u/NewAlessia

So I cracked a couple weeks ago. When I cracked I discovered I also like pre-op trans women in addition to cis and post-op trans women. At first the desire was overwhelming and I chalked it up to the flood of emotions I got with cracking. It has since calmed down to normal levels but I see cute pre-op women post pictures on an nsfw subreddit I'm on and the urge is definitely there.

Prior to cracking I only slept with the girl who I lost my virginity too(also a virgin) and my wife( emotionally and sexually separated currently, not due to cracking, still very close friend). I had always considered myself demisexual cause I didn't really have a sex drive until I fell for a girl(not uncommon, a few over the years). Now I think it had something to do with the fact I didn't understand my gender identity. Because of this I never had to worry about STDs.

I understand anal sex is the most likely way to transmit STDs. I'm also worried about oral transmission. I understand condoms exist as well as dental dams. I understand that there's information online, but I also know the amount of sex education for queer people is limited and can be bad or outdated information.

Obviously I'd want an STD test for any sexual partner I gain but I also understand they could get a test that day, sleep with someone an hour afterwards pick up an STD, then sleep with me that night.

What's a reliable source of information for sexual education for queer people? What ways can I prevent STDs during oral in addition to dental dams and condoms? Is it common for cis lesbians take birth control in case of transbian sex in case condom breaks? I know herpes is super common but I also know most people don't get effected by it and it's not included in most STD tests, do I need to be worried about it? Is there other stuff I need to know about sex safety with cis and trans women that I'm not thinking about?

This got me started when someone posted a pre transition and post transition picture of Elliot page on sipstea. One comment on their was "I used to have such a crush on ...him(?) back in the day?" This got me thinking about the implications. Additionally, I understand stuff is a spectrum and labels are iffy at best, but I think this is a good question to ponder.

I've recently transitioned and I've come to learn saying "when I used to be a guy" can hurt other people's feelings and is incorrect, cause even though i identified as guy, i was technically a girl without realizing it. "People were always y not x, it's not about changing your sex to match you preferred gender is about changing your sex to match the gender you always had." Is what people more knowledgeable and experienced than me have told me.

If you like someone of the opposite gender before they know they're trans, does that make you bi/gay/queer? Yes they current have X body, but they're still a Y. I understand you can be attracted to feminity and masculinity rather than gender too, which is why a lot of guys like femboys. Does this make you that?

Similar scenario: if someone is closested trans and still looks like X and you don't know that but you are close friends with them and understand they might not the most gender affirming person, does that slighted your straight/queer bar slightly to the queer side? If they tell you they're trans but are still pre hrt and op, is it queer to still be sexually attracted to them?

I joined this sub when it was recommended to me on a sub for trans people. I'm like hell yeah I love guns. But I see everyone posting these dope ass guns and was going to post my own as it's pretty decked out. Then it hit me, what if your government finds these pictures. I might be overworried cause I'm from America and our government is already heavily anti gun despite our second amendment, but this current administration is so anti trans and they are targeting us. Does this not concern anyone else?