u/No-Bid-3489

Hey everyone,
I’m posting here because I’m feeling a bit lost and I really need some wisdom, advice, or just someone to talk to who might understand. I’ve been trying to figure out my identity lately, and it’s taking me to some really specific, deep places that I’m struggling to categorize.
To put it plainly, here is what’s going on in my head:
I like to think I’m trigender. Experiencing three genders feels right to me.

I feel a strong desire for "threes" in my physical/metaphysical form. Specifically, I feel like I should have a third eye, a third nipple, and three genitals.

I envision myself with three different voices and three different shadows.

I’m at a crossroads because the trigender part feels very rooted in the nonbinary community, but the rest of it—the extra anatomy, the multiple shadows, the different voices—feels like it crosses over into straight-up Otherkin/alterhuman territory.
I guess my questions for you all are:
Is this kind of experience still considered being nonbinary, or is it purely an Otherkin thing?

Can those two identities overlap? Like, is it normal for your gender identity to be tied to a form that isn't entirely human?

Has anyone else experienced a deep connection to a specific number (like three) when it comes to both their gender and how they perceive their ideal body/spirit?

I’m feeling a bit overwhelmed trying to find the right language for all of this, and I'd love to hear your perspectives or any advice you have on how to navigate this. Thanks for listening.

I’m looking for advice on how to "reconstruct" the church experience so that it actually works for autistic people. I’m specifically interested in building a neuro-inclusive spiritual community—particularly within a Christian or Neo-Divine framework—and I’d love your input.

If you had your way, what would you say is essential?

The Environment: What sensory or structural features are a "must" (or a "must-not")?

The Socials: How should community and interaction be handled to avoid burnout?

The Advice: If someone is autistic and wants to get into Christianity or a Neo-Divine church, what should that church do to make them feel truly welcome?

I’m primarily looking for perspectives from people who are religious or spiritual (of any faith!), but if you aren’t religious and have thoughts on how these communities can be better for us, I’d still love to hear your suggestions.

What are your deal-breakers, and what is your vision for a safe spiritual space?