u/No_Bunch4681

So I have this new friend . We've just started talking and we haven't even met yet . However we have great conversations and we really have a natural flow when talking.

They also do initiate .

They also have to drive to hangout .

But IV noticed that the last couple times atleast so far that we've planned to hangout something's come up.

First time , they didn't feel good basically.

Totally fine right.

Second time, they were having a very bad day it seemed and we're telling me about it and they forgot that we were talking about it that day a couple days earlier ..

so the second time nothing was set in stone yet it just was discussed that we would hang on that day ...

However when these things came up they didn't overdramatize it either like it was a lie . They just said it straight forward with very very little to no detail .

And then each time they also felt bad about it and immediately mentioned rescheduling.

And now just this past weekend we again talked about it . But no day . It was just mentioned and they said they could make some time even though it's busy for them ..

Again . There is no plan obviously so I don't care about that .

With all this, something very important to add is that they are really nice and have honestly been very kind to me. They have been someone I can talk to whenever I feel I need to .

And they are happy to listen to me go on and on about the same issues lol so that says a lot too.... I want to not overthink or jump to anything yet .... Everything so far that theyv shown me as who they are is great . And they do seem honest and very genuine.

Now , as well I didnt outright ask them if they had been honest with me those times. But I did say something along the lines of

"Not saying you weren't being honest those times, but I just want to be sure I'm not being lied to . I'm in no rush to hangout . But the last couple times we've tried something's happened. "

And they just said they understand .

I tend to overthink . And I don't want to just assume things cause that's not fair to them either .

I can see it both ways, that they were honest about all of it and it's only been a couple times it's happened and sometimes life does happen and you may need to keep replanning .

The other way, is they are just lying about it and for some reason still wanting to talk to me and stuff but not follow through and are infact flaking .

So I have this new friend . We've just started talking and we haven't even met yet . However we have great conversations and we really have a natural flow when talking.

They also do initiate .

They also have to drive to hangout .

But IV noticed that the last couple times atleast so far that we've planned to hangout something's come up.

First time , they didn't feel good basically.

Totally fine right.

Second time, they were having a very bad day it seemed and we're telling me about it and they forgot that we were talking about it that day a couple days earlier ..

so the second time nothing was set in stone yet it just was discussed that we would hang on that day ...

However when these things came up they didn't overdramatize it either like it was a lie . They just said it straight forward with very very little to no detail .

And then each time they also felt bad about it and immediately mentioned rescheduling.

And now just this past weekend we again talked about it . But no day . It was just mentioned and they said they could make some time even though it's busy for them ..

Again . There is no plan obviously so I don't care about that .

With all this, something very important to add is that they are really nice and have honestly been very kind to me. They have been someone I can talk to whenever I feel I need to .

And they are happy to listen to me go on and on about the same issues lol so that says a lot too.... I want to not overthink or jump to anything yet .... Everything so far that theyv shown me as who they are is great . And they do seem honest and very genuine.

Now , as well I didnt outright ask them if they had been honest with me those times. But I did say something along the lines of

"Not saying you weren't being honest those times, but I just want to be sure I'm not being lied to . I'm in no rush to hangout . But the last couple times we've tried something's happened. "

And they just said they understand .

I tend to overthink . And I don't want to just assume things cause that's not fair to them either .

I can see it both ways, that they were honest about all of it and it's only been a couple times it's happened and sometimes life does happen and you may need to keep replanning .

The other way, is they are just lying about it and for some reason still wanting to talk to me and stuff but not follow through and are infact flaking .