So this is mainly in youtube, in the comment section of even not so famous youtubers, people commenting like ithaa/chechi big fan, chechi comment pin cheyyo, hi tharuo, ente name videol parayamo, like bro who are these!😭
How can she make sure not to reveal her face when it’s her own wedding? The guests will definitely post pictures right
Usually we hear discussions about toxic mother-in-laws, but what about toxic daughter-in-laws?
My brother was always very close to my mother before marriage (her first child and obviously the favourite one). After marriage, he slowly became distant, which I understand can happen naturally. But over the years, I started feeling my sister-in-law keeps finding faults in my mother no matter what she does.
For example, after marriage my mother never pressured them about “good news” or having kids because it’s up to them. But my sister-in-law turned even that into a complaint saying maybe my mother didn’t want grandkids because we had a newly built house and kids would “ruin” it.
Now they have 2 kids, and she complains that my mother is not taking care of them enough. When she got pregnant with the second child, she even said my mother wasn’t happy with the news.
The thing is, my parents provide a very comfortable life for them. We have a full-time house help, my mother cooks, the helper handles cleaning, and my sister-in-law mainly takes care of her own kids. My father is almost 65 and still working abroad to manage all the house expenses.
Even when she goes to her parents’ house, my mother never questions her or forces her to come back quickly. In our community, some in-laws even fix how many days a daughter-in-law can stay at her own home, but my mother never did that because she it’s her own home and she can stay as long as she wants.
But even that became a complaint. My sister-in-law said my mother never calls her back because she doesn’t want her in the house. Honestly, if my mother had asked her to come back early, then the complaint would probably have been that she doesn’t let her stay peacefully at her own home.
There was another incident too. When my sister-in-law’s brother got married, my mother asked her to check with him for a suitable date for Virunnu because newly married couples usually have many functions and busy schedules. My mother was only trying to arrange it properly out of respect for them. But even that became a complaint saying my mother was “giving pressure” and “creating headache” by asking for the date.
Even if my mother goes out with her sisters for some time, my sister-in-law complains that she leaves her alone at home with the kids, even though there is a house help.
At this point, I honestly don’t know what happened to my brother also. He always supports her side in everything. For example, when their second child was born, he was discussing baby names with his mother-in-law right in front of my mother, asking for suggestions and opinions, but he never even asked my mother once. I completely understand both families should be equally involved, but my mom was not included at all even though she was sitting there.
That’s what hurts me more. It feels like my mother is slowly being excluded from everything.
At this point, I genuinely feel whatever my mother does, there will always be some complaint. So I really want to ask: can daughter-in-laws also become toxic sometimes? Because online discussions usually focus only on the other side.
Do you think the hype is too much for this!🤷🏻♀️
Like interview with Veena and all!
Her baby got the canadian passport! Can this be the purpose she planned her pregnancy even before graduating and getting a stable job?
Hakri subscription shoots to 1,681!
Just 30 minutes back it was 1660, increasing like crazy!
What do you think about “Arabic Kalyanam” that used to happen in Kerala? Getting girls (especially from poor families) married to Arab traders for a short period in return for mehr?
I’m 29 and my husband is 32. We’ve been married for about 1.5 years. Growing up, I never really had a strong desire to become a mother. I do like kids, I love my niece nephew and friends’ babies but I never felt that desire to have one of my own.
Before marriage, I assumed maybe after 2 years of marriage I’d feel ready and will plan for one, and that desire would come naturally. But as time passes, I actually feel the opposite. The more I see the reality of parenting, the constant attention, lack of rest, emotional and physical demands, the more I feel like it’s not something I truly want.
Recently, I spent time with close family friends who have 2 kids under 2. They were clearly struggling, both kids crying, no proper rest, constant chaos. Even a short trip with them felt exhausting instead of relaxing for me. It made me realize how difficult it really is, and honestly, I don’t think I have the patience or energy for that kind of responsibility.
What worries me most is the idea of bringing a child into the world without genuinely wanting it. That doesn’t feel fair to the child. I’d rather be honest with myself than regret such a huge decision later.
I’ve tried telling my husband that I don’t want kids, but I’m not sure he takes it seriously he may think I’m just saying it casually. He likes kids, but I also don’t feel confident that he would be equally involved in taking care of the baby other than financially.
Is it normal to feel this way after marriage? Has anyone else shifted toward wanting to be child-free, even if you once thought you’d have kids?