Maybe I’m putting too much pressure on myself ATM. But for SAHMs of 3 under 3. What do you do during the day? I don’t have twins, I have a 2 & 1/2 YO, a 1 & 1/2 YO & a 1 MO old. I breastfeed & struggle with finding what to do during the day solo parenting.
I just wanted to see if anyone could give tips on making friends based on some of the variables in my situation:
Prior to getting pregnant with my first or getting married. I moved with my now husband to his home. I am 30F born & raised IL and he is 34M born & raised FL. Within a month of moving down here I quit my job to work with him in his at home business. Then a month later we got pregnant with our first & married the day before I delivered. Fast forward to now, we have been together as a couple for almost three years. We have a 24 month old, 12 month & I’m 21 weeks pregnant with our third. And have moved three times. We have been in our current home for 2 years this fall. We plan to homeschool our kids and sport seasons havent lined up yet with his work schedule, our kids ages & my ability to move as 3 under 3 has taken a big toll on my body. Currently have a low laying placenta & hopeful it moves up with a marginal cord insertion. With all this being said, I’m an only child. My parents moved down to help me & live 45 minutes from us. His parents live 45 minutes from us but like to be once or twice a month visit for an hour grandparents. Some of the mom friends I initially made was after my first was born but was still pregnant with my second. Now I’m on my third & they still only have one & want me to go to their houses or meet them at public places which is really hard for me logistically & physically. My husband just spent $6600 to have a huge playground size playset built on our yard with a trampoline, swings, climbing wall, the works for our kids but to help with people wanting to come here. I have a whole playroom in what was our office to have something indoors. So we have been trying to make our house guest & kid friendly. But I’m still struggling to make friends or keep the few I’ve made. The most common occurrence is asking them to come here & they’re down to hang out but want it at their house or at a public place near their house. I don’t know how to make new friends or keep ones. I don’t know if I should just accept this is my phase in life because I’m about to have another NB again & it’s just the nature of motherhood. And try to hold out until they’re older & it’s not this hard.
Long story short: 2 under 2, about to have 3 under 3 in a few months. Moved to a new state & got married, got pregnant became a SAHM prior to even having my first. No friends here, only child, only family is parents that moved here, don’t know how to make new friends or keep them with the variables. Is motherhood especially during infant/toddler stage with multiples just lonely?
We have 2 under 2 & are about to have our third in a few months. We’ve only been married for 2 years, been together as a couple a total of 3. We decided together when we first found out I was pregnant with our first that I would become a SAHM. My husband has two businesses, one where he is a silent partner & the other he runs out of our house. I’m the caregiver, he is the provider. I do all the indoor chores, bills with caregiving, he works & pays for people to handle outside work (dog poop, lawn care, detailing the cars, etc). Since he works he doesnt do night shifts with the kids, it’s just me. My mom has come to help me as much as she could but I have asked her to step back more because I feel that with us about to have three, my husband & I need to be the team. Not my mom & me. We are getting more & more tense being around eachother & I worry how our marriage will survive. He got a boat right after I’ve had our second & that’s his escape. He’ll go out 1-2 times a week & is about to take his third boat trip in the year he’s had it. I try to be understanding about his time but he is done with my hormones, my emotional rollercoaster & irritability. He said to me tonight that if this continues he’s not going to want to be around me & I said I think he already feels that way & he snapped saying I make the most hurtful digs at him. I just dont know how our marriage is going to survive the third. He knows I have lots of hormones from the pregnancy but he said tonight he can’t fix my hormones & feels that we’re just in a cycle where we do the same fighting everyday. I dont know how we’re going to get past this. I say I need more help & he says I have unrealistic expectations because he works
I am currently 20 weeks pregnant with my third & when they’re here I will have 3 under 3. I feel at times like such a failure, because I have no effing clue what I’m doing. I have no clue how to manage tantrums. I feel like I never get to relax, my brain is scrambling. The thing that hurts me the most at the end of the day is thinking that my children may feel my overwhelmness & internalize it. I’m so terrified of my children feeling like how my dad made me feel growing up which is was a bother. But when they’re both going off & I feel like I just can’t fix it or make them happy I feel so stressed that I know my demeanor is not the mom they deserve. I know I have extra extra hormones from being pregnant too. But I just want my children to know that even though they need me & I can feel drained from being needed all day, I still would do anything for them. I just don’t know how to keep from breaking in the moments when I’m needed yet again & I catch a glimpse of myself in the mirror & am just disappointed that I don’t feel like I’m caring for myself anymore. I just don’t have anything else to give