u/No_Ant508

So in January my mom’s cancer came back and was told 6months stage 4 metastatic lung cancer. Well now she is on hospice for the last 3 weeks and the decline has been noticeable. As she went on hospice the next day I saw a shadow in my room and it touched me and I felt chills. It was 3am. Then a couple days later I felt the presence again but it was in my doorway just standing there. Again 4am. Then a week later I was putting lotion on it was 9pm and there plain as day I saw a blurry person standing looking at me from my kitchen.
Nothing happened for a while and then as my mom started to decline little things happened.. I was working out it was 4am and my music kept pausing that never happens I out loud said “ok I get it you’re here and you’re not who I thought you were who are you?!” And plain as day in front of my I saw my aunts face smile ear to ear and disappear. It was 5am.
Then yesterday I was getting all my workout stuff together it was 4am and I thought my son was awake because I saw a child in the hallway (not abnormal for him he has erratic sleep) but I looked again and it was a girl short hair I did that look 3 time till she smiled and disappeared.. I told my mom and aunt and they said “that’s Joanne our sister” my mom had a sister who died at 7 in a house fire I’ve never seen a picture of her besides her baby photo and this was a kid like 6 or 7 I saw in my hall with shoulder length hair “they said yes that’s her” and my mom smiled ..
I came with all this to say what does this mean and why am I seeing all these people if she is the one dying? My aunt said it’s because our souls are connected but I don’t see that. Another family member said I have “the gift” like their aunt ruby did (they said she read the sticks (their words not mine I don’t know what that is). Personally I don’t know all I do know is it scares me and then I feel comfort. I’ve always stayed away from these kinds of things (my daughter does tarot and I’m too scared of it ) mainly because all my life since I can remember I always felt a presence around me Stronger when I was younger but always there. Now since my mom has been sick it’s been as intense as it was when I was little. I don’t believe in organized religion but I am a very spiritual person.
I let my daughter yesterday do 2 tarot readings and my cousin did one they all said the same thing.. this is happening as a second chance to learn empathy for the living dying and dead and I never used my gift before.
This was the first time I’ve ever done tarot. So last night when I was going to sleep I did what it said I opened myself up and I said “well if this is real and you all are here why what do you want me to do” and i instantly felt 3 hands touch me I got chills and comfort all at once and fell into the deepest sleep ever (I’m normally a light sleeper) now all morning I’ve felt an uneasyness and nausea..
what does all this mean it’s coming to me that I should acknowledge this part of me and lean into this but how what do I do
Some one in the paranormal sub said I should cross post here so here I am

So in January my mom’s cancer came back and was told 6months stage 4 metastatic lung cancer. Well now she is on hospice for the last 3 weeks and the decline has been noticeable. As she went on hospice the next day I saw a shadow in my room and it touched me and I felt chills. It was 3am. Then a couple days later I felt the presence again but it was in my doorway just standing there. Again 4am. Then a week later I was putting lotion on it was 9pm and there plain as day I saw a blurry person standing looking at me from my kitchen.
Nothing happened for a while and then as my mom started to decline little things happened.. I was working out it was 4am and my music kept pausing that never happens I out loud said “ok I get it you’re here and you’re not who I thought you were who are you?!” And plain as day in front of my I saw my aunts face smile ear to ear and disappear. It was 5am.
Then yesterday I was getting all my workout stuff together it was 4am and I thought my son was awake because I saw a child in the hallway (not abnormal for him he has erratic sleep) but I looked again and it was a girl short hair I did that look 3 time till she smiled and disappeared.. I told my mom and aunt and they said “that’s Joanne our sister” my mom had a sister who died at 7 in a house fire I’ve never seen a picture of her besides her baby photo and this was a kid like 6 or 7 I saw in my hall with shoulder length hair “they said yes that’s her” and my mom smiled ..
I came with all this to say what does this mean and why am I seeing all these people if she is the one dying? My aunt said it’s because our souls are connected but I don’t see that. Another family member said I have “the gift” like their aunt ruby did (they said she read the sticks (their words not mine I don’t know what that is). Personally I don’t know all I do know is it scares me and then I feel comfort. I’ve always stayed away from these kinds of things (my daughter does tarot and I’m too scared of it ) mainly because all my life since I can remember I always felt a presence around me Stronger when I was younger but always there. Now since my mom has been sick it’s been as intense as it was when I was little. I don’t believe in organized religion but I am a very spiritual person.
Some one in the paranormal sub said I should cross post here so here I am

So in January my mom’s cancer came back and was told 6months stage 4 metastatic lung cancer. Well now she is on hospice for the last 3 weeks and the decline has been noticeable. As she went on hospice the next day I saw a shadow in my room and it touched me and I felt chills. It was 3am. Then a couple days later I felt the presence again but it was in my doorway just standing there. Again 4am. Then a week later I was putting lotion on it was 9pm and there plain as day I saw a blurry person standing looking at me from my kitchen.
Nothing happened for a while and then as my mom started to decline little things happened.. I was working out it was 4am and my music kept pausing that never happens I out loud said “ok I get it you’re here and you’re not who I thought you were who are you?!” And plain as day in front of my I saw my aunts face smile ear to ear and disappear. It was 5am.
Then yesterday I was getting all my workout stuff together it was 4am and I thought my son was awake because I saw a child in the hallway (not abnormal for him he has erratic sleep) but I looked again and it was a girl short hair I did that look 3 time till she smiled and disappeared.. I told my mom and aunt and they said “that’s Joanne our sister” my mom had a sister who died at 7 in a house fire I’ve never seen a picture of her besides her baby photo and this was a kid like 6 or 7 I saw in my hall with shoulder length hair “they said yes that’s her” and my mom smiled ..
I came with all this to say what does this mean and why am I seeing all these people if she is the one dying? My aunt said it’s because our souls are connected but I don’t see that. Another family member said I have “the gift” like their aunt ruby did (they said she read the sticks (their words not mine I don’t know what that is). Personally I don’t know all I do know is it scares me and then I feel comfort. I’ve always stayed away from these kinds of things (my daughter does tarot and I’m too scared of it ) mainly because all my life since I can remember I always felt a presence around me Stronger when I was younger but always there. Now since my mom has been sick it’s been as intense as it was when I was little.
Some one in the paranormal sub said I should cross post here so here I am

So in January my moms cancer came back and was told 6months stage 4 metastatic lung cancer. Well now she is on hospice for the last 3 weeks and the decline has been noticeable. As she went on hospice the next day I saw a shadow in my room and it touched me and I felt chills. It was 3am. Then a couple days later I felt the presence again but it was in my doorway just standing there. Again 4am. Then a week later I was putting lotion on it was 9pm and there plain as day I saw a blurry person standing looking at me from my kitchen.
Nothing happened for a while and then as my mom started to decline little things happened.. I was working out it was 4am and my music kept pausing that never happens I out loud said “ok I get it you’re here and you’re not who I thought you were who are you?!” And plain as day in front of my I saw my aunts face smile ear to ear and disappear. It was 5am.
Then yesterday I was getting all my workout stuff together it was 4am and I thought my son was awake because I saw a child in the hallway (not abnormal for him he has erratic sleep) but I looked again and it was a girl short hair I did that look 3 time till she smiled and disappeared.. I told my mom and aunt and they said “that’s Joanne our sister” my mom had a sister who died at 7 in a house fire I’ve never seen a picture of her besides her baby photo and this was a kid like 6 or 7 I saw in my hall with shoulder length hair “they said yes that’s her” and my mom smiled ..
I came with all this to say what does this mean and why am I seeing all these people if she is the one dying? My aunt said it’s because our souls are connected but I don’t see that.

My mom went on hospice a couple weeks ago now. She and I with my husband and kids live here and none of the rest of our family. My aunt has come to help here and there and recently came for a week.
It’s been a big help but I just feel pulled in too many directions and now my kids are having to pick up the slack of the house and life because I have to focus on my mom.
While this is all par for the course I feel like I’m drowning and my husband has trouble with the weight and reality of all this. He kind of ignores it all and I will try to talk about it all and when I do he will hit a wall eventually and say “are you done yet?” Or “you have to stop thinking of this constantly”
Well my life has been turned upside down and I have dealt with death way too much in my life so sadly I’m all too well versed in this. My husband is not. His family never told him his grandfather that he was very close to had cancer and was dying one day he just went to the hospital they said “say goodbye and tell him you love him” and that’s his last memory and image so now reliving all this with my mom is hitting him hard. Grasping as straws that were never going to work for her (she had stage 4 lung cancer that spread everywhere) and saying “she has to stay out of the hospital it’s where people go to die”
I just needed to get this all out I just want to scream
I’m supposed to be there for everyone and be the caretaker wife mom homeschool clean my house and my moms balance it all oh and don’t bother us with your feelings because ours matter more
I feel like putting myself in a psych ward just to get a break for 72 hours and I wish I was kidding
I’m tired I’m depressed. My house shows it (not my moms I keep hers how she wants it to be)
I can’t keep doing this.
And hospice?! While I like her nurse I’m the nurse I’m doctor I’m the person doing it all .. it’s too much and I’m drowning
And yes before anyone says the normal “take time for yourself” I do that I wake up early I journal I yoga I workout you know what I don’t do anymore have 1 minute to myself during the day to just breathe I’m lucky to eat real meals these days and I just feel pure rage

My moms last wish is to go to Dollywood

She is on hospice and requires pain meds are we allowed to bring them in if we need to ?

Just like it says

My mom went on hospice Thursday and she had no arrangements made. My aunt came into town and is helping me but we have to go to the cemetery and funeral home and I’m just not ready for that today. I feel like I’m going to throw up from nerves. I’ve been mostly accepting of what’s happening to her this this is so big..

also as I’m going this for her doing it for my husband and I because I don’t want my kids to have to do this for us.

I just hate this

Just getting it out.. this has all been such a surreal experience my mom was diagnosed with endometrial cancer in Dec 2023. In Jan 2024 she got hysterectomy march 2024 started chemo and then was done Nov 2024.. she was in remission as of January 2025.. March 2025 was last scan and all was good.. then she had trouble breathing then it all went fast.. she thought it was bronchitis around Christmas then she was in the hospital 3 weeks she had fluid on her lung and on Jan 1st 2026 we were told stage 4 nsclc sub type adenocarcinoma. Her on oncologist warned us if it ever came back it would be aggressive.. and it did and it was. Mom chose palliative treatment and it was growing through treatment. They kept assuring us that it was growing before it would shrink but instead it metastasized everywhere liver pericardial rib brain .. mom chose Thursday hospice because she didn’t want full brain radiation at 71years old.

It’s all been so surreal because they told her 6months in the beginning and then said “well 6months with no treatment 6 months to a year or more with treatment” I knew better but she had hope so I was strong with her .. she has good and bad days now and bad are getting more..

just enjoying every moment now

My mom (71) with stage 4 lung cancer spread to her whole body and she decided on hospice. I’ve been on this journey with her for 2 years and now it’s slowly coming to an end and I range between numb acceptance and sadness. All normal emotions yes but it’s just so surreal.