u/Noble_Team_7

Hello, I’m a 28M having my first outbreak of Perioral Dermatitis above my mouth. It was actually forming for weeks, and when I saw my dermatologist three weeks ago he thought it was an acne patch. So for three weeks I’ve been using an acne wash, and continuing all my products. Two days ago the rash really exploded, and basically from self diagnosing myself through research it’s so easy to now see it’s Perioral Dermatitis which I never knew of before.

I called my dermatologist and have the soonest appointment for four days from now.

Until then, I’ve been doing the “zero therapy” approach by using absolutely nothing. I also researched a cleanser, moisturizer, and sunscreen that people with persistent PD use and bought them, so I have them on hand, but am not using them.

I’m on day two of washing my face gently just twice a day, morning and night.

Today the entire area is completely enveloped in dry, white flaky skin. Here is my question/concern for right now, should I apply the TINIEST bit of moisturizer to not have it be this dry. Or continue with the zero therapy and just allow the area to flake this bad and be this dry….

Have had no skin issues really my entire life. I’m a 28M.

I had my first ever dermatology visit three weeks ago for actually hair loss questions and some moles on my back.

Haven’t even started taking anything for my hair. A few days before my appointment, above my mouth and below my nose I got a red patch with bumps.

FYI, I have a horrible dermatologist. However, I’ve called EVERY SINGLE clinic in network for my healthcare and this was the only one taking patients (go figure).

So a month ago the dermatologist takes a 0.5 second look at my face, says it’s acne, and gives me an acne face wash. I use that for two weeks twice a day, while also continuing my daily skincare routine of some Kiehls products.

All of a sudden two days ago, I really noticed how bad that area was getting. Took me all of 5 minutes researching online to find out I literally have by the definition Perioral Dermatitis. And OF COURSE using acne wash isn’t something you should do, let alone twice a day for three ish weeks. I am so unbelievably upset that all this time I was making it worse.

I am now on day two of going for the “zero” method of just washing with water. I researched a cleanser and moisturizer that people with PD have used with success just to have ready, but I’m only barely using the cleanser right now in the shower. I also got a new sunscreen that people with PD have had success with, haven’t used it yet though.

I now have a follow up dermatology appointment in 4 days from now, and hope this time around I can be serviced correctly.

Here is my current question, I have a trip coming up in a week with a girl I’m dating, and although I know putting anything on the area will not help my situation, I am willing to take that damage to “hide” the redness for two days. I currently am looking at two products being the Hero Cosmetics Rescue Balm Red Correct, or the Bubble Secret Agent Color Correcting Balm. Does anyone that has had PD or any redness type situation that I’m in used either of these? Or maybe have another product they would recommend?

Have had no skin issues really my entire life. I’m a 28M.

I had my first ever dermatology visit three weeks ago for actually hair loss questions and some moles on my back.

Haven’t even started taking anything for my hair. A few days before my appointment, above my mouth and below my nose I got a red patch with bumps.

FYI, I have a horrible dermatologist. However, I’ve called EVERY SINGLE clinic in network for my healthcare and this was the only one taking patients (go figure).

So a month ago the dermatologist takes a 0.5 second look at my face, says it’s acne, and gives me an acne face wash. I use that for two weeks twice a day, while also continuing my daily skincare routine of some Kiehls products.

All of a sudden two days ago, I really noticed how bad that area was getting. Took me all of 5 minutes researching online to find out I literally have by the definition Perioral Dermatitis. And OF COURSE using acne wash isn’t something you should do, let alone twice a day for three ish weeks. I am so unbelievably upset that all this time I was making it worse.

I am now on day two of going for the “zero” method of just washing with water. I researched a cleanser and moisturizer that people with PD have used with success just to have ready, but I’m only barely using the cleanser right now in the shower. I also got a new sunscreen that people with PD have had success with, haven’t used it yet though.

I now have a follow up dermatology appointment in 4 days from now, and hope this time around I can be serviced correctly.

Here is my current question, I have a trip coming up in a week with a girl I’m dating, and although I know putting anything on the area will not help my situation, I am willing to take that damage to “hide” the redness for two days. I currently am looking at two products being the Hero Cosmetics Rescue Balm Red Correct, or the Bubble Secret Agent Color Correcting Balm. Does anyone that has had PD or any redness type situation that I’m in used either of these? Or maybe have another product they would recommend?

Have had no skin issues really my entire life. I’m a 28M.

I had my first ever dermatology visit three weeks ago for actually hair loss questions and some moles on my back.

Haven’t even started taking anything for my hair. A few days before my appointment, above my mouth and below my nose I got a red patch with bumps.

FYI, I have a horrible dermatologist. However, I’ve called EVERY SINGLE clinic in network for my healthcare and this was the only one taking patients (go figure).

So a month ago the dermatologist takes a 0.5 second look at my face, says it’s acne, and gives me an acne face wash. I use that for two weeks twice a day, while also continuing my daily skincare routine of some Kiehls products.

All of a sudden two days ago, I really noticed how bad that area was getting. Took me all of 5 minutes researching online to find out I literally have by the definition Perioral Dermatitis. And OF COURSE using acne wash isn’t something you should do, let alone twice a day for three ish weeks. I am so unbelievably upset that all this time I was making it worse.

I am now on day two of going for the “zero” method of just washing with water. I researched a cleanser and moisturizer that people with PD have used with success just to have ready, but I’m only barely using the cleanser right now in the shower. I also got a new sunscreen that people with PD have had success with, haven’t used it yet though.

I now have a follow up dermatology appointment in 4 days from now, and hope this time around I can be serviced correctly.

Here is my current question, I have a trip coming up in a week with a girl I’m dating, and although I know putting anything on the area will not help my situation, I am willing to take that damage to “hide” the redness for two days. I currently am looking at two products being the Hero Cosmetics Rescue Balm Red Correct, or the Bubble Secret Agent Color Correcting Balm. Does anyone that has had PD or any redness type situation that I’m in used either of these? Or maybe have another product they would recommend?

Hello,

I am learning Spanish as basically a beginner. Currently I study around 2 hours per day, and am still at the very very beginner stages.

Currently, I am dating a girl who is Latina and speaks English as her primary, and knows just a bit of Spanish.

When flirting with her, I like to use sometimes very basic phrases. A word I’ve used with her that I want to make sure I’m using correctly is “Guapa”.

My intent is to call her “cutie” or “pretty girl”. At first I saw there are three options for this category being “Hermosa”, “Preciosa”, and “Guapa”.

From my initial research, Hermosa and Preciosa more aline with calling someone beautiful. And that term is a bit stronger than what I want to use currently.

So I saw that Guapa seems to be slightly more casual and flirty to just call her pretty girl or cutie. But all translators say “Guapa” means beautiful.

So in essence, if I say “Buenas Noches Guapa”, how is this coming across? Any changes I should make?

Hi, 28M, trying not to overplay or underplay this, just trying to be natural about how this progresses. But I met recently who I hope (and see how I used the word hope, that can change, but at the moment it’s a hope) my future wife.

We have hit things off more than I ever thought I could with another person.

I wanted to see if anyone out there has experience, stories, feedback, etc. on when they felt it was “time” or the right moment to ask someone to be their girlfriend. I will admit, I’m feeling myself wanting to do that on a faster timeline than may be generally accepted. So this post is an attempt to get other perspectives.

Hello, 28M, very active dater, so on the topic this post is going to touch on, I actually have a lot of experience. But what I don’t have, is opinions and experience from others.

To get down to brass tacks since this is anonymous (I’m going to be blunt so don’t think I’m like trying to toot my horn here, just wanted to be straight up), I am what I would hope is a great guy to meet. I’m 6’2”, lean and really in shape, really take care of my hygiene and appearance, successful in career and my job title, and I have noticed compared to many that my communication style is really good as I’m just confident, smooth, and can be really engaging with direct eye contact, great listening, and always moving a conversation along. I try to treat women with so much respect, they don’t touch door handles, I’m thoughtful with hand prepared flower bouquets, always pay, always take people somewhere fun, etc.

So getting first dates with a lot of really awesome girls isn’t an issue for me, and going on dates after that happens a good amount to.

Okay cool. Where my issue lies, is the fact that I have an ethical or moral compass whatever you want to call it, where my anxiety goes through the fucking roof if I’m “dating around”, like going on dates with different girls all within the same time period.

I want to find my forever partner really badly, not rush, but I want to always be putting myself out there and meeting people to give myself that chance. So I have conflicting values where I don’t like “dating around” but I also always want to have myself out there.

This brings us to today and I’ll use my current situation as the example, and I can take feedback to apply it more generally.

I have multiple girls that want to meet. Okay cool, I go on these dates, and honestly most of the time they end on the first date, either because I communicate that I’m not interested in a second date, or they do.

But you know, a good handful continue. Right now I’m going on 2nd, 3rd, 4th ish dates with like three girls. What is the ethical cut off point where I progress to a level with just one of them, that I NEED to then cut it off with the rest? I’m having such a hard time determining mentally what line to draw for that? To be clear, I’m very intentional with my time, and with others’ time, so anyone I go on dates with and continue to talk with, I’m serious about. Now after knowing people for a week or two, do I know if they are the one? Heck no. Thus why I continue to go on dates with them all. But at the same time, using Hinge, I can’t just like focus on one girl constantly since the influx of people wanting to meet is a lot. And I’ve been through some nasty situationships recently where I focused on just one girl, it took months away from my life, all to just end from her decision. So now I feel like putting all my eggs in one basket early on can be detrimental to my own time as well. And lastly, out of the three girls I’m sort of continuing to talk with, there is one that I like way more than the other two… however is that just honeymoon feelings? Is that right there reason enough to stop talking to everyone else? That’s a hard topic for me to navigate, because it feels dumb to say “yeah I like this one better out of the three so far, even though I practically don’t know a thing about any of them, so let me just cut the others off”.

Any helpful experiences with just how to handle being a good person in a dating world where at times you can maybe be talking to multiple people early on?