But I don't wanna be so hard on myself. I miss him. He hasn't seen the message yet
I hope at least he won't ignore me. I resisted for weeks... it was so hard
It's been 20 days of no contact and I'm missing him. Last messages after the break up were mine, he didn't answer. Then he put like to some of my stories... I want to talk with him, I want him back but I don't really know what to do. This is the first time that we go so long without messaging or seeing each other. Before, after other break ups, I reached out and we would reconcile. Last time he said it's over... What do you suggest? I hope you can understand me and not judge me
Last messages were mine, after the break up. I miss him a lot. Every day I write a message in his chat and then cancel it. I wish I could hear from him. I miss our chats, I miss his voice, I miss making love with him. I'm temped to break no contact
I don't know what to do and what to think. Everyday (when it's possibile), I try to distract myself to not think about him (avoidant) since when he decided to broke up again. But there are days like this where I really struggle. And I wanna know: does he miss me, too? Does he even think about me? How can someone go to say that my presence "turn off his brain" (in a positive way, said when he already told me that wanted to break up, but we were hugging each other and he told me that as to say that my presence could have make him change idea, but he didn't) because he knows he feels good when he's with me, and still decide to break up and tell that it's over? 😞 I miss him, I think we are really good together. We laughed, we talked, we had really good and intense sex. I don't know what to do. I don't wanna our memories to fade away, I want to be with him. Now it's been 10 days since the last time we texted and he was cold...
I know there were feelings from his side, I've seen it, he told me (even if he wasn't able to define which feelings), I felt the connection. I felt the intensity. I felt that it was real. But now I'm having these negative thoughts, I'm starting to think that maybe I was nothing to him because how can you go 16 days without reaching out to me? (Last messages were mine, after the breakup)... I WISH, I REALLY REALLY WISH there was a way to know if he misses me, if he still think about us 😔
I miss him. I miss his voice, his laugh, his arms, I miss him
Come posso fare?
I don't know what to do and what to think. Everyday (when it's possibile), I try to distract myself to not think about him (avoidant) since when he decided to broke up again. But there are days like this where I really struggle. And I wanna know: does he miss me, too? Does he even think about me? How can someone go to say that my presence "turn off his brain" (in a positive way, said when he already told me that wanted to break up, but we were hugging each other and he told me that as to say that my presence could have make him change idea, but he didn't) because he knows he feels good when he's with me, and still decide to break up and tell that it's over? 😞 I miss him, I think we are really good together. We laughed, we talked, we had really good and intense sex. I don't know what to do. I don't wanna our memories to fade away, I want to be with him. Now it's been 10 days since the last time we texted and he was cold...
It's like for them the grass is greener. Or it's just my impression? They know you love them, you are comprehensive with them like nobody else can, but somehow it's like they are always there thinking about the fact that they can find someone more beautiful, more *other things*. LOL don't know if I want to laugh or want to cry.
I don't know what to do and what to think. Everyday (when it's possibile), I try to distract myself to not think about him (avoidant) since when he decided to broke up again. But there are days like this where I really struggle. And I wanna know: does he miss me, too? Does he even think about me? How can someone go to say that my presence "turn off his brain" (in a positive way, said when he already told me that wanted to break up, but we were hugging each other and he told me that as to say that my presence could have make him change idea, but he didn't) because he knows he feels good when he's with me, and still decide to break up and tell that it's over? 😞 I miss him, I think we are really good together. We laughed, we talked, we had really good and intense sex. I don't know what to do. I don't wanna our memories to fade away, I want to be with him. Now it's been 10 days since the last time we texted and he was cold...
I wonder if he thinks about me, if he'll reach out 🥺 this hurts
It's been 8 days since the last time we texted each other
I miss him, I hope that he'll understand and come back to me ☹️
I’m hurting a lot right now.
This is the second time we’ve ended things, and both times it was his choice. I want to clarify that this was not an official relationship but we acted like it was (except for the usual things avoidants don't do or struggle to do in a relationship) This time he says it’s really over, and honestly he sounds pretty certain about it.
Even though it’s incredibly painful, and I’m terrified of moving forward (terrified of him moving on too, and of someday seeing him with someone else) I think maybe it’s finally time for me to let him go. I tried, and I kept trying.
The hardest part is that I care about him so deeply. I truly love him, and until the very last moment I kept hoping he would realize that a lot of his running away from me was driven by his own fears. Deep down, I think he knows it too. he has admitted it. but he doesn’t do anything about it.
What I can’t understand is how someone can go from showing up at my place (even after ending things), talking to me, making love to me, and saying goodbye… to then being so cold and almost cynical over text, telling me it’s over.
When I told him I miss him and asked why he never includes me in his activities while he does with other people, he just shut it down.
I really need honest opinions on this, especially from people with avoidant attachment styles. How do you switch off like that? How can you recognize your fears and patterns and still choose distance? Did he care and just compartmentalize, or was I only important when I was physically there?
I’m trying to accept reality, but I’m struggling badly.
For the avoidants:
How do you recognize the difference between the two?
When you say it's over it's really over?
I’m hurting a lot right now.
This is the second time we’ve ended things, and both times it was his choice. I want to clarify that this was not an official relationship but we acted like it was (except for the usual things avoidants don't do or struggle to do in a relationship) This time he says it’s really over, and honestly he sounds pretty certain about it.
Even though it’s incredibly painful, and I’m terrified of moving forward (terrified of him moving on too, and of someday seeing him with someone else) I think maybe it’s finally time for me to let him go. I tried, and I kept trying.
The hardest part is that I care about him so deeply. I truly love him, and until the very last moment I kept hoping he would realize that a lot of his running away from me was driven by his own fears. Deep down, I think he knows it too. he has admitted it. but he doesn’t do anything about it.
What I can’t understand is how someone can go from showing up at my place (even after ending things), talking to me, making love to me, and saying goodbye… to then being so cold and almost cynical over text, telling me it’s over.
When I told him I miss him and asked why he never includes me in his activities while he does with other people, he just shut it down.
I really need honest opinions on this, especially from people with avoidant attachment styles. How do you switch off like that? How can you recognize your fears and patterns and still choose distance? Did he care and just compartmentalize, or was I only important when I was physically there?
I’m trying to accept reality, but I’m struggling badly.