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My gay ex continues to deny my experience and tells people that I wasn’t hurt and that my injuries were self-inflicted. Having to hear those claims while going through an ongoing legal process has been incredibly painful. It feels like I’m not only dealing with the trauma itself but also with having my reality questioned.
For those who have experienced a former partner denying everything and spreading false narratives, how did you cope? How did you stop letting their words affect you? Did things get better with time?
I’m trying to trust the legal process and focus on healing, but some days it’s overwhelming. I’d really appreciate hearing from anyone who has been through something similar.

Straight women unknowingly marrying a different orientation man, is it something we should stop . One should be proud of one’s orientation , still using women and kids for social status

Hi everyone,

I’m trying to process something very difficult and would really appreciate support or perspective.

After 14 years of marriage and having children together, I discovered that my husband had been living a separate, hidden life and had not been honest about his sexual orientation. Looking back, there was a long pattern of emotional distance, lack of intimacy, secrecy, and behavior that I now understand differently.

I feel deeply hurt and misled. It’s hard to come to terms with the idea that such a big part of my life was built without full honesty.

Right now I’m struggling with:
- feeling manipulated and emotionally exhausted
- trying to stay strong for my kids
- figuring out how to move forward and rebuild myself

Has anyone gone through something similar?
How did you cope and heal from this kind of betrayal?

Thank you for reading.