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an example as presented above, the woman in the beginning speaking with a neutral voice, asking a question on behalf of one of the sisters in the sisters section (it is a segregated conference to be fully clear)

this is simply a reminder to the sisters regarding this issue, and a clarification also that this does not mean that a woman must stay silent, especially in cases of necessity, unlike the understanding of the christians

“women should remain silent in the churches. they are not allowed to speak, but must be in submission, as the law says.”
— bible, 1 corinthians 14:34

“i do not permit a woman to teach or to assume authority over a man; she must be quiet.”
— bible, 1 timothy 2:12

rather, this is a protection from الله, as made clear in the verse “lest he in whose heart is disease may covet” meaning that it is not that every man has evil intentions but rather, it is that a woman is safeguarded from those who may have ill intent, because we know that it indeed exists

this also is part of modesty, and modesty is a part of faith, so if a woman intends to speak, “speak with appropriate speech.” (33:25)

to further clarify, here is the statement of shaykh ibn uthaymeen رحمه الله which i think is relevant:

“for instance, the obligation of hijab in islaam is not because islaam accuses every woman who does not wear hijaab of being immoral, or because all men will look at her as a focus for their inappropriate actions and behaviour. islamic societies raise people to be righteous and pious at all stages of upbringing, in the family and in the street, school, mosque and at university. the fact is that islamic rulings that encourage good manners, decency, chastity and modesty which are enough to deter many people from committing immoral actions, not just covering.

but islaam does not only look at the majority of people; rather it pays attention to the fact that there is also a small percentage of evildoers, in order to protect the well-being of the majority and so that they will not be affected by the actions of the minority, that could harm and destabilise society with their actions, such as violence and abuse against women”

source: qur’aan (all the parts of the verse is in 33:25), shaykh ibn ‘uthaymeen, al-liqaa al-shahri 17

unlike the ideology of feminism which forces women into coerced corporate productivity under the guise of empowerment and at the expense of stripping of her of her femininity, family life, emotional + biological wellbeing

when they are on their menstrual cycle, many women have to take medications which inhibit their pain simply to maintain the demands of modern productivity culture, and so forth despite the pain, fatigue, hormonal shifts, and other difficulties that can accompany it and the adverse side effects this can have physically and mentally over time with frequent use(reference to studies at the bottom)

islaam provides a beautiful reality that takes into account the sanctity of a woman’s body and safety, alongside her intelligence and ability. islaam has facilitated for her ease in that she is not obligated to work, whilst also being able to maintain her goals and aspirations and contribute to society through them, and if she is to gain financially, she does not need to divulge that and that money is hers, all without compromising her deen and her esteemed contribution to society as a mother; all whilst she is being provided for by her husband/family. she is able to give benefit to society in both ways, with great reward both on this earth and the hereafter, how beautiful is this?

now tell me, which is truly the system which gives one empowerment and agency?

some studies which support this observation:

[https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/38502189](https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/38502189/)

[https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/38502189](https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/38502189/)

[https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/40414720](https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/40414720/

[https://www.theguardian.com/society/2023/nov/20/two-thirds-women-uk-work-periods-menstruation-symptoms-survey-report](https://www.theguardian.com/society/2023/nov/20/two-thirds-women-uk-work-periods-menstruation-symptoms-survey-report)

[https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/40577700](https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/40577700)

sources: pubmed, university college london (ucl), king’s college london (kcl), keio university (jp)
university of occupational and environmental health, japan + chartered institute of personnel and development (cipd)

i literally have no words…

may الله forgive me, may الله make disobeying Him abhorrent and ugly to me, and may الله keep all of the young people firm and away from sins 😢

😭😭

may الله protect us and keep us firm upon the qur’aan and sunnah

i pray that الله facilitate for the sisters righteous, kind and caring spouses, and means to frequent the masjid of the prophet ﷺ, and to be able to enjoy the sweetness of being in the lands of the muslims

there are many different services for sisters in the masjid of the prophet ﷺ, among them being able to listen to the lectures of the scholars, as well as classes with the mashaykha’s including lessons and tajweed correction etc + a very expansive library for sisters

the ustaadh is a student from the islamic university of madinah, may الله preserve him

apologies for the volume quality, my phone was faced downwards which hindered the audio

“as of coffee, it is considered part of the obligatory expense for the wife if she is used to it and normally relies on it, based on customary practice (‘urf).”

(this is a principle citing older hanbali jusripsudence discussion about customary maintenance/spending on one’s wife (nafaqah) and how social norms affect it)

reference: al sharh al mumti’ ala zad al mustaqni’ by shaykh muhammad ibn salih al uthaymeen رحمه الله, cited hawashi al iqna’ (marginal notes on al iqna’) (2/987) by mansur al buhuti رحمه الله

athar: al-bayhaqi , shu’ab al-iman, vol. 10, p. 39, narration no. 7131

this is directed to those who like to use derogatory language such as “women are finished” and false accusations and slander which is very common, and other forms of injustices towards sisters, and الله knows best

note: this statement does not negate the use of jarh wa ta’deel if done correctly under the correct conditions, say if it was to be done and the subject was a woman for instance, just had to clarify that before anyone got too excited 😭

بارك الله فيك

source: the kitaab of abū nuʿaym al-aṣbahānī رحمه الله, ḥilyat al-awliyāʾ wa ṭabaqāt al-aṣfiyāʾ, vol. 2, pp. 167-68

context: bint saʿīd al-musayyib’s father was saʿīd ibn al-musayyib, among of the greatest scholars of the tabi’in, and he was praised by ali ibn al-madani (the teacher of imam bukhaari رحمه الله) and known by the title ‘sayyid al taabi’in’ due to his knowledge

she was raised in a house of knowledge,and so she was able to amass much knowledge, that she could teach her husband what he was going out to learn, i believe this to be very intimate, and a very manifest sign of love for her husband سبحان الخالق

another fun fact, she would be considered the great-granddaughter of the senior companion abu hurayrah رضي الله عنه, as her father was his son in law

Wasting time has become a huge problem,

When a person gets distant from Allah سبحانه وتعالى he starts wasting his time chasing dopamine,

Protecting your time from fitnah is protecting your imaan.

May Allah سبحانه وتعالى make us productive ameen.

im obviously not a sister, but i thought it would be good to encourage the perspectives of other sisters ان شاء الله and to get some engagement and discussion going between the sisters ان شاء الله

i will only be observing is all, may الله reward you all

dear brothers and sisters, i cannot stress enough the importance of maintaining a plan especially for the best days of the year

a plan will help you have direction and know what you seek to achieve in these days of dhul hijjah, rather it is something that as muslims we incorporate in our lives in order to achieve the best use of the most precious commodity, time

make sure to have a simple schedule ان شاء الله, and make sure to set actionable and realistic goals for yourself so you can stay consistent throughout the period

(make sure to make your goals super specific ان شاء الله, that way you know exactly what you are doing and you will not be privy to procrastination)

make sure, that if you don’t have a journal, to review yourself at the end of the day and hold yourself accountable, so that you may find any shortcomings you have and work on them the best you can by the will of الله, as this was one of the characteristics of the salaf

make sure to time block your goals so you can visually know where or when you will dedicate time to acts of worship, so that you may maximise your productivity during these days ان شاء الله

may الله have mercy upon us from His boundless mercy, and assist us in making the most of these blessed days, to be be forgiven, cleanse our hearts and souls and to get closer to الله 😊