u/Nonjudgefocusaware

I have a manager who makes fun of people with mental health problems. She was laughing when a past employee tried to take him own life and I got a text where she was laughing at a customer calling her crazy. Is that enough evidence to warrant something with the equal opportunity employment commission? I told her in the past I have a disability but did not tell her it was mental health related. But I can’t help but find her behavior extremely off putting and wrong.

I am on the spectrum and the assistant managers always have me on the cash register dealing with a ton of customers. I asked for more hours away from the register but it seems like a task nobody wants and I only spend an hour away from the register each week. For those of you on the spectrum or with a mental health diagnosis, did bringing in a doctor’s note at work for getting half of the time away from the register and stocking shelves instead working the register and did your manager accommodate your needs or did they reject the note and make you work the register? Or did the company decide to fire you once they found you were disabled and say they were letting you go for reasons not related to your disability shortly after you disclosed you needed accommodations?

I am curious what you all do to get multiple perspectives on the same topic. I am used to only getting feedback from one person for most of my life. However, as time goes on I am seeing how dbt and getting multiple perspectives is the best way to figure out what decision I should make. I see this more and more as time goes on that when I ask a lot of people and get feedback from many of them I make better decisions than I could if I just listened to one person. Has this rang true in your own lives? Has dbt helped you seek support from multiple people instead of one and has that helped your personal decision making as well?

I’ve been on several antipsychotics including saphris, zyprexa, abilify, risperodine etc. and with each medication ive noticed I have tarditive dykanisia where my eyes look upward uncontrollably for hours at a time at work. I know it’s a rare side effect, but I get this side effect. I think it’s more specifically called oculargyric crises.

The only medication I’ve taken that does not cause oculargyric crises is seroquel and clonazipine. I’m on 100mg of seroquel now and I’ve had to lower it to 50 mg because it causes me to be irritable and more rageful when I increase the dose to 100 mg. But I don’t feel like 50 mg of seroquel is enough. And I also cannot take clonazipine since I don’t want to become addicted to it and addiction runs in my family. I also found myself feeling addicted and taking extra when I was on it.

How do I find an antipsychotic that doesn’t cause oculargyric crises (where I look at the ceiling for hours at a time uncontrollably at work)? It’s a really troubling side effect and I want to be able to take these drugs because psychosis runs in my family, but I need to find one without the oculargyric crisis side effect and also one that doesn’t increase my irritability and rage the way seroquel does. I feel like I’ve tried every 2nd generation antipsychotic out there. Please help.

I am unsure I can get another position after my current job because of the economy and my really checkered and spotty employment record. So I often try to make everyone at work happy and do whatever they say regardless of needing a break sometimes and ignoring gossiping and people not doing their work. I tend to also do more work than others to avoid small talk with my coworkers since they gossip a lot and can get pretty nasty about others. Last night my coworker was making fun of a past coworker who was on the spectrum who tried to kill himself and it upset me but I didn’t say anything. But it made me sad for myself that I work with people who have such a huge stigma towards the mentally ill and autistic. I don’t want to file a complaint to the ethics line since I have been retaliated at work for doing so. It’s best to just focus on me and be grateful for the good aspects of work rather than focus on my toxic manager.

How do I stand up for myself at work when I don’t think I could get another position after this and since I think I may be undiagnosed and on the spectrum so maybe I need to just accept the abuse if this is all I can get and also since beggars can’t be choosers. Maybe I need to just stay in those role for a prolonged time and see it as temporary necessary pain to further opportunities that may not be as painful. But I don’t think I can quit this job no matter how bad things are with coworkers if I want to get another assistant manager job at a better company. Curious what you all would do?