u/No-Wrongdoer-8511

Hi, My husband (30M) and I (26F) are looking to rent a 3BHK rent near Tollygunge as it's close to my husband's office. We need it to be spacious. Please share genuine photos/videos. Thanks!

Today my(26F) husband(30M) came home from work in a really good mood. He was tired but affectionate, hugging and kissing me, and everything felt normal. I was studying for my BTL1 certification at the time, so while we were both happy, I was focused on studying.

He then went to talk to his parents. His dad drinks in the evenings and is often skeptical or critical about money matters. Apparently something his dad said upset him, and my husband started trying to explain how expensive life is now and how hard he works to support the household. From what I saw, it wasn’t a screaming fight at first — more like him emotionally trying to make his parents understand and appreciate him.

After over an hour, I gently tried to signal to him that maybe he should stop and come rest because he had just returned from work tired. He ignored it because I think he genuinely wanted them to understand his side.

Almost 2 hours later, I said I was hungry and asked if we could eat dinner. He finally came to the room, but then his mom made a comment like “why are you lecturing so much?” and that upset him even more. At that point he became angry at both parents for “ruining his mood.”

I tried calming him down and told him to let it go and eat first, but he suddenly snapped at me saying something like “How can you expect me to switch off my emotions like a robot?” Then he stormed off saying he’d eat later alone.

I didn’t think I had done anything wrong, so I ate dinner myself. Later I went upstairs to check on him and he was still upset but calmer. Eventually he came down and quietly ate dinner.

Important context: I had just started my period and was cramping badly the entire time. Also during dinner he started drinking alcohol (just one bottle of Bro Code), and honestly it seemed to make his mood worse.

Later I asked him to move a little so I could make the bed and lie down because I was in pain. He told me he’d do it himself, but instead sat on his laptop. After waiting, I asked again if he could please make the bed because I really needed to lie down.

That’s when he suddenly shouted loudly at me in a way he never has before. I ended up shouting back too because I was overwhelmed and hurt. I went to the bathroom and cried.

When I came back, he was sitting quietly in my chair. Then he held my hand, asked me to lie down with him, apologized sincerely, and we made up.

Now he’s asleep and I’m conflicted. On one hand, I know he was emotionally overwhelmed, stressed from family issues, tired from work, and alcohol probably made things worse. On the other hand, I feel hurt because I genuinely don’t think I caused the situation, yet I still got shouted at badly while already in physical pain.

I don’t want to drag the issue forever or punish him, especially because he did apologize on his own. But I also don’t want to normalize being shouted at and accidentally create a pattern where stress gets taken out on me.

AIO for wanting to have a serious conversation about boundaries tomorrow instead of just pretending everything is fine?