u/Nahlik_7

I'm 30M and just went through a 919-day relationship (nearly 3 years) that ended on July 7th. My ex is 30F and she blocked me on Spotify and Instagram a few days ago.After a little time into dating, we saw each other grow emotionally, mentally, financially, and in our careers. We even found out we went to the same elementary and middle school, and her aunt was my early grade school teacher. Given her grandmother's ring after her funeral as a gift, knowing the day of the funeral; I dreamt of my grandmother telling me to give her the ring and hypothetically asked her last week with all the bells and whistles, planning to ask her immediate family and parents without her knowing, with her hand in marriage.We had a solid foundation. My cousin using my old phone knowing I promised to buy him one and used my old phone privvy of my knowledge of him on my old phone. I bought her a phone, tires, bed, forgave her for damaging my car. But there was a trust issue that wasn't my fault; my cousin was messaging girls on my old phone that was paired to the same iCloud, and she saw a screenshot of their messages in my photos.I've been in therapy working on childhood trauma, codependency, and a need for control. I'm doing the work; I'm studying avoidant attachment patterns, holding no-contact, and focusing on my own growth. I have a fragrance business that's gaining momentum, and I'm saving for my own apartment by December.The hard part is I still love her deeply. I'd wait for her until my last breath. But I'm trying to become someone she'd want to come back to, not someone she'd feel obligated to.I'm at 5 weeks post-breakup. The loneliness is brutal, but I'm holding the line. Has anyone else dealt with an avoidant who blocked you? How did you stay strong?

I'm 30M and just went through a 919-day relationship (nearly 3 years) that ended on July 7th. My ex is 30F and she blocked me on Spotify and Instagram a few days ago.After a little time into dating, we saw each other grow emotionally, mentally, financially, and in our careers. We even found out we went to the same elementary and middle school, and her aunt was my early grade school teacher. Given her grandmother's ring after her funeral as a gift, knowing the day of the funeral; I dreamt of my grandmother telling me to give her the ring and hypothetically asked her last week with all the bells and whistles, planning to ask her immediate family and parents without her knowing, with her hand in marriage.We had a solid foundation. My cousin using my old phone knowing I promised to buy him one and used my old phone privvy of my knowledge of him on my old phone. I bought her a phone, tires, bed, forgave her for damaging my car. But there was a trust issue that wasn't my fault; my cousin was messaging girls on my old phone that was paired to the same iCloud, and she saw a screenshot of their messages in my photos.I've been in therapy working on childhood trauma, codependency, and a need for control. I'm doing the work; I'm studying avoidant attachment patterns, holding no-contact, and focusing on my own growth. I have a fragrance business that's gaining momentum, and I'm saving for my own apartment by December.The hard part is I still love her deeply. I'd wait for her until my last breath. But I'm trying to become someone she'd want to come back to, not someone she'd feel obligated to.I'm at 5 weeks post-breakup. The loneliness is brutal, but I'm holding the line. Has anyone else dealt with an avoidant who blocked you? How did you stay strong?