u/Nice_Juggernaut4113

Crappy fathers day / my husband spent all week talking about not saying he wanted to die in front of our kids, not fighting with me over silly things, getting out of bed and making the best of our lives.
And yet the moment the kids gets home from camp he’s back in the bed screaming and yelling. Calls me a bitch and says I set him up in a trap … yells I didn’t cook him any meal. He went to bed at 4 pm on Saturday - as I was cooking a father days meal. I said do you want me to wake you when dinner is ready? He said no. The next morning I made bacon, eggs, pancakes and around 11 just quietly asked if he might want some breakfast- he screamed at me. Emerged at 2 pm and said he couldn’t believe this was father’s day and I won’t even cook for him. Made him a hot lunch which he took two bites of and then started going off about how he needs to go to the grocery store himself. Tells our kids he’s going to kill himself multiple times. Then says that inset this all up and made his Father’s Day horrible. The kids bring him up a gift and card and he screams at them that he’s a piece of shit and mom is the one who bought the gifts and throw them away or take them back and now he’s back asleep again after sleeping 20 hours already…
It’s straight psychotic at this point and he says it’s not depression it’s just that he is married to a bitch….

My daughter went to sleep away camp for two weeks.
When she came back, her best friend from school asked her to video chat. When she got on, the best friend and another student were on the video, and they told my daughter they don’t like her anymore and are “ghosting” her.
All throughout camp, my daughter had been writing home about how excited she was to see this friend and go to the movies. She had made a costume to wear to the movies and was so excited for weeks and weeks. The “best friend” indeed ghosted her and went to the movie with the other classmate. The mother of the other classmate, who I do not know, sent me a very long text message about how the girls don’t like my daughter and made a series of accusations about her behavior that my daughter found hurtful and untrue. (And as a mom they don’t ring true to me either).

I know middle school girls can be very mean - I don’t know if I’m looking for advice or just venting - but it was really upsetting.

My daughter said, “mom I thought my friend was calling to say she missed me and ask how my summer camp was, and instead she called to say she was going to the movies without me.” As a mom, I was heartbroken to watch her go through this experience… and unfortunately, I can’t tell her things will get better because I know this is only the start of the many mean things tween girls do to each other during these middle school years :(

Hi all, I switched to Bambu and haven’t looked back. I have a TOYBOX comet with a lot of filament - i have the original box to mail it in as well.
If anyone is interested. I’m happy to see how much filament I have and offer unused filament at $2 off regular price along with comet printer at very minimal price plus shipping cost.
I can throw some free used filament in as well.
If you are interested let me know I’ll collect things and send photos

Over the past four years my husband has become meaner and meaner. He stopped doing any chores, he doesn’t take care of the house at all and it’s embarrassing to have people over or even drive by it. Because I bought the house before we married he doesn’t want to be involved even though he lives here. He complains constantly about the house, where we live, etc but has not taken one single step to look at new houses, understand loan options, explore new neighborhoods. He just bitches bitches and bitches more.
This morning he slept 16 hours and I finally woke him up to ask if he could mow the lawn before it rains. Well he calls me a bitch, cunt, a walrus. Says that only in the area we live in and this house would he have to mow a lawn - which is just silly but he grew up with his mom and never had to mow a lawn because they didn’t have a yard - then before he went out he says “there’s my wife what a beautiful woman” in the most nasty fucking way possible.

I’m really tired of even very small asks he won’t do. He has easy fixes he does half of and then leaves. He won’t mow the lawn, won’t fix anything, he just sleeps all the time and if you ask him even one small simple thing he calls me an ugly cunt birch.

In my mind he’s lazy, manipulative and just childish and I’m really good with it. It distracts me from work I need to do (I work two jobs and have a book project and have lots to do with our kids) and never lets me rest on the weekend because he’s always attacking me.

The more he sleeps the more shitty he gets, and he’s just been getting worse and worse for years and I hate it….

TLDR: husband won’t do basic household chores and calls me horrible names all the time, especially if I ask him to do a 20 min task.

Hello,
I had a labral tear that was diagnosed 10 years ago and treated though arthroscopy/stitches to repair labrum. The doctor said the tear was very clean and minor, they did not see a lot of abrasion or irritation and felt that it was a really clean and straightforward procedure.
I had two toddlers and not so great health insurance at the time - I did PT as required but once I met the minimum standard for release, I did stop going due to cost. They said ideally I would have continued for several more weeks but it just wasn’t in the cards at the time.

Well - the pain has come back with a vengeance. I don’t know if weather has anything to do with it, but after 2 weeks of rain, I found my hip throbbing in the same area. It hurts so bad it keeps me up at night. I feel stiff when I move, and the pain is constant.

Is it possible the stitches came loose and I somehow retore the labrum??

Wondering what I’m doing wrong or if anyone has had pain come back like this.

Background: Adopted only child with mother who was abusive from about age of 12 and from whom I was completely estranged for a decade and have a very poor relationship with.

Question: I do not want to be a caregiver - I have no inclination. My home does not accommodate her and I have two kids and wont be spending their college savings on her care. I’m happy to help navigate care for her until her own savings runs out. I’m not interested in protecting any sort of inheritance. We have already sold her house and I’m trying to carefully extend care for as long as possible based on what she has saved. However, when that money runs out, she will need to go on Medicaid.

Reading through this sub I hear a lot of stories of financial and emotional devastation from caregiving. I’m emotionally burnt out enough just managing her care and trying to show up as I am able. Am I not able to put her on Medicaid when she runs out of money? I don’t know if the financial issues are a choice people are making because they want a higher level of care than Medicaid provides or something else. I’d like to be prepared in advance to protect my own financial assets. She has enough money to last for several years, but I suppose I need to start planning in advance to ensure I am not swept into a financial situation that harms me and my children.

Hello,

My child is in FLL - and she is reapplying again for next year but the school is opening up applications very widely and eliminated creative project which makes it harder to prove your ability.

I guess I am a bit confused as a parent - on the one hand, I 100% understand opening up opportunities to all students. On the other hand, I don’t understand how my child can grow her skills she has built if she can’t continue on to the next grade level and there are no other school-sponsored robotics activities.

Would love to understand this better!

Thanks!

Hello,

This just came up in my feed but I have a daughter going for black belt. She has been training since 2020, for 5 and a half years.

Does that timing seem right?

The testing is registered through a tae kwon do foundation in Korea, and some (all?) of the judges fly in from Korea, so the testing is offered twice a year. She has been training for 7 months for her black belt, 2-3 times a week and for the past few months daily, and the last 30 days with special clinics 2 times a week. She spends more than 2 hours in training those days and has some weekend clinics as well. This is after several grades of high brown belt.

Does this seem like correct practice?

Thanks!