u/No_Shoe_9527

I’ve been writing some stuff for a while ...

Years and years of chasing rabbits , through reading, seminars, courses, and just random thoughts at 3am , all got dumped in one document. 

And only after looking back to what happened in 2019 did it start falling into place 

I had moved to a better nation, gained entry into a good university, and started earning money which had once seemed to me a mere dream. But one month before all of the above? It had been a dream. 

Currently writing the 20th chapter. Just everything I wish someone had told me before

sending a few sample pages in the comments👇

Read it and tell me what you think , can’t wait for you to read it

I have realized very recently that sometimes working on yourself can actually take you away from the present moment .Like, sure habits/productivity routines etc help a whole lot of course! But I had gone through a period when I had been obsessively analyzing myself and working on every aspect of my personality and somehow I ended up becoming awkward in social settings!

While instead of just focusing on having a good conversation I would sit there worrying whether or not I sounded smart/interesting/confident etc.

And in actuality people do notice when someone is putting on an act and not just being themselves.

What helped me the most? Just to let go. Listen more, try less hard to make a good impression, focus more on putting other people at ease rather than always proving myself out.

Honestly I think being present takes priority in many cases over perfecting oneself.

Still trying to figure things out myself.

No one warns you that the hardest part isn’t making it. The hardest part is finishing it and realizing you don’t know how to get anyone to care. No audience, no platform, no trust among those who might buy.

I’m at that point now. It’s kind of frustrating that “just post more content” doesn’t really solve anything.

I’m curious if anyone else has experienced this and what really made a difference !!???

For me i’ve been working on a small guide lately around staying calm under pressure

mostly started it because i noticed stress completely ruins my focus once life gets chaotic and i start overthinking everything

trying to keep it practical/simple instead of sounding like generic motivational advice

still super early and honestly just figuring things out as i go

if anyone’s genuinely curious about it i’d be happy to send the link over : )

would love to hear what everyone else here is building too🙂👐

for most of my life i genuinely thought i was just bad at sticking to things.

i’d start something feeling super motivated

gym, journaling, reading, waking up early, whatever

and then like 2 weeks later i’d completely fall off again

i used to think it meant i was lazy or lacked discipline or something

but recently i started noticing i always quit around the same point

right when the excitement disappears but before any actual results show up

that stage where the habit suddenly feels boring and your brain starts going: “yeah this probably isn’t doing anything”

i genuinely thought that feeling meant the habit wasn’t working

now i think that’s just the part nobody talks about

everyone talks about motivation in the beginning or the results later on

but nobody really talks about the middle part where it just feels repetitive, pointless and kind of annoying 😭

what helped me most was making the habits ridiculously small

instead of “do a full workout” just “put the shoes on”

instead of “write 500 words” just “open the document”

cause once i showed up, doing the thing felt easier

another thing that helped was stopping myself from constantly asking: “is this even working yet?”

because i realized i was trying to measure progress way too early and every time i didn’t see instant results i’d wanna quit

i still mess up all the time btw but at least now when things start feeling hard or boring, i don’t automatically assume i’m failing anymore i kinda expect that phase now.

and weirdly that’s made it a lot easier to keep going through it

curious if anyone else has a specific point where they usually quit things too ? like is there a certain stage where you almost always fall off?