u/Necessary_Bed_7380

Hola! Por contexto, soy una chica de 21 años. Desde hace un mes he conocido a un chico (20) por esta app (increíble para mí decirlo lol) y nos llevamos de maravilla. La conexión fue instantánea, y él es el chico más dulce que he conocido. Desde el primer momento me di cuenta que él si estaba dispuesto… a qué me refiero? No solo son sus halagos, sus fotos random y todo eso, sino que hasta se ofrece a regalarme cosas aún a la distancia… yo no sé cómo reaccionar porque no me gusta aceptar regalos, pero siempre me insiste. La última vez logré evadirlo, pero esta vez no pude y terminé pasándole mi PayPal y bam, sorpresa! Me depositó algo de dinero que para que me compre algo dulce, un churro que quería, y alguito más por si acaso. No es que sea la millonada o que sea interesada, pero el gesto en sí me ha dejado derretida por alguna razón… yo soy muy precavida y casi no confío en los hombres en general, pero con él es diferente. Ya sé que quizá suene ridículo o tonto, pero este chico me gusta y no me gusta la idea de que viva tan lejosss. Él es de chile y yo vivo en NYC, así que lo veo muy difícil. Él ni siquiera es un chico de dinero o algo así; él recibe dinero (alguito cada mes) de parte de su mamá y la pensión de su papá, y aún así me derrite que trata de regalarme cosas… es como que su intención es tan dulce que me deja tipo sonrojada y sintiéndome tonta. En fin. No me quiero ilusionar ni tampoco pensar que puderia funcionar, pero solo quería compartir!

Es cierto eso de que el que quiere, puede.

Hola! Llevo pocos años viviendo aquí y casi no tengo amigos, así que pensé que sería una buena idea ver si conozco a alguien que viva en la ciudad :)

Hi, everyone! I’m 22 (F) and waiting until marriage. I know this is not usual — people always think I’m missing out, or being too exaggerated and even comment that I’ll die as a virgin— but I truly made a decision and I’m doing my best to make it happen.

Sometimes I feel so lonely and sad, especially because I’ve never had a real boyfriend, kissed, or anything at all; sometimes I wish I could just do it and not care about it this much… but I know me, and I know how sensitive I am. I just feel like, ever since I moved to NYC, it’s so hard to even meet people worth knowing that would wait for marriage, or at least are not as desperate to have sex. For context, I used to go to church (was raised in) and still carry those values. NO, it’s not brainwashing or anything, it’s just something I’ve decided I want to do even though I’m far from church and I’m not religious or judgmental. I just made a promise to God once and would like to fulfill it :)

Anyway, please don’t judge me or make me feel bad about it, I was just venting in a community where nobody knows me and I can at least be honest :)

Hi everyone! I’m turning 22 in November and I’ve never had a Pap smear. I’m a virgin with my hymen still intact, and before I make up my mind about getting one, I wanted to hear from women who’ve actually been through it.
A little context: growing up, I went to the gynecologist twice because of period issues, and both times they ended up skipping the Pap smear once they saw how nervous and uncomfortable I was about it. I kind of got used to being able to avoid it that way.
The last time I went (I was 20), the nurse told me I should still get one soon, even though I’m not sexually active, just to rule out anything that could be going on. Honestly I was shocked, because I thought “I’m not sexually active” was my permanent get-out-of-it card lol. She reassured me it would be fine to do anyway, but I got nervous, said I’d think about it, and never went back.
Since then I’ve read a lot of scary stories online about Pap smears being really painful or traumatic, and that’s made me even more anxious about the whole thing.
So I wanted to ask:
• If you had your first Pap smear while still a virgin / with your hymen intact — how did it go? Did they use a smaller speculum or a different approach?
• For anyone in general: how did you know it was finally “time” to get one?
• Any tips for dealing with the nerves beforehand?
I don’t think I’ll go get one super soon, but I’d rather hear real experiences than just the scary stuff that comes up when you Google it. Thank you in advance!

Hi! I currently go to LaGuardia, studying Bilingual Education, and I’m planning to transfer to CCNY when I graduate for the spring semester and as the title says, apply for a scholarship if possible. I am currently in the spring session, and fall semester will be my last, but I just want to start preparing for when it comes. I would just like to get any suggestions, ideas, tips on how to get a scholarship? I currently have a GPA of 3.5, but I hope it goes up to at least 3.7 before I transfer :)

Hi! I currently go to LaGuardia, studying Bilingual Education, and I’m planning to transfer to CCNY when I graduate for the spring semester and as the title says, apply for a scholarship if possible. I am currently in the spring session, and fall semester will be my last, but I just want to start preparing for when it comes. I would just like to get any suggestions, ideas, tips on how to get a scholarship? I currently have a GPA of 3.5, but I hope it goes up to at least 3.7 before I transfer :)

First of all, this is more like a vent text than anything, but any advice besides saving or lowering my debt, or where to get some money (legally jk lmao) would be well appreciated. Sorry for the longggg text:

My head hurts just to think about this, but somehow, I ended up with an Apple credit card and in debt. I’m F21 and don’t know what else to do. I live with my family (parents, siblings and grandma) and we all split the expenses. I work part time and get paid bi-weekly like $680 -$700 dollars —I estimate I get a total of $1,300-400 dollars a month depending on how many hours I work. But the thing is, I owe $1k in the Apple credit card, plus another $1,198 in aligners I got because my teeth have always been my biggest insecurity, and now I also owe $260 form my Bank of America credit card. This stresses me out a lot as I’m still in college and find it hard to pay all this when I also have to pay $500 of rent (which I know it’s not a lot), $150 once a month for my family grocery shopping and $150 dollars for my family phone bill… I just feel so uneasy. I work in a school and we get so many days off, plus I’m thinkin about all the times I had to stop working for even 2 almost 3 weeks because of long breaks. It’s basically gonna be the same thing until July 1st, because that’s when I’m going to start my summer job, but it’s only $20 hour and 19 hours per week, so I don’t know. I don’t wanna ask my parents for help because they do already pay for my tuition, sometimes give me my transportation fair, pay for my groceries and stuff, and I feel like asking for help with the debt would be very irresponsible and insensitive from me. I was planning to spend the summer having fun with my sisters and best friend, but now I can’t even go out and buy a candy without being worried for what I owe…

Btw, I don’t go out like at all, and if I rarely do it’s because I really have to and try to spend less than $20 dollars. I do meal prep every week and even do exercise at home, have my own treadmill and gym equipment, so I don’t pay for a gym membership. I barely have any subscriptions (just Apple storage, Apple Music for students, Amazon prime because and yeah, I think that’s it). I don’t get a second job because I don’t have time. Between my classes and work, and by the time I get home, I’m exhausted and still have homework to do.