have all lost the weight and now it’s just fatty me fending for myself having no idea where to start

Not sure if this is useful information but I do have PCOS/PMOS, ADHD and Autism

Thank you to anyone and everyone who has taken the time to read this I really appreciate
it!

Hey everyone, I’m about to start my weight loss journey tomorrow. This is probably going to be a long post because I like details, so thanks to anyone who takes the time to read.

I’m 22F, I currently weigh 295 lbs…terrible for my age I know. I often find myself asking how in the hell I let myself get this bad at just 22 years old. I’m afraid if I keep this up I will die a painful death at a young age.

About a year ago I tried to lose and I actually lost 30lbs in 2 months before I realized it was breaking the bank to eat that way. So my biggest hurdle is I’m already paycheck to paycheck and when I try to get healthier options at the store they’re always so much more expensive. Any cheap, healthy, and filling foods suggestions would be great!

Next, I got pretty bad into alcohol in my late teens, I was borderline an alcoholic. When I stopped drinking I started eating A LOT to cope with those cravings. This is when my weight shot up the most, around 40lbs in 2 years. I’ve slowed down a little with that but I know it’s still an issue. Maybe y’all could suggest some better coping skills that some of y’all use that have been through something similar?

Lastly, I stress eat a lot. I often find myself finding something to eat whenever I’m worried about bills or the constant family drama I’m being put through. I’m currently raising my little brother, he’s 15, and even though I love him this stresses me out to the max. The reason he is with me is because my parents were none stop fighting at the house and he asked me if he could live with me. My parents thought it would be good for him to get away from that environment and for him it’s been a great change. For me it’s been quite difficult raising a child but I know he is happier now.

My fiancé has been my biggest supporter through all of this. He helps me so much with raising my brother, bills, household chores, and so much more. But he’s not the best at support with weight loss, but that’s not his fault. He’s a stick and he’s never had to worry about what he eats, and it honestly pisses me off how unfair that is, but like I said I know that isn’t his fault. He is fully supportive of my weight loss journey and has even offered to stop eating some of his favorites just so they will be out of the house, but that doesn’t really seem fair to me. It’s not his fault I’m this big why should I punish him for what I’ve done to myself?

Anyways I feel like I’m just rambling on at this point so I’ll stop there if I think of anything else I’ll add it later. Basically I just need any tips or advice anyone can give me so I can keep going this time, make my goal, and stay there long term!

TL;DR
22F currently at 295lbs. I’m just asking for any tips for my weight loss journey mainly how you deal with stress eating and keeping it up long term. Thanks!

I’m (31M) have trying to lose weight for 2 years now, (H:175cm,W:85kg) I have been working out 3 days per week, and 2 days some sort of sport like badminton or walking. I have protruded belly and chest love handles and sometimes I feel really depressed of how I look as well. I work at a desk job, main problem I see is after evening gym or active session I feel really hungry and I seem to eat a lot, and it comes with some sort of depression because I live alone, only place I mostly socialise is when at work, I live in European country at the moment. I’m taking daily medications related to rare blood disease and heart attack which happened few years ago, I have been obese for most of my life, and it has been consistently around same weight as I remember, lowest I could go was 81kg. I did active sports in childhood and university, and have been used to a carbohydrate rich diet to my cultural background.

Should I seek advice for some eating disorder or change my workout routines, I feel like I have low will power to control food, but I rarely eat out from restaurants. It’s mostly something I have at home. Recent scan: fat 27.9%

Background:
Lost weight to manage diabetes - now ave 77kg (down from 98) and have normal blood glucose.
I still meticulous record all my food/calories in and fairly accurate calories burn, for past two years.

Now my weight has plateaued, and I poop on the regular daily, I have noticed some big (one kilo swings up/down) ever few days.

Just curious what would drive weight swings when you're eating a calorific-neutral diet.

Hello, i am a short woman in my early twenties. 153cm and 53kgs. I wanna lose about 5kgs. since i am pretty small in height i have been told that my maintain weight calories are 1600 and my deficit should be around 1400. This is what i have done for the past week but lately i have been...gaining weight ! Earlier this week i was 53.6 and now i am 55kgs...

I go to the gym twice a week and do cardio-heavy workouts with 30min stairmaster + 10min inclined walk at low speed but high incline. Any day that i dont do workout i walk 10k steps. I do not want to eat less than 1400 calories since, in my opinion, it would be starving myself and would probably destroy my relationship with food. But, the numbers just won't move at all...

Is there any reason why ? Have you experienced this yourself ? Do you have any tips ?

Hi everyone! I'm new to this sub and could use some advice on the best approach to losing weight while eventually building muscle.
I'm 21F, 5'3", and currently 185 lbs. My goal is around 140 lbs because I'd also like to build lean muscle.
A year ago, I lost weight on keto and got down to the low/mid 160s. I felt significantly better and I was only at the halfway mark! I barely exercised and when I did I did an incline walk on the treadmill. I also attend school in a city so that possibly due to walking a lot (but now I drive) so most of my weight was diet loss was due to diet. Unfortunately, keto wasn't sustainable for me, and I eventually gained the weight back plus some. I do want to try and loose weight without relying on a heavily restrictive diet because it’s not sustainable nor healthy (to someone who started developing unhealthy relationships towards food).

I've recently started weight training, but a friend told me that I should focus on building muscle instead of trying to lose weight and the weight loss would come in the process. They also said that would require me to eat more and that i don’t “eat enough” as is. That left me a little confused.
My main concern is that my current weight isn't healthy, so I feel like fat loss should be my priority. I quite literally feel heavy. At the same time, I've heard beginners can sometimes lose fat and build muscle at the same time through body recomposition, but I'm not sure if that's realistic when I want to lose around 50lbs.

Would it be recommended that I:
- Prioritize weight loss while continuing to strength train?
-Focus mostly on cardio until I reach my goal weight?
-Try to lose fat and build muscle at the same time?

I'd really appreciate hearing what worked for people in a similar situation.

lol i just get so bored not eating now. Does anyone want to like motivate each other and text each other about our weight loss. Like 👍 idk. Message me your favorite movie on Netflix and I’ll watch it. lol 😂

I need some honesty and outside perspective because I am slowly losing my mind and hitting a wall of pure frustration.
My mom is obese. I have been trying for years to get her to lose weight, but so far not much has changed. She is already suffering from health and mobility consequences because of her size, and she knows it, but it totally feels like that she doesnt want that to change. She often makes excuses over why she cant / didnt lose weight / didnt do any exercise.

Im a person who values health, I eat mostly healthy, I exercise a lot, and I care about my physical appearance. Watching the person that raised me do the exact opposite to their body and destroying herself in a way is incredibly painful to watch, especially if it feels like theres absolutely nothing I can do.

I tried the nice approach countless of times, always telling her „Lets do a fresh start and try again“ I tried bringing her healthy food, showing her how to cook healthier, explaing her how to count and measure calories, showing her how she could execrise / start exercising, but nothing seems to get to her. I’ve told her countless times how much I worry about her and warned her about the consequences which she will suffer in the future if she doesnt change now.

Its come to the point that ivetried so many times, that I now have zero patience left. Every single time the topic comes up, I get so frustrated and mad so quickly because I am sick of telling her the exact same stuff over and over, she acts like she cares but in reality I know she doesnt. Or she might, at least her action tell me that she doesnt

What makes me the angriest is the fake promises. Whenever I confront her, she acts like she cares and tells me she is finally going to change—but I always know she’s lying just to get me to shut up. She never follows through.
I seriously dont know what else to do. I’m tired of caring more about her health than she does, and I’m tired of the constant worry and anxiety every time I go to bed, worrying about her health and how things will turn out if she doesnt change.

Its killing me from the inside and i seriously dont know what to do. And she knows this, ive told her many times how much im suffering because of this. Its always „okay ill change from now on“ but that never happens, nothing changes.

How do I deal with this? How can I get her to lose weight? Am I wrong for being this angry? Its so hard to watch, especially knowing that youre doing everything but nothing is going through. Can someone please help me? And please spare the comments about „Just give up“, I could never forgive myself for giving up on my own mother.