How do you guys manage living in a world where depth feels uncommon?
I genuinely wonder how people build social lives so easily.
Every single person has depth, pain, history, fears, contradictions… but most conversations stay at surface level. How do you guys handle that? Especially with family, where everyone knows each other for years but still rarely talks deeply.
How do you make real friends?
When I look back at my life, most of it feels like adjusting myself, pretending I’m okay with things I’m actually not okay with. Pretending to fit into environments that never really felt natural to me.
And another thing people barely ask questions anymore. Even a simple “why?” out of genuine curiosity somehow feels intimidating to others. Sometimes even giving attention, listening deeply, or trying to understand people feels like “too much” for them.
It’s hard finding people who naturally think deeply or want meaningful conversations without turning everything into small talk, judgment, or performance.