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Planning a Saturday night birthday outing in the LES with a group in our mid-to-late 20s. We're having dinner at Wu’s Wonton King around 8:00–10:00 PM, hitting a nearby dive to pregame/bridge the gap, and then looking for a club or solid dance spot within walking/short Uber distance.

​Looking for specific recommendations that fit this criteria:

​Music: Reggaeton, current hits, and 2000s/2010s throwbacks (middle/high school era).

​Vibe: Absolutely no upscale, snooty bottle-service places or aggressive door policies. A place where people are actually dancing and having fun, ideally with a bit of space or a secondary room/upstairs to catch your breath.

​Dress Code: Casual to slightly dressed up, nothing crazy strict.

​Environment: Needs to be an easygoing, inclusive, and fun crowd (don't want my mtf friend getting weird looks or an annoying bouncer).

Lower drink prices always preferred, I know that's a long shot.

​What places are hitting right now for this kind of night? Open to LES, East Village, or a quick ride across the bridge to Williamsburg/Bushwick/South Brooklyn if the venue is worth it. Thanks!

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My friend (28F) and I (27M) have known each other for nearly a decade since college. I’ve had feelings for her off and on, but they were never reciprocated. Two years ago, I tried to kiss her, got rejected, and genuinely thought I had moved on to just being friends.

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The lines always end up getting blurred again. We text all day, we talk over the phone while watching tv, we go out a lot. She does that thing where suddenly everyone is nonbinary in her stories and if she ever does bring up a story about an ex shes apologetic about it even when I reassure her there wouldn't be any reason for me to get upset. She’s been doing "relationship" things, acting super affectionate, and fitting in perfectly with my life. She loves my mother and she doesn't act any different around my friends. Not sure if this is overthinking but one thing she did while a few of us were having dinner was that she wouldn't think I noticed her putting some of her own food on my plate to try while I was distracted talking. Anyways it culminated during a day trip a few days ago.

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We were having a perfect day and ended up sitting together watching the sunset. She leaned her head on my shoulder, I held her, and we had a heavy heart-to-heart about how much we care about each other.

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The vibe felt completely different this time, so despite me having tried and failed before I asked: "Can I kiss you?"

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Her reaction was brutal. She sighed my name in a deeply disappointed, dejected tone, like a “you just ruined the moment and made this awkward” vibe. But she didn't move away, and she kept leaning on me. Honestly? I felt a wave of relief. The rejection felt clear as day, and I was ready to finally, permanently move on. The circumstances surrounding my attempt to kiss her before were just not ideal and I was boneheaded and tried to kiss her at a time when she was opening up about something unrelated so I guess I always felt that it wasn't her feelings but the timing and I never felt proper closure. In the moment I asked her to please not feel bad and that I simply owed it to myself to ask and I was just happy and proud I did.

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We left, and I completely dropped the subject to act normal. She seemed uncomfortable, asked if I was mad (I wasn't), and said she should probably just go home.

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But then we stopped to grab fast food. While we waited, I put on a basketball game that meant a lot to me on my phone. We had planned on going to a bar to see it before she decided she should go home instead. She sat next to me, I could tell she was staring at me but I had to play it cool or else I'd break so I kept looking at the screen acting normal. She leaned on my shoulder again, and out of nowhere, kissed my cheek. I just smiled and thanked her to play it cool.

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A few minutes later, we were outside waiting for her rideshare. We were joking around and back in "friend mode." But when her car was two minutes away, she turned to me and asked, "Can I kiss you?"

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We ended up making out and then after a few of talking her ride pulled up.

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I am completely emotionally whiplashed. It was everything I could want but only after I had mentally rejected the idea of it ever happening so I wasn't even really able to get lost in the moment and I was just all up in my head. Part of me feels like it was a pity kiss because she felt terrible about rejecting me earlier on the pier. But making out right before getting into a car doesn't exactly feel like a "pity" move.

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We're texting completely like normal. I haven’t brought up that night yet because I don't even know how to interpret this. Last night we went back to watching tv over the phone like nothing.

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Is it possible she just did that out of guilt/pity to throw me a bone?

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How should I approach talking to her about this?

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Tldr: Long-time friend shut down my attempt to kiss her during a romantic sunset. An hour later, after I accepted the rejection and backed off, she initiated a cheek kiss and then asked to make out with me right before her ride arrived. Now we're texting like normal. What is happening?

My friend (28F) and I (27M) have known each other for nearly a decade since college. I’ve had feelings for her off and on, but they were never reciprocated. Two years ago, I tried to kiss her, got rejected, and genuinely thought I had moved on to just being friends.

The lines always end up getting blurred again. We text all day, we talk over the phone while watching tv, we go out a lot. She does that thing where suddenly everyone is nonbinary in her stories and if she ever does bring up a story about an ex shes apologetic about it even when I reassure her there wouldn't be any reason for me to get upset. She’s been doing "relationship" things, acting super affectionate, and fitting in perfectly with my life. She loves my mother and she doesn't act any different around my friends. Not sure if this is overthinking but one thing she did while a few of us were having dinner was that she wouldn't think I noticed her putting some of her own food on my plate to try while I was distracted talking. Anyways it culminated during a day trip a few days ago.

​

We were having a perfect day and ended up sitting together watching the sunset. She leaned her head on my shoulder, I held her, and we had a heavy heart-to-heart about how much we care about each other.

The vibe felt completely different this time, so I despite me having tried and failed before I asked: "Can I kiss you?"

Her reaction was brutal. She sighed my name in a deeply disappointed, dejected tone, like a “you just ruined the moment and made this awkward” vibe. But she didn't move away, and she kept leaning on me. Honestly? I felt a wave of relief. The rejection felt clear as day, and I was ready to finally, permanently move on. The circumstances surrounding my attempt to kiss her before were just not ideal and I was boneheaded and tried to kiss her at a time when she was opening up about something unrelated so I guess I always felt that it wasn't her feelings but the timing and I never felt proper closure. In the moment I asked her to please not feel bad and that I simply owed it to myself to ask and I was just happy I did.

​

We left, and I completely dropped the subject to act normal. She seemed uncomfortable, asked if I was mad (I wasn't), and said she should probably just go home.

But then we stopped to grab fast food. While we waited, I put on a basketball game that meant a lot to me on my phone. We had planned on going to a bar to see it before she decided she should go home instead. She sat next to me, I could tell she was staring at me but I had to play it cool or else I'd break so I kept looking at the screen acting normal. She leaned on my shoulder again, and out of nowhere, kissed my cheek. I just smiled and thanked her to play it cool.

A few minutes later, we were outside waiting for her rideshare. We were joking around and back in "friend mode." But when her car was two minutes away, she turned to me and asked, "Can I kiss you?"

We ended up making out and then after a few of talking her ride pulled up.

​

I am completely emotionally whiplashed. Part of me feels like it was a pity kiss because she felt terrible about rejecting me earlier on the pier. But making out right before getting into a car doesn't exactly feel like a "pity" move.

We're texting completely like normal. I haven’t brought up that night yet because I don't even know how to interpret this. Last night we went back to watching tv over the phone like nothing.

Is it possible she just did that out of guilt/pity to throw me a bone?

How should I approach talking to her about this?

Tldr: Long-time friend shut down my attempt to kiss her during a romantic sunset. An hour later, after I accepted the rejection and backed off, she initiated a cheek kiss and then asked to make out with me right before her ride arrived. Now we're texting like normal. What is happening?