u/Neither-Dot-704

Hey everyone

I’m kind of freaking out and don’t really know who to ask.
I’m 20, and for the last little while every time I go to the toilet I’m passing a lot of dark redish maroon blood along with some pretty big blood clots. It’s way more than just a few drops or blood on the toilet paper. The whole toilet bowl turns dark red, and sometimes I even pass blood without having a bowel movement.

The clots are what’s scaring me the most because they almost feel like little pieces of flesh when they come out.
The weird thing is I’m not really in pain. The only discomfort is a slight burning feeling around my anus. I did have receptive anal sex a couple of weeks ago, but it wasn’t rough, it didn’t hurt, and I don’t remember injuring myself.

I don’t have a fever or diarrhea or anything like that, but I do feel pretty tired and weak.
Has anyone experienced anything like this before? What did it end up being? I’m genuinely terrified and my mind is going to the worst case scenario. I am planning on getting checked out because this doesn’t seem normal, but I’d really appreciate hearing from anyone who’s been through something similar.

Hey everyone, I could really use some advice.

I’ve been seeing a guy for about two months now. Let’s call him Nik. So far, things have been going really well. He’s 40 and I’m in my late 20s. I never really had the chance to date men before because growing up back home, being queer wasn’t exactly something that was easy or accepted. Since moving to Europe, I’ve finally felt free enough to explore dating and hopefully find a boyfriend, and Nik is the first person I’ve genuinely connected with.

He’s kind, caring, emotionally mature, and honestly, he’s stood out from anyone I’ve met before. That’s why what happened recently has left me feeling a bit conflicted.

A few days ago, Nik told me that he’s HIV-positive, but undetectable and on treatment. When he first told me, I was honestly caught off guard. I didn’t really know what to say in the moment. But after going home and sitting with it for a while, I realized that his diagnosis itself doesn’t actually change how I feel about him. I still like him, and I still enjoy being with him.

The part I’m struggling with is that we had sex once before he told me.

When I asked him why he hadn’t told me earlier, he said he was insecure and afraid that if he told me right away, I would reject him. He said that now that things seem to be getting more serious between us, he felt it was important to be honest and tell me the truth.

I can understand where that fear might come from, and I know there’s still a lot of stigma around HIV. At the same time, part of me feels hurt that he didn’t tell me before we became intimate. It’s not really the HIV itself that’s bothering me. It’s more the fact that I wasn’t given the chance to make a fully informed decision.

Now I’m trying to figure out how to move forward. On one hand, I really like him and I don’t want fear or stigma to ruin something that could be good. On the other hand, trust is important to me, and I’m still processing the fact that he waited until after we had sex to tell me.

Has anyone here been in a similar situation? Does anyone have an HIV-positive partner who’s undetectable? How did you navigate the trust aspect of it? And based on what I’ve shared, would you give this relationship a chance?

I’d really appreciate hearing your thoughts and experiences

I have not been able to give my best in exams out of 8 exams I failed in 6
I came from India and I shifted here in Germany and I’m struggling a lot
I gave 2 oral exam I failed and I gave 6 written exam out of which I failed in 4
I don’t know how to be better now I don’t know what to do
I have one more chance and if I don’t make it then university will expel me
Can someone tell me how I can be better

Hello everyone I’m 24 male student here in Hamburg and it’s been 6 months since I moved here and I’m still looking for a place to rent here in Hamburg
Right now I live in harburg in a WG but it’s not a good place to stay because of the flatmates.

So if anyone has any leads then please help me out and lemme know