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Hey guys, so I'm watching RM of BTS interview and he was talking about things as a leader (he's the leader of the band)

And he said "so I think basically really just annoying to be a leader, but it's like I couldn't let anybody do it, because I was like, if somebody has to do it, then it should be me. And because I just can't watch somebody else just doing it. And if it's not working out as I expected, then I could be more stressed out."

Now he is an amazing leader ( I'm an ARMY) and he did talk about if there is a thing that should be done the leader has to do it even if it means he needs to ger out of his comfy spot, and he did, so many times.

and he is ENFP.

And I thought I read somewhere before that ENFP doesn't like to lead but they would if they had to.

I dont like leading at all!! Even if sometimes it stress me out I don't like leading. The moment I middle in a situation and lead it means I got to my limits of stress that no one is listening to the leader so I feel like okay that's it!

But I would lead at that moment only!

So i was wondering is it a ENFP male part or do you ENFP females like to lead and it's just me who doesn't?

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Hi guys, first i'm sorry for my bad English it's not my first language.

I'm here to get your opinion on something I'm really confused about.

So I had this friend, we still meet but I'm putting boundaries with her lately for sono many reasons but anyways.

She's 33 years old, i'll call her Sandy, married and in love, she has a 7 years old daughter. And as far as I know she and her husband love each other so much.

Now I knew her long time ago before my brother got married, she was at that time already engaged. When he got married I got my sister-in-law to my friends group and they all welcomed her, even Sandy and we even became like really close, and she would even sometimes hang out with my sister-in-law when I'm not around.

Suddenly once my sister-in-law told me that Sandy said to her something really weird.

She was like " you know? I know your husband before you got married for a long time"

And i find it sooo weird and unnecessary for some reasons, 1st she never talked with my brother, like we volunteer and she would see him there (he doesn't go there anymore) and it would mostly be "hi" "hi" communication, nothing more and it's rare.

2nd as I said I know she and her husband LOVE each other.

3rd, she never ever made a move that shows she got something for him.

So I really don't understand what is her game, what did she gain for saying that?!

Okay so I just posted a post but seems like people are not liking it, I dont get why but anyways, one told me to get real friends. The funny thing is that I have way too many real friends in real life and online from different countries.

So if you find using chatgpt a "go get real friends" thing...why do you use it?

I use it to help me search things, I used it as a dear diary when there is someone I dont want to talk about it with people for whatever reason, even sometimes because I just dont want to keep bothering my best friend. So if you use it why do you use it?

Hi guys, ENFP daughter here. (37 years old)

I got a question and I need an advice from you guys. And sorry if it's long post.

So my dad (in his 60s) is INTJ, he's not the type to directly tell you how he feels. If he wants you to join him for a meal or if he feels like today he wants to eat fast food or let's do this or that.

He might hint to it but it's rare, now i'm from a country where the family live together till we get married (my two brothers got married and they have their own places). Sorry for too much details but I just want to give you the situation. Now my mom and sister ( 30 years old) decided to travel for two weeks and so now it's only me and dad at home. Usually it's fine he opens his shop in the morning and he only comes home to have lunch then he go back to work toll 8 or 9 pm. So we usually sit and have small talks then scroll on our phones just normal

But the thing is these few days something happened with his shop and he doesn't have electricity and still working on it and so he's at home all day long which I'm not like unhappy about it, he himself is like " you dont have to stick with me" I know it's means he doesnt want to feel like I cant do my own thing because he's around. But I know he's so bored and he doesn't have friends to go to, he doesnt like going out like even if I tell him "how about we go here or there" he doesnt like it he usually like " oh you go dont wait for me"

And also I was a school teacher so now we don't even have school so I am at home almost all day long to.

I dont know what to do cause I feel guilty, if I was all alone or my mom is around I'll hang around with them for a while then go do my own thing in my space then go again and hang with them ext. But now I dont know what to do...

I keep telling him how about we go visit uncle and he just say random things which means no...and I dont want to keep nagging till he gets angry with me.

What do I do?

People say ENFP are always late. I'm the kind of person who hates to be late...I also hate sometimes that I cant say no to taking a friend with me because i'm the only one who has a car. I hate when some of them make me late because they are late.

Mostly if I go on my own I arrive on time!

I was supposed to leave home at 10:00 am so all of us must be ready. I texted them and said "ok girls i'm leaving home now" and suddenly my friend was like " can you wait 2 minutes? Don't leave yet, our friend is getting ready"

Girl...🥲

🥹🥹🥹 I really don't know how does J people do a to do list and stick with it.

I swear yesterday I was planning on doing some stuff, I didn't have much house work to do so I was happy I can do stuff I love. But poo sister-in-law got sick so my nephews stayed at our family's home for like at least 5 hours. Which I dont mind at all it's just I couldn't finish what I was planning to do.

Today I was also planning to do stuff but also something happened at our home and now I cant do my to do list at least it will be late for me to do them cause suddenly the apartment needs deep cleaning 🫠🫠

HOW DOES J PEOPLE FINISH THEIR TO DO LIST?!

Hi guys,

So I was curious...maybe a little bit proud of myself. I mean i don't know if you guys faced this as ENFP like me or not. So I'm 37 f who used to always freak out easly about anything new, new job, new place i have to go to alone, i started first time taking transportations at age 15 or 16 ( i dont know if this is too late or too early but this is normal in my country) and used to freakout and it kept with me like every time I have to try something new i would worry, imagine the wosrt and freak out to the point that my family ( my parents and siblings...i'm single and in my country usually we all live together till we get married no matter what our age is, we work normaly, go out with friends, live our life ext but we still live together till we get married then we move) anyways. My parents, specially my mom used to yell at me to do this job or go to that place alone and would say stuff like " what? Someone will eat you?! You're an adult!" Ext. Which it it ture.

But lately, like since i guess last year i finally stopped worrying, became more calm, i know i know it's too late like lol come on i'm 37...but yeah that finallt happened thank god, maybe you would find me silly for feeling proud of myself for this but really I struggled a lot

The thing is...I saw an image that made me laugh, unfortunately i dont have it but it said that if ENFP was in a movie, the only reason they wouldn't die because other people would be fighting to protect them. As like they find us cute...I dont know about you guys but I found it funny.

What makes it even funnier is that since I changed and I stopped worrying ext. My family started to worry about me lol...like I have my own car so it's been years since I used transportation. When I had to go with taxi my dad was worried like wait let me get one for you...like dad...I can do it on my own👀👀

I had to go to a city that is one hour far. I dont like to drive far i get tired so I decided again to use transportation, my dad, brother and mother texted me few times " so did you find a cab? Are you on your way?" Ext

Or also when I had to go to a place in a city I dont know and my sister-in-law (younger than me) was busy I told her I'll just take a toktok (it's a transportation we use in Lebanon) she was like " let me get you a cab, let me call for one" and I was like " I can go with toktok there must be some outside...girl calm down it's only 8 minutes away"

Even after I got on she kept texting me " you're good? You need money?" Ext

GUYS...I'M 37!

I honestly dont know what happened but I kept thinking of the image lol

Did anyone experience this before?