It’s like they finally figured out the sound system issues after atlienz or whatever but god this set was my favorite of the weekend. Liked X’s sunset set better than his nighttime set. Anyone have footage of Inzo set?
I (32M) recently started to date a fantastic person (39F) who I get along great with, it’s only been a little over a month. She has 2 kids, 10 (F) and 12 (M, autistic) with the dad and her doing 50/50 custody every week.
I am not interested in having kids (and she doesn’t want anymore) and the dad still being in the picture is actually a plus for me, I have had bad experiences in the past with cohabitation and seeing too much of my partner so I figured the week on week off would work for me. We both own our own homes and live 30-40 min apart.
I am paying for everything when we go out, and she has never offered to pay or split bills besides 5$ parking once or twice and a drink at a bar 1-2 times. This is honestly not a big deal for me as I make good money, she has kids so her bills are naturally higher, and I am the one planning/picking nice places to eat/go and enjoy spending money taking her out. I have also never asked her to pay, so I guess I have set a precedent. Maybe she assumes I am wealthy but she drivers a nicer/newer car and has a nicer home than me. I guess it’s the never offering to pay/split that is bothering me, even if I wouldn’t let her.
She was married for since college and seems to have spent the last 5 years having fun with casual dates (according to her) but now is trying to find a LTR. I found some social media posts complaining about how there’s no guys without kids who are willing to become a stepdad which I thought was interesting that she was unwilling to date someone with their own kids but I think I can understand why you wouldn’t want to deal with 2 exes, 2 custody schedules etc. anyways, all this background info is to say I am a little concerned about being used or settling for a stepdad. She told me she has never introduced a man to her kids in the 5 years she has been divorced even though she has been dating a lot. She has brought up me meeting them a few times which I thought was touching but also surprising since we have not known eachother too long. We both have been doing a bit of adhd “lovebombing” so things seem to be moving fast but I am bit wary, or maybe I’m just insecure. Are there red flags here ? Enough for her to think she is trying to ‘lure’ me in? While I certainly understand her wanting a safe and stable partner for her/her kids which I am happy to be, I just don’t want to be taken advantage of. This seems to be an issue mostly with myself as she hasn’t done anything wrong besides show enthusiasm in our relationship and maybe have a traditional view of men paying for stuff, so I may just be overthinking things.
I know a lot of the replies here are going to tell me to directly let her know my concerns/questions, but I am looking for what your experiences have been like in a similar situation since idk if I’m ready to have these conversations so early. I know things are different if the bioparent is not in the picture so was curious if this would be different with 2 involved parents with good income, what should my financial obligation(I don’t like this word) be expected to be when it comes to the kids/relationship? I’m not trying to come off cheap or scared of commitment but i feel like the paranoia or future resentment about being used for money would be easily taken care of if we just had this conversation sooner rather than later…Any advice navigating this $ conversation is welcome, sorry this ended up being so long.
First I want to say that without this subreddit I wouldn’t have been able to get through wd. Sometimes the stories I would read here would scare me though, so if you are someone looking for hope and read something that scares you just relax and remember that everyone’s experience will be different.
I recently met a girl and went on a few dates and noticed nothing was going on downstairs while making out, and this along with a few other things made me decide to go CT the next day. The worst is over but I’m still sleeping terribly and my libido is still very low. How long can I expect this to last? I really like this girl and I will probably need to be upfront with her about what’s going on and see if she’s willing to be patient with me..but are we talking weeks, months? Should I try certain supplements, pills, food? Not really trying to mess with my hormones more than they already are. 1 year 2 heaping tbsp/day habit, 32M