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[21F] and [21M] in a relationship since 8 years

My boyfriend (21) and I (21) have been together for almost 8 years. He recently got selected for a bank job and was sent to a south city for his induction and training from June 29 to July 3. He reached there on June 28, and he'll be joining his actual posting in another north india city from July 6.

Before he left, everything between us was great. It was a sudden posting, so I even took medical leave from my college training to come back to our hometown and help him with shopping, documentation, packing, and everything else. I even filled out his registration form for the bank. We spent quality time together before he left, and his parents also requested that I be there for him emotionally since it was his first time going alone to another state.

The problem started after he reached for his training.

His training runs from around 9:00 AM to 5:15 PM, and he gets back to the hotel around 6 PM. He usually calls me for 2-3 minutes, says he'll call later, but most of the time that call never happens. His explanation is that his roommates and the other trainees are always in the room talking and hanging out, so he doesn't get privacy. Apart from a good morning message, we barely text either.

I completely understand that he's busy, making new friends, and adjusting to a new environment. I genuinely don't want to be the clingy or selfish girlfriend who expects constant attention. But at the same time, I can't help feeling hurt because I feel like even 10 minutes of uninterrupted time isn't too much to ask after a whole day.

What hurts me more is that when I tell him I felt bad that he didn't call after saying he would, he simply says he was busy with the other boys and assumes I'll understand. He doesn't really acknowledge how it made me feel or apologize.

I don't want to make this week all about me because I know this is a huge milestone in his career, and I'm genuinely proud of him. But I also feel emotionally neglected after putting so much effort into supporting him before he left.

Am I expecting too much, or is it reasonable to want a little more communication and reassurance during a week like this? I'd really appreciate honest opinions, especially from people who've gone through similar job training or long-distance situations.

Am I being unreasonable for feeling neglected during my boyfriend's bank training?

My boyfriend (21) and I (21 f) have been together for almost 7 years. He recently got selected for a bank job and was sent to Kochi for his induction and training from June 29 to July 3. He reached there on June 28, and he'll be joining his actual posting in Ghaziabad from July 6.

Before he left, everything between us was great. It was a sudden posting, so I even took medical leave from my college training to come back to our hometown and help him with shopping, documentation, packing, and everything else. I even filled out his registration form for the bank. We spent quality time together before he left, and his parents also requested that I be there for him emotionally since it was his first time going alone to another state.

The problem started after he reached Kochi.

His training runs from around 9:00 AM to 5:15 PM, and he gets back to the hotel around 6 PM. He usually calls me for 2-3 minutes, says he'll call later, but most of the time that call never happens. His explanation is that his roommates and the other trainees are always in the room talking and hanging out, so he doesn't get privacy. Apart from a good morning message, we barely text either.

I completely understand that he's busy, making new friends, and adjusting to a new environment. I genuinely don't want to be the clingy or selfish girlfriend who expects constant attention. But at the same time, I can't help feeling hurt because I feel like even 10 minutes of uninterrupted time isn't too much to ask after a whole day.

What hurts me more is that when I tell him I felt bad that he didn't call after saying he would, he simply says he was busy with the other boys and assumes I'll understand. He doesn't really acknowledge how it made me feel or apologize.

I don't want to make this week all about me because I know this is a huge milestone in his career, and I'm genuinely proud of him. But I also feel emotionally neglected after putting so much effort into supporting him before he left.

Am I expecting too much, or is it reasonable to want a little more communication and reassurance during a week like this? I'd really appreciate honest opinions, especially from people who've gone through similar job training or long-distance situations.

Am I being unreasonable for feeling neglected during my boyfriend's bank training?

My boyfriend (21) and I (21 f) have been together for almost 8 years. He recently got selected for a bank job and was sent to Kochi for his induction and training from June 29 to July 3. He reached there on June 28, and he'll be joining his actual posting in another city of North india from July 6.

Before he left, everything between us was great. It was a sudden posting, so I even took medical leave from my college training to come back to our hometown and help him with shopping, documentation, packing, and everything else. I even filled out his registration form for the bank. We spent quality time together before he left, and his parents also requested that I be there for him emotionally since it was his first time going alone to another state.

The problem started after he reached Kochi.

His training runs from around 9:00 AM to 5:15 PM, and he gets back to the hotel around 6 PM. He usually calls me for 2-3 minutes, says he'll call later, but most of the time that call never happens. His explanation is that his roommates and the other trainees are always in the room talking and hanging out, so he doesn't get privacy. Apart from a good morning message, we barely text either.

I completely understand that he's busy, making new friends, and adjusting to a new environment. I genuinely don't want to be the clingy or selfish girlfriend who expects constant attention. But at the same time, I can't help feeling hurt because I feel like even 10 minutes of uninterrupted time isn't too much to ask after a whole day.

What hurts me more is that when I tell him I felt bad that he didn't call after saying he would, he simply says he was busy with the other boys and assumes I'll understand. He doesn't really acknowledge how it made me feel or apologize.

I don't want to make this week all about me because I know this is a huge milestone in his career, and I'm genuinely proud of him. But I also feel emotionally neglected after putting so much effort into supporting him before he left.

Am I expecting too much, or is it reasonable to want a little more communication and reassurance during a week like this? I'd really appreciate honest opinions, especially from people who've gone through similar job training or long-distance situations.

I am sorry ots my first time asking for opinion..I refrain from doing so but it been very lonely for me.