u/National_Local_2650

Hello! I’m a student and I had my first client today. I am feeling very uneasy because- short version is we ran out of time bc she had to go somewhere at 1:00 and she had to leave with her hair wet. I know this is probably so silly but any reassurance would help greatly.

Basically she came in around 10:30 and wanted a root touch up to cover her grays and a toner to cool down her previously lightened hair. She was a level 4/5 closer to the roots with level 6/7 mid to ends and lots of shiny white grays coming in. We did a level 5.5 root color and pulled through with a lighter lower vol. formula.

She told me in the beginning she had to be out at one, sharp. I was horrified. I had no sense of how much time I was taking and I really wish I worked a bit faster on the root application but it being my first time doing it on a person I was trying to make sure it was all done well. I pulled the secondary color through much faster than the root application but it wasn’t done processing til one 😭

She also wanted a cut and blowout style and I just feel awful that I took so long and wasn’t able to give her everything she wanted. And I’m especially nervous that I couldn’t see the finished color and make sure she was happy with it. She literally had to run out.

In my defense there were a lot of things outside of my control that slowed us down too like not ever being able to find a teacher or having to wait for them to get me the color. But still I know i definitely need to move faster. She did say she will come back tomorrow for the cut and dry but what if she hates it or it came out wrong.

I’m basically here to ask if anyone has tips for time management or can relate to taking too long on their first color service. I’m so anxious.

I told the full story in another Reddit post and had to delete it because honestly I think I made myself sound like an asshole and everyone ripped me to pieces in the comments it only made it worse. Long story short I was comparing myself to my long distance best friend who got on ozempic and suddenly lost a lot of weight without ever saying anything about it. And I basically said I felt shocked bc she didn’t tell me, she just posted a couple pics where she looked very different and it was obvious she did decide to go through with the glp1s. That is fine, I’m not mad and I’m not judging. I want her to be happy and do whatever makes her happy.

I also am a woman who lives in a world that constantly tells me I’m not good enough because of my weight and therefore my best friend secretly changing herself so drastically- a trait that we had always had in common- made me feel even more like I’m not okay as I am. Because if she felt like she needed to change and we looked the same than now I feel like I’m not good enough as I am.

I know it’s not all that nice sounding, Ik I sound super jealous, I can admit that these aren’t the most selfless feelings I’ve ever had. The truth is I just wish skinny culture wasn’t coming back so strong and that nobody would feel the need to change themselves. I’m frustrated that I can’t loose weight and people with more money than me can do it regardless of if they actually need it or not. (That is a general statement about some people I know NOT my bestfriend) I honestly was confused how so many people told me I was a bad friend for feeling this way. I was seeking advice on how to have a more rational response to this, I never claimed that I think this is normal or healthy of me, just that it has had an effect on me and I feel guilty about that in itself and I made the post to vent about that.

I’ll never let her know how this has affected me, I still talk to her all the time and compliment her and love her deeply. I genuinely am happy for her that she feels more confident. It truly isn’t to do with her, it’s the way the world makes me feel, the way I make myself feel and then this just felt like a step back. While I am happy for her I’m also mad that my self esteem was so weak that this has set me back like this.

I feel that I still am coming off asshole-ey, if this doesn’t make sense I’ll try to put in an different example: Imagine u and ur best friend have always talked about traveling but u both don’t have money so you never do it and it’s just an idea. Imagine that friend was gifted a trip around the world and gets back and tells u about it after it already happened. While u will be happy for ur friend that they got what they wanted, would you not also be a little jealous and thrown off by the fact they did it without telling you and you still won’t be able to travel anytime soon? Im sorry if that’s a bad metaphor and if I still sound like an asshole I just am horrible with words bc I do know for a fact that I’m not coming from a hateful place.

I just feel very deeply and this has affected me whether that makes me a bad friend in peoples opinions or not. I think what matters is how u handle it and i definitely am not ever going to make my insecurity her problem. Im actively seeking advice on how to heal this park of my brain that plants all these insecurities. That doesn’t mean I don’t still have them and it isn’t still a problem. Any advice is welcome but please be gentle I’m just trying my best.

Hi. I want to start by saying I AM NOT JUDGING my best friend. I don’t judge anyone who takes a glp1 for any reason. That said, I’m struggling with jealousy, shock, and confusion about this situation.

My best friend and I are in our early 20s (f). We met in college and stayed in touch, FaceTiming weekly. We’re still very close and share everything. I thought.

About a year ago, she asked me and our other best friend what we thought about her getting on Ozempic. I said she really doesn’t need it and should think hard about it because we aren’t aware of all the side effects. Her family was on it, offered to pay, and was pressuring her for a wedding. I wanted her to ensure she was doing it for herself, not them. She never brought it up again, so I didn’t think about it.

From then to now, I only saw her once about 5 months ago. We had dinner at night in the dark, wearing sweaters. Fast forward to now, the wedding happened, and she posted full-body mirror pics of her dress. I was SHOCKED to see my best friend of four years and not even recognize her. She had lost probably over half her weight. She wasn’t very big to begin with; we were about the same size, both midsized.

This has me messed up because I struggle with self-esteem, binge eating, and insecurity about my weight. Seeing my best friend change her body so drastically makes me feel like there’s something wrong with me because she was the only friend with a similar body type, and I found comfort in that. Now I just feel like the big one in the friend group.

Some jealousy comes from the fact that her parents bought it for her, and I could never afford it, even if I wanted it, which I’m not sure I do…I’m not mad at her, but finding out through a picture after she had already lost all the weight was definitely shocking, considering how often we talk. This whole time I hadn’t noticed, and then boom, she looks unlike herself completely. I get not blasting it on social media, but your best friend who you talk to at least once a week and “tell everything” to just kinda hurts a little bit. It’s also going to make things weird if she doesn’t address it, like it’s very obvious and noticeable, so when I see her this summer, I honestly don’t know how to act about it. Open for advice..

Again, none of this is on her; it’s personal issues, but I don’t know if anyone has anything to say that might help me get over it. I would greatly appreciate it.

TLDR: my long distance bff has been taking ozempic and didn’t tell me, I just found out through an Instagram post where she looked drastically different.