My Doctors' nurse said I can take a bath but everything I read says not to take a bath with the catheter in. I would like to take a bath and also clean my catheter bag out while doing so.
Please advise.
My son is 18 and just came home from his first year away at college. He is/was an amazing kid: He was a star athlete (football, wrestling team captain for 2 years, state finalist). The school even had a parade for him. He was a very good (not straight A good, but B plus pre-AP good) and was away at a University on a full ride leadership scholarship. He had/has a ton of friends and every gal at his high school wanted to date him. Everyone looked up to him.
He got his first sales job this summer and set regional sales records. His first semester away he had a 3.0 average in tough finance (math heavy) courses.
However, according to my wife he has been seriously depressed for the last 3 months. We knew he was drinking quite a bit (alcoholism runs in the family, I am a sober alcoholic). According to my wife he can't sleep and can't concentrate. He may have failed his courses this semester.
He is going to therapy and on Prozac, but according to my wife he still can't sleep or concentrate. My wife is extremely nurturing and I have always been the strict father setting boundaries and expectations. I have never laid a hand on him physically (I was severely physically abused as a child and stopped the pattern) but I always set high standards for him. I was also his coach for many years (and did his Strength and Conditioning program...I have trained many elite athletes). One thing, we have never argued about anything except him doing his dishes and laundry (which he still does not do). He has always been kind and respectful.
I am thinking that I need to shift from being the father with high expectations to someone who is just loving, nurturing, and listening. I've had a ton of my own issues, but I never talked about them with my son. Should I share with him my own struggles?
I should probably just start by listening and not being judgmental with him. But beyond that I am at a loss as to what to do.
Any advice is greatly appreciated.