u/No_Repeat_3857

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I (24F) moved countries a year and a half ago to be with my partner (23M). When i first moved here we were looking for an apartment but finding one as international students with petsand no job was nearly impossible. After a week of being homeless during winter, we found a two bedroom place. Because it was over our budget, we split it with afriend of my partner (30F) let's call him Micheal. Before moving in, Michael seemed perfect. He appeared clean and organized, but that was just an act. Once we moved in, we realized we were living with a literal toddler.

Michael literally holds the washing machine hostage by leaving wet clothes inside for days. If we move them, he complains. The damp clothes create a rancid smell that fills the home. His lack of hygiene is actually dangerous. I contracted Hpylori (for anyone who doesnt know it it is a bacteria spread through fecal oral contact) because he never washes his hands after using the bathroom. I spent months in extreme pain and lost significant weight. Even though I clean the kitchen every morning to feel safe eating, he trashes it immediately. He never cleans the toilet, the sink, or the floors. When he opens his bedroom door, a foul odor leaks out that even our guests have noticed.

Michael drinks almost daily. While I am trying to stay sober, his drinking affects us because he vomits in the kitchen or bathroom sinks instead of the toilet. He claims the toilet grosses him out. My partner has had to scoop vomit out of the drains because I physically cannot do it. One night, a drunk Michael broke our sliding toilet door. He blamed us for the damage. Since we have no insurance, we have used a curtain for a bathroom door for months. There is zero privacy.

Also Michael paid rent but refused to pay utility bills for six months. We rely on family help to survive, yet we ended up paying his share while he had a stable income. When he was laid off, he forced a fourth person to move into our tiny utility room to cover the costs. He lied to this new tenant about the bills, so now my partner and I are paying utilities for four people on a budget meant for two. We can barely afford food.

Last week, Michael left the country for a month with only one night of notice. He left all his belongings here, but we have no idea if he will send his rent money. The housing market is so bad and our finances are so low that we cannot afford to move or break the lease. I am at the point where I might drop out of school just to get a job and escape this nightmare. I just needed to vent about this impossible situation.

Throw away because i don't know if my roommate uses reddit.

I (24F) moved countries a year and a half ago to be with my partner (23M). When i first moved here we were looking for an apartment but finding one as international students with petsand no job was nearly impossible. After a week of being homeless during winter, we found a two bedroom place. Because it was over our budget, we split it with afriend of my partner (30F) let's call him Micheal. Before moving in, Michael seemed perfect. He appeared clean and organized, but that was just an act. Once we moved in, we realized we were living with a literal toddler.

Michael literally holds the washing machine hostage by leaving wet clothes inside for days. If we move them, he complains. The damp clothes create a rancid smell that fills the home. His lack of hygiene is actually dangerous. I contracted Hpylori (for anyone who doesnt know it it is a bacteria spread through fecal oral contact) because he never washes his hands after using the bathroom. I spent months in extreme pain and lost significant weight. Even though I clean the kitchen every morning to feel safe eating, he trashes it immediately. He never cleans the toilet, the sink, or the floors. When he opens his bedroom door, a foul odor leaks out that even our guests have noticed.

Michael drinks almost daily. While I am trying to stay sober, his drinking affects us because he vomits in the kitchen or bathroom sinks instead of the toilet. He claims the toilet grosses him out. My partner has had to scoop vomit out of the drains because I physically cannot do it. One night, a drunk Michael broke our sliding toilet door. He blamed us for the damage. Since we have no insurance, we have used a curtain for a bathroom door for months. There is zero privacy.

Also Michael paid rent but refused to pay utility bills for six months. We rely on family help to survive, yet we ended up paying his share while he had a stable income. When he was laid off, he forced a fourth person to move into our tiny utility room to cover the costs. He lied to this new tenant about the bills, so now my partner and I are paying utilities for four people on a budget meant for two. We can barely afford food.

Last week, Michael left the country for a month with only one night of notice. He left all his belongings here, but we have no idea if he will send his rent money. The housing market is so bad and our finances are so low that we cannot afford to move or break the lease. I am at the point where I might drop out of school just to get a job and escape this nightmare. I just needed to vent about this impossible situation.

First off, thank you to everyone who validated how insane my last post was. To recap, my roommate "Michael" (30F) holding the washing machine hostage, trashing the kitchen, throwing up in the sinks because the toilet "grossed him out," breaking our bathroom door, and dodging utilities. I contracted H. pylori from his lack of hygiene and almost dropped out of school from the stress. Then, he left the country for a month with one night's notice.
Well, rent day came while he was gone. He didn't send his share. We called him, and this man literally said, "Why would I pay rent when I'm not using the room? You guys figure it out."
So, we did. We packed up his stuff, deep cleaned his room (where we found used condoms left behind, absolutely disgusting and that is literally the least disgusting thing we found), and rented the room out to a new tenant so we wouldn't drown financially. Michael told us on the phone his girlfriend would come get his stuff, but she never showed, he said he will send someone else and send us his keys back and he never did.
Two weeks later, at 10 PM, Michael just... walked into our apartment using his key. He opened his old bedroom door, saw someone else living there, and coward yielded out. He just said he "had stuff to do" and left, saying we'd talk the next day.
The next day, he showed up completely drunk, holding beer (we are an alcohol free house since i am a recovering alcoholic) , and demanding his room back. He started screaming and lying, saying he never agreed to give up his room, and even claimed he tried to pay rent but my boyfriend refused the money! The new roommates almost got into a physical fight with him because of how disrespectful he was. I screamed at him too because I couldnt handle the lies. I was so angry I actually had to leave and go to a friend's house.
My boyfriend stayed. Michael finally agreed to take his deposit back, stay on our living room couch until he found a place, and said he'd come back that night to sleep. He never showed up.
The next morning, I was deep cleaning the house and we had friends over. Suddenly, my partner comes upstairs and says, "Michael called the police, they are coming up right now."
Michael told the cops we kicked him out and rented his room without permission. At first, I was so stressed I forgot about our message history and just told the cop everything saying we agreed verbally. The cop said since I didn't have immediate proof, he might have to take me and my boyfriend to jail. My heart was in my throat. But then, I dug through my phone and found the text proof.
The second the officer saw the proof, the tables completely turned. The cop turned to Michael, told him he was entirely in the wrong, and told him he had to leave. Michael immediately flipped into victim mode and started crying fake tears.
Even then, the audacity didn't stop. Michael tried to tell my boyfriend that he "betrayed" him. On the night he was drunk, he actually tried to claim I was the dirty one, trying to use my period against me and claiming I leave the toilet bloody this coming from the man who gave me a fecal oral bacterial infection!
When the cop told him to hand over the apartment keys, Michael refused. The officer literally had to rip the keys out of his hand.
In the end, we handed him his deposit and his packed bags right in front of the police officer. He is officially gone, we have his keys, and he can never come back and i hope i never see him again. We can fnially breathe, our new roommates are great, and we are finally safe in our own home

Throw away because i don't know if my roommate uses reddit.

I (24F) moved countries a year and a half ago to be with my partner (23M). When i first moved here we were looking for an apartment but finding one as international students with petsand no job was nearly impossible. After a week of being homeless during winter, we found a two bedroom place. Because it was over our budget, we split it with afriend of my partner (30F) let's call him Micheal. Before moving in, Michael seemed perfect. He appeared clean and organized, but that was just an act. Once we moved in, we realized we were living with a literal toddler.

Michael literally holds the washing machine hostage by leaving wet clothes inside for days. If we move them, he complains. The damp clothes create a rancid smell that fills the home. His lack of hygiene is actually dangerous. I contracted Hpylori (for anyone who doesnt know it it is a bacteria spread through fecal oral contact) because he never washes his hands after using the bathroom. I spent months in extreme pain and lost significant weight. Even though I clean the kitchen every morning to feel safe eating, he trashes it immediately. He never cleans the toilet, the sink, or the floors. When he opens his bedroom door, a foul odor leaks out that even our guests have noticed.

Michael drinks almost daily. While I am trying to stay sober, his drinking affects us because he vomits in the kitchen or bathroom sinks instead of the toilet. He claims the toilet grosses him out. My partner has had to scoop vomit out of the drains because I physically cannot do it. One night, a drunk Michael broke our sliding toilet door. He blamed us for the damage. Since we have no insurance, we have used a curtain for a bathroom door for months. There is zero privacy.

Also Michael paid rent but refused to pay utility bills for six months. We rely on family help to survive, yet we ended up paying his share while he had a stable income. When he was laid off, he forced a fourth person to move into our tiny utility room to cover the costs. He lied to this new tenant about the bills, so now my partner and I are paying utilities for four people on a budget meant for two. We can barely afford food.

Last week, Michael left the country for a month with only one night of notice. He left all his belongings here, but we have no idea if he will send his rent money. The housing market is so bad and our finances are so low that we cannot afford to move or break the lease. I am at the point where I might drop out of school just to get a job and escape this nightmare. I just needed to vent about this impossible situation.