u/Nearby-Cry7830

I ,a( 22F )messed up.I am in a long distance relationship with my (25M )bf and when we were facing issues my anxiety sky rocketed and I ended up telling him it’s over even if I didn’t mean it.I reached back few minutes later and apologized.We talked on the phone and I explained it wasn’t coz I was done loving him I just sort of runaway when hurt.I really don’t want the relationship to end .He says he still loves me too but is trying to find his was back to me.To add on to that when we were addressing the issue I worded them in a way that shows what he does will never be enough in my eyes.I see it now how that could’ve been and I should have started by acknowledging what he does before raising my concern.I really need help I don’t know what to do

I a 23F and my 33F have not had a good relationship since childhood.For instance she would beat my stomach when washing me as a child ,to shutting me down when my other sister and her would sing and cut me off from wanting to join in.At some point in Highschool she told me to wipe of my gloss off when all my other cousins and sisters females would get dressed to go for a fun day out and everyone but me could doll up.She would use me as her personal sender even when I was occupied doing other stuff and not in a request way but authoritative.It once got to a point where I broke down and told my other sister that I didn’t want or even care to be sisters with her because of how she treats me.My sister was able to meditate and we became cordial .

Overtime,my sister became overbearing.For instance she would go through my following and if she found out I had queer friends she would rebuke the evil spirit in my face and not only that she would send her son to eavesdrop on my phone calls and tell her what he heard.It became pretty evident that she did not respect my boundaries.
I have blocked her countless times on Instagram to which she would retaliate and make it about her when in all honesty I am exhausted as I can be.I also find out I have this one follow from Pinterest that’s in an anonymous name to be her.At that time I didn’t even used to post on Pinterest.
In Uni she would threaten me with calling the school department when I would explain to her my units and exam schedule and she would think I am lying so she would extend herself to let me know that she was calling the admin to which if u responded go ahead she would still get livid.
She has gone through my ChatGPT account from an old account on the phone she lent me .She has called me names like slut and even questioned why I had tinder and said my work was to sleep around with men.
We’ve had couple sit downs where her husband has tried intervening and making peace and from calling me names when a middle ground was reached she would become sweet in the next instant like she didn’t just hurt me
I could go on and on but I digress.Yesterday I came from the gym in the morning and she told me I am bringing bad moods in the house .I was stunned.I asked her where that was coming from and she was like that’s what she’s been told and that she’s just woken up and even her kid realized that’s.Now context I wake up in the morning abit later than usual I check my phone and I find out some guy I paid to do some work with a deadline that’s approaching is asking for more money to complete it so in the moment I am frustrated and I’m typing back at him and her son (7) read my facial expression to which I responded to his question of what is wrong to nothing is wrong and switched off my phone ,cleared the table and went to make him and my niece breakfast before I ran to the gym for my morning appointment.Normally when I wake up early enough I manage to do the dishes but this time I told myself I would do them after because I knew if I stayed to clear the dishes I would shut down the idea of showing up to the gym at all .I explained this to her and she says I should have gone outside the house to deal with it.When I brought in comparison of how she’s had her moments and let it out on her kids and I’ve had to be there for them she says she’s their mother and she’s allowed to be how she wants and she walks away and I have a breakdown not only because of that conversation but also because I had just confided in her the previous day that my relationship with my bf was in a rocky place and still in that conversation she found a way to refer to it .
I have had instances where she would bring up things I told her in private to defend or prove her point and since she mentioned that wouldn’t happen again and it did.
I am saying all this coz yesterday in the sit down her husband understood the issue at hand and when he tried to explain it to her she walked away saying even I coming to the house I am swaying him away from her side and now she’s the bad person.she said I am disrespectful and even questioned why the husband hasn’t instructed me to respect her to which he asked me don’t you respect your sister which I responded I do but she wanted the statement to be respect your sister.She refused to have a conversation among the three of us and they walked away and when they came back no one was now speaking to me .
I let them know that I have let my mother know I want to go home.I am still in a rocky place and I don’t know how to move on because this cycle is exhausting and won’t end.Any advice on how I could deal with such a person is welcomed.I am open to clarifying instances which I’ve not explained well