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My every day goes with a war and hence im the one that gets hurt, betrayed, given wounds.

Its been from years. And since i used to hope they will change one day.

But narcs never change.

They are wired by Allah to be like that and Allah makes some people just to test us.

Very sad to say its a test by Allah. Alhamdulillah ala kulli haal.

Every day one fights another enables and one sides up.

This is my daily. And because of it my mental health isnt quite well and on top of that they call me names over my mentalhealth.

May Allah deal with them and protect me.

Yall learn how to deal with narc and educate yourself regarding narc and the mental healing tactics required for such people.

Practice methods that can be used against narcs.

Seek Allah's Aid. Allah is watching what they are doing gaslighting manipulation lying slandering backbiting. Everything that happens to you Allah is watching hope this gives the victims of narcs that Allah sees every pain you through.

Every war you fight alone daily is seen by Allah.

Especially when it all comes from your own blood kith and kins.

Your own parent will betray you your own parent will lie about you.

This how they are wired and now it is what it is.

Lets see our duties to Allah and stay away from narcs and when they interact use tactics and seek Allah's Aid. Just like how Allah aided his prophets against tyrants.

They are no less.

Note : not everyone is narc they could have some narc traits.

My brother was abusing me and i was silent and then out of anger i got defensive and then my mother comes and insults my face

Im not more than a slave to them

I hope Allah brings a good death on me and before i get married cuz she just insulted my face and i know maybe im ugly.

My whole family abuses me. 💔

Im kind of done. You know if it wouldnt have been haram to suicide i may have done it. Crying right now.

Any?

Btw which "mother" stares at her daughter with a weird and hatred ,jealousy face when she thinks her daughter wont notice her staring at her like that? 🫠

Im scared now how will i manage to wake up for fajr and pray 💀.

Its scary. My home have been paranormal ( mind u we have changed homes)

Seems like someone doesnt wanna leave us.

What do i do. Its scarh

I won't add anything here that title is enough.

Horrible it is if you are a person in the family sticking to your deen.

Cause thats what makes you more vulnerable to them eh.

Ever seen the family infront of others??

They become victim and you are the villain lol

And they act so nice.

Horrible for the scapegoat :(

Will say stick to duas and Allah and seek Allah's help.

I won't add anything here that title is enough.

Horrible it is if you are a person in the family sticking to your deen.

Cause thats what makes you more vulnerable to them eh.

Ever seen the family infront of others??

They become victim and you are the villain lol

And they act so nice.

Horrible for the scapegoat :(

Will say stick to duas and Allah and seek Allah's help.

Who can take you out of such environment except Allah? None.

QUESTIONS for those who got similar family

How do you manage?

What helps you avoid being target by them?

A VENT AND RANT GUYS

She treats me like a slave among my siblings and her.

Btw a slave is treated better by believers

Im her own bloodddddd but treats me as if someone had dumped me in garbage and then she took me from there

Disgusting some people are

I can sense her jealousy and hatred for me

It hurts so much when this is from your very own mother yes "mother"

Ehh i have started disliking when someone says oh "a mother is so lovely she can never do that to her very own kids" when this statement is used generally

Yall know if i go telling every bit of a thing she has done to me

It will be such a long thing to read and also yall will either be shocked or smth

I cant tell everything what she does to me

But even when i think of my needs such as clothes or etc

I feel as if im asking a favour from those not my own people

A gaslighter manipulator liar accuser envier jealous person she issssss

Tells me to do chores as if i owe her i am obligated to obey her , mind you all she asks her sons in a way as if they aren't obligated to do for her she asks them in a respectful hesitant way in a sense that she thinks why bother them if they have a slave , her very

own daughter

Yall know im such a daughter if my mother had respected me if she had treated me like her own child if she hadn't abused me

I would have been such a obedient nice child

I was and i try to be kind to her

I do things on my own so that she doesnt have burden

I used to feel bad when she used to do hersel

But she started treating me trash when i was a kid

Like she used to treat me lessee and worse in every possible aspect than her sons

I clean toilets im obliged to do every household work bcuz im her daughter and im a female that blah blah meanwhile her own parents treated her so well she was the only daughter as well.

I can tell you i do the work more than her sons

Uggh

At this point i think i should ignore and not remember these things again n again

N just try more to obey and honour her,

in the end. I dont have any option other than this

Lets see where my Allah takes me haha

Fine, i will make duas and ask Allah's forgiveness whenever and for whatever i fell short ( i did i accept , i couldn't tolerate her cause she is going too much these days )

May Allah forgive me whenever i disobeyed and dishonoured ( i really don't wanna guys:(

But even I'm a human yall think if yall go and beat some guy even if the guy tries to control his anger but at the end he loses , obviously)

May Allah forgive me whenever i complained to him and made him displeased

May Allah forgive me for crying over things and complaining ( idk if this is complaining )

May Allah love me and make it easy to obey and honour her ameen ( mind yall , i give her duas and i make dua that allah make her softer towards me , ya Allah 🫠)

In the end i know i fail to obey and honour her these days cuz she literally disrespects me and treats me bad and does politics

And at the end i know she aint a mother but someone who thinks im her rival ( she got some issue)

Cuz she is a narc mother.

So in the end nothing will change i guess , a narc doesnt change. And i will try to obey and honour her

Marry someone over loving and over caring and a best salafi husband. Who will take me somewhere far from such people

And yeah. An imperfect cinderella lol but with my own biological mother ( this made me laugh btw lol ) ( def need therapy lol , i was so good some days back but things started being very wrong lol like she was always the narc but in between things were okayish i can say)

Assalamualaikum ehh just ranting here because this is what makes me feel heard and makes my heart lil bit light

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Just an another rant of a daughter of a toxic unhealthy mother.

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Goodness Allah has appointed such a mother over me so yeah gotta obey and honour her

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Yall might think whenever someone ranting about such a mother is their fault nah

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It isnt

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Yall dont know how hard and how painful and traumatic it is to have such parents lol

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She is a covert narcisisst

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Yall if you see her talking with others you will say oh my such a nice human such a cute and joyful person.

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Wow

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But yall haven't seen her with her children and her daughter whom she treats as the unfavorable option among her kids

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Have called her whatnot as mockery when she was a kid just a 6 to 9 year old kid haha

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Ruined her childhood and whatnot but yeah

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Subhan Allah when i told this to a student kf knowledge he comforted me and said Allah made some people just to test other people

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:) goodness ya Allah

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Ehh just surviving with such a person.

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She has her own politics you mind has to be a similar mind of a soldier to be living with her btw

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( Over actibe nervous system always in anxiety and constant overthinking and worry )

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This is a test i know

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But i have to be strong to handle her and to obey and honour her even when she sees my kindness as a weakness to harm me

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Yes narcissists see kind people as their victim lol

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I was the chosen kid to be a scapegoat in this family dynamics

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Because i was soft and kind to her when she was treated bad by my father

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Yeah

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Yall try to do everything for the sake of Allah

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Cuz being good and kind will cost you harm lol from such ppl yeah

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So be kind for the sake of Allah so that its reward doesnt go in vain.

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Ty for reading such a long thing 😂

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Love yall.

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Just because i used laughing emojis and said lol in between doesnt lessen the pain and trauma and hurt and hardship i have gone through ehh

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Jazakallahu khaira for your time

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Books of ilm and other than that in conclusion overall helped with your deen and dunya as well.

Whether it was of ibn al qayyim rahimahullah etc

This post is just so that i could have this as an influence and also so that i could know where to invest my time better ( on a book ofc ).

Im a sister.

Idk where to start. But i will start.

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Idk currently what should i speak first of but i will try

Currently im very sad and heart broken.

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Because most of the people around me seems to treat me like as if i don't get hurt.

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I have started having trust issues because of that.

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I dont get it why do people tends to treat me like that.

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Maybe because they see me as a punching bag?

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Should i stop getting social with people?

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Like why do they see me as someone " oh lets hurt her "

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On the other hand there are people whom people wont hurt them.

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Maybe i guess the reason them ready to hurt me

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Is me being sweet and kind to people.

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I should stop it i guess. I wont be unkind but should stop being unnecessarily kind to them.

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AND I GUESS FEMALES THAT ACKNOWLEDGE ME BEING SWEET AND KIND THEY TEND TO HURT ME.

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so now i get the point. They see me being weak kind and sweet , so they hurt me because they know im not someone who will hurt them back right?

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Oh Allah. I know Allah rewards a believer for whatever sorrow and grief they go through.

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May Allah love me and be with me and become sufficient for me..

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MY EXACTLY QUESTION: HOW DO I MAKE SURE PEOPLE STOP CROSSING MY BOUNDARIES OR STOP HURTING ME.

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AND MY OWN FRIENDS SEEMS TO BE DRY TO ME AND WEIRDLY HURTING TOWARDS ME

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ARE THEY JEALOUS OF ME?

Im a sister.

Idk where to start. But i will start.

Idk currently what should i speak first of but i will try

Currently im very sad and heart broken.

Because most of the people around me seems to treat me like as if i don't get hurt.

I have started having trust issues because of that.

I dont get it why do people tends to treat me like that.

Maybe because they see me as a punching bag?

Should i stop getting social with people?

Like why do they see me as someone " oh lets hurt her "

On the other hand there are people whom people wont hurt them.

Maybe i guess the reason them ready to hurt me Is me being sweet and kind to people.

I should stop it i guess. I wont be unkind but should stop being unnecessarily kind to them.

AND I GUESS FEMALES THAT ACKNOWLEDGE ME BEING SWEET AND KIND THEY TEND TO HURT ME.

so now i get the point. They see me being weak kind and sweet , so they hurt me because they know im not someone who will hurt them back right?

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Oh Allah. I know Allah rewards a believer for whatever sorrow and grief they go through.

May Allah love me and be with me and become sufficient for me..

MY EXACTLY QUESTION: HOW DO I MAKE SURE PEOPLE STOP CROSSING MY BOUNDARIES OR STOP HURTING ME.

AND MY OWN FRIENDS SEEMS TO BE DRY TO ME AND WEIRDLY HURTING TOWARDS ME

ARE THEY JEALOUS OF ME?